In this episode the hosts chat with licensed counselor Alyssa Scarano about generational and childhood trauma, the roles women inherit (people-pleaser, over-functioner, compliant daughter), and how those patterns show up in midlife.

They share real stories (including a cathartic rage-room moment), practical guidance on setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and reclaiming identity, plus tips like slowing down, asking “what am I saying yes to?”, and practicing saying no.

Listeners also learn about Alyssa’s whole-person therapy approach and a free 21-day email challenge to build healthier boundaries.

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🍸☕ What We Were Drinking:

🍷 Freakshow Cabernet

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Forget the tired trope that “50 is the new 30.” In this unapologetically honest episode, Karen and Lisa are here to tell you—it’s better. Way better. We’re diving into why midlife women are having a full-blown renaissance, ditching outdated expectations, reclaiming their power, and living life on their own damn terms. From societal shifts to stealth-mode grandmas, zero fucks given, and the rise of reinvention, we’re celebrating what it means to thrive at 50 and beyond. If you're a woman navigating midlife, wondering what’s next?—this episode will remind you that the best chapters might just be ahead.

🍸☕What We Were Drinking:

Tejava

I’m not putting a link to Coke Zero here. I mean, c’mon!

Sparkle Hops Acai

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What if the things you’ve brushed off as “just stress” or “mom guilt” are actually unprocessed trauma? In this powerful episode of Drinks With the Girls, Karen and Lisa sit down with therapist and trauma expert Alex Casillas to unpack the emotional baggage many women in midlife have been unknowingly carrying for decades. From survival mode and dissociation to why so many women lose themselves in caregiving roles, this candid conversation breaks down trauma in a way that feels human, relatable, and empowering. Whether you’ve been through something “big” or just feel off, this episode offers real talk, validation, and healing insights for women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s.

Topics we cover:

Perfect for listeners who feel overwhelmed, underseen, or like they’ve lost themselves along the way. You’re not broken. You’re just ready to heal.

Alex Casillas, LCSW

Alejandra Casillas is a cisgender Latina/Chicana woman, a proud mother of two, a wife, and a therapist. Her approach to therapy is deeply informed by her lived experience and the intergenerational trauma she carries—rooted in colonialism, migration, the erasure of her Indigenous ancestry, patriarchy, and gender-based violence. And yet, she also carries the strength of her ancestors, the resilience of the women who came before her, and the wisdom of community. She practices from an anti-oppression and Liberation Psychology lens, integrating a variety of modalities—EMDR, Somatic Therapy, Narrative Therapy, IFS, Neurofeedback, CBT, and DBT. These aren’t just tools she's studied—they’re ones she's relied on in her own healing. She see each person as whole and worthy, and she's honored to walk alongside them as they reclaim their stories.

🍸☕What We Were Drinking:

Arbonne Energy Fizz & Mind Health

Sparkle Hops

Soleil Sparkling Water

Hibiscus Tea

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Life in the so-called Sandwich Generation doesn’t quite capture the pressure many of us feel in midlife. That’s why we call it the Panini Generation—because we’re not just layered between responsibilities, we’re pressed from every direction.

In this episode of Drinks With the Girls, we dig into what it means to be squeezed between caring for children, sustaining marriages, managing demanding careers, and supporting aging parents—all at the same time. We open up about the complicated dynamics of helping our fathers, the emotional strain of setting boundaries with parents, and the impossible expectation to hold everything together without breaking down ourselves.

This conversation is raw, funny at times, and painfully relatable. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by caregiving, stretched thin by family obligations, or caught in the relentless grind of midlife, this one’s for you. Together we share hard-won insights, a little humor, and some real talk about protecting your energy and finding resilience in the middle of it all.

🍸☕What We Were Drinking:

Ketel One BotanicalPeach & Orange Blossom Vodka Spritz

Sanzo Sparkling Water - Lychee

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They said sex gets boring after 40 — they lied. In this unapologetically honest episode of Drinks With the Girls, we’re breaking down what really happens to your sex life in midlife. From hormone shifts and body confidence to redefining pleasure on your own terms, we’re talking about how to make intimacy not just good, but mind-blowing.

Whether you’re navigating menopause, rekindling the spark in a long-term relationship, or exploring your desires in new ways, we’ll help you ditch outdated rules, laugh at the awkward bits, and discover why the best sex of your life might be happening right now.

