The path from self-destruction to self-love isn’t a straight line. Often when we commit to a kinder relationship with ourselves, we falter and self-sabotage and that leads to guilt and shame, which leads to more self-sabotage.

But shame will never fuel a real transformation.

What if we could interrupt this spiral with something more friendly? What if we could tap into even the tiniest amount of self-love?

Most people don’t realize that shame is actually a fuel, and our society conditions us to feed our souls that way, but it doesn’t work. Like eating junk food everyday, you get a certain type of nourishment, but it doesn’t actually sustain us. That’s why we’re starved for a sense of our own worthiness, and try to fill our reservoir with all the wrong things.

When we love ourselves through self-sabotage, we stop getting fuel from beating ourselves up and start to mend the hole inside and fill our reservoir with self-love.

How do we unlearn self-destructive behaviors and tap into even the slightest sense of self-love? In this episode, we talk about how to increase our capacity for self-loving actions. 

 

Things You’ll Learn In This Episode

Create a new model of wholeness

If we grew up in environments where people were rewarded for concealing their truth, how do we learn to honor and express how we feel? 

Adrenaline vs. presence 

Shame and guilt might not feel good, but many of us are fueled by them. When we make a mistake, how can we get out of adrenaline and into presence?

Drops of love

If we’ve always struggled with self-sabotage, it’s hard to quickly shift to self-love. Where can we source it before we learn to become our own source?

 

About Your Hosts

Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.

Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.