Grab your drink, pull up a chair, and join the conversation — because we’re done whispering about what we really want.

🍸☕What We Were Drinking:

Hop Wtr - Peach

Sanzo Sparkling Water - Lychee

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GLP-1s like semaglutide are everywhere—from Oprah’s special to TikTok trends—but what’s the real story behind the shot? Lisa opens up about her personal experience with compounded semaglutide, sharing the good, the gross, and the emotionally complicated parts of using a GLP-1 medication in midlife.

Karen and Lisa dig into the cultural shame around weight, the privilege baked into access, and why it’s time we stop calling it “cheating” when women use tools to reclaim their health. From food noise to dosage mishaps (yep, she overdosed herself), this is the unfiltered conversation about semaglutide that the internet needs—and midlife women deserve.

In this episode:

GLP-1s and how they actually work

Lisa’s path from resistance to results

The truth about side effects and blood sugar

Why shame has no place in women’s health

Access, equity, and the pharmacy black market

This one’s for anyone who’s ever looked in the mirror and thought, Wait… who even is this?

🍸☕What We Were Drinking:

Popwell Prebiotic Soda

Mortal Kombucha

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Forget everything you’ve been told about the “midlife crisis.” In this episode of Drinks with the Girls, Karen and Lisa are calling BS on outdated, gendered labels and reclaiming midlife as a time of powerful transformation. From societal expectations to personal reinvention, we unpack why this chapter isn't a breakdown — it’s a breakthrough.

Tune in for real talk on:

Why the term midlife crisis is harmful and outdated

How women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond are rediscovering themselves

The impact of good girl conditioning, boundaries, and menopause

Reframing midlife as a renaissance — or your “second spring”

Celebrity reinventions and role models who are thriving in midlife

With cocktails, candid stories, and a whole lot of heart, we’re redefining what it means to age with confidence, clarity, and zero apologies.

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When it’s 92 degrees and even the thought of turning on the stove feels like too much, what’s for dinner?

In this laugh-out-loud and totally relatable episode, Karen and Lisa are joined once again by fan favorite Lisa Potter to talk real-life summer cooking. We're dishing up no-drama dinner ideas, lazy-girl meal hacks, and giving you full permission to make cereal, charcuterie boards, or rotisserie chicken your go-to strategy when it’s just too hot to care.

Whether you're feeding kids, partners, or just yourself, this episode serves up practical tips and funny midlife confessions that’ll make you feel seen — and a lot less guilty about skipping the oven.

🔥 What we cover:

Low-effort summer dinner ideas

Why no one needs to be a hero in the kitchen

The emotional load of mealtime (and how to drop it)

Remembering we’re not just feeding mouths — we’re feeding lives

So grab a glass of something cold and join us for a conversation that feels like chatting with your favorite girlfriends — because that’s exactly what it is.

🎧Show Notes

Guest: Lisa Potter

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What if the “midlife crisis” was actually the beginning of your most powerful transformation yet? This week, Karen and Lisa are joined by Guest Amanda Younts—educator-turned-coach, speaker, podcaster, and the original Midlife Catalyst—to talk about why change in midlife isn’t a breakdown… it’s a breakthrough.

From ditching autopilot and rewriting outdated identity scripts to navigating grief, sobriety, and the sacred art of permission, this conversation dives deep into the messy, beautiful reality of midlife reinvention.

Inside this episode:

How Amanda redefined her identity after leaving a high-pressure career

Why “midlife crisis” is a tired, unhelpful label—and what to call it instead

The truth about burnout, self-care, and reclaiming joy

How to make bold changes even when the people around you don’t get it

Giving yourself permission to want more—and actually go after it

Whether you're standing at a crossroads or just craving more meaning in this season of life, this episode will speak to your soul. It's a must-listen for anyone ready to stop running on autopilot and start becoming who they were always meant to be.

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One year, 50+ episodes, and a whole lot of laughs, real talk, and midlife magic! In this anniversary special, Karen and Lisa pull back the curtain on their first year of Drinks With the Girls—sharing their biggest wins, hilarious fails, most impactful episodes, and the behind-the-scenes chaos of building a podcast that resonates with women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. They dish on the power of friendship, consistency, and showing up for yourselves and your listeners—even when life gets messy. If you’ve ever wondered what it really takes to keep the mic hot, this episode’s your juicy peek behind the scenes. 🥂

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