Dumb Smart Mums

This season I wanted to introduce some new segments and styles of content, because this pod is a space for so much more than the main episodes (but they aren't going anywhere, don't worry, they are my lifelong love). So here is a new segment. Answering Burning Questions is a safe space where we can all come together with good faith and compassion, and ask and answer questions that we usually feel are too awkward or difficult to ask!

When I floated this idea to my friend Kate Zame (@katezameslt) she could not have been more on board with the idea. It takes vulnerability and generosity to put yourself in this space, and she did it willingly. She knew how valuable this resource would be. Kate and Kelly are just the most beautiful humans and I am unbelievably grateful to them for trusting me with their taonga of a story. 

So, here are some listener submitted questions that Kate took the time to answer with honesty, clarity, and enthusiasm. If you're wanting to submit questions for our next guest of this segment, keep an eye on my social media to know how/where to do that!

Resources mentioned today:

• EAP services to access counselling through your employer
• Proud Conception - NZ podcast about queer families and their ways of creating a family
• Children's books: Love Makes a Family by Sophie Beer, Making A Baby: An Inclusive Guide to How Every Family Begins by Rachel Greener, The Pirate Mums by Jodie Lancet-Grant, The Bravest Knight Who Ever Lived by Daniel Errico.

Please, please do share this episode with friends or on your socials. I would love for this episode to get into the ears of those who need to hear it. If there is someone else you would like on the next episode of Answering Burning Questions, flick me a message on my socials!

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This episode feels like a really special one. It's one that I have been fostering for a long time, mainly because I wanted to make sure that Kate and her wife Kelly felt confident in my motivations and ensuring that they knew I was only approaching this with the most care and reverence. Kate Zame is a badass SLT, and that's how you might have come across her work (and, valid, cos her work is phenom). But, another reason why Kate is so cool is because she has a really unique experience of her journey to parenthood. I don't want to give too much away in the show notes, but this is an episode that everyone needs to listen to. This isn't just for the queer community, this isn't just for allies, it's for everyone. I also just want to brag for a second here, cos Kate is also my friend, and she's exactly the kind of incredible friend you'd expect. I am so excited to share her with the world, and for all of you to fall in love with her too. 

Content forecast: There is mention of difficult births towards the end of question one.

There were a bunch of resources mentioned in this episode, so here they are! (Not linked, sorry, but written down!): 

• EAP services to access counselling through your employer
• HER (the app for queer women)
• Love Makes a Family, a new website for those seeking donor materials or surrogates 
• Pride Angels, same as above with focus on finding LGBTQIA+ families those arrangements
• Proud Conception - NZ podcast about queer families and their ways of creating a family
• Hapu Helpers, in home conception kits 

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AS IF WE DIDN'T LOVE HER ENOUGH ALREADY! Everyone's fave doctor, Morgan Edwards is back to answer some listener submitted questions! 

As with everything Morgan does, she answered them with grace, kindness, generosity, and wisdom. 

Content forecast: there is mention of sexual assault in the final question, so please look after yourself.

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Ohhhhh it feels good to be back. 

I'm so thrilled to be back with you all, and with Dr Morgan Edwards as my first guest, no less! I feel so honoured to have had Morgan on the pod with me. She is just an incredible wahine. I so admire her ability to stand on her ten toes about the things she believes in, even when she's copping flack for it. I really loved being able to hear more on her parenting journey, because usually what we see is the incredible health communication skills!

If you love this episode, please share it with some friends! We have some huge plans for season 2 (we because there's three of us now!!) and I want to bring lots of friends on board to listen along! 

There were so many announcements at the start of the pod, but the only important one is that I'm going to be at the march across the bridge for Palestine THIS SATURDAY SEPTEMBER 13!! If you don't have a group to go with, please send me a message! You can join my group of cool mums marching for Palestine! Please don't feel nervous, we'll be there! 

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I can't wait to show you everything I have in store for this season. We're just getting started, whānau!

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Hey, heeeeey! It's the season one finale!! THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR BEING HERE FOR THIS LONG I LOVE YA SO DAMN MUCH! 

This episode is with my brother-in-law Hayden Donnell. He is the father of my sweet, sweet nephew and niece (whose voices you have all become very familiar with in my pod jingle) and our spouses are siblings. You will very quickly learn that Hayden and I have a bit of an unhinged dynamic, but that's why I knew it needed to be on the pod! And what a better way to wrap up season one than to bring you a bit of unhinge and chaos. Is it a bit less serious than my normal episodes? Yeah. Is it still fantastic? Absolutely. 

Hayden isn't a public figure, but his work is fantastic. You'll find lots of his writing on the Spinoff, and you can find his TV series Get it to Te Papa on the Spinoff too! If you like his vibe, definitely check out his work cos you'll love that too. 

A HUGE THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO DONATED TO MY GAZA FUNDRAISER! I thank you all personally in the intro today, and I will never stop being grateful. I can't wait to figure out the full total for donations and update everyone. 

As per usual, please do all the things, like/comment/rate/review/subscribe/share etc. especially with me going on my break it would be really helpful to keep momentum going for people to find the pod. 

Also, if you're gonna miss me while I'm gone, I'm not gonna be gone off the internet! Just not posting episodes for a few weeks. SO FOLLOW ME ON MY SOCIALS!! 

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OKAY GUYS MUMMY'S GOING AWAY FOR A LITTLE BIT BUT SHE ALWAYS COMES BACK RIGHT? OKAY, BE GOOD FOR THE BABYSITTER. 

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Kia ora ano! 

Welcome back to another episode of WDYPLT, our penultimate episode of Season 1! (But don't worry, we've already got heaps of good stuff cooking for season 2!!) This week on the pod I was joined by the one-of-a-kind, OG influencer, good vibes, keeping it real, not afraid to speak up Rebecca J Keil!! 

Rebecca (@rebeccajkeil) is such a cooool lady. She keeps it so real, and is so self-aware, but isn't a dick! She's fun, and makes you feel like her best friend. She also has a brain. She is smart, y'all. The way she talks about her privilege, her choices, her values, her decisions, she is so considered and thoughtful. 

As I say in the intro, I chose to keep her sixth question in the main episode this week because I just think it's an answer that every single person needs to hear, particularly every New Zealander. If you hear Rebecca's sixth question and realise you'd like to hear other people's secret sixth questions, you can subscribe to my substack at any time! If you subscribe before the end of July 100% of your money will go to Gaza relief! You'll even get to find out EARLY which family member is going to be interviewed in the SEASON 1 FINALE EPISODE!

Speaking of Gaza relief, stream, stream, stream so we can get the maximum amount of money donated to mutual aid funds! 

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OOOKAAAAYYYY THAT'S ALL

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Ohhhh, you guys, she's a gem, she's a gem! Caylin Dickson from Pēpi & Parent is here to answer and debunk alllll things baby sleep. 

She carefully and considerately answers 5 listener submitted questions, and as she is doing so I develop a massive crush on her because she is just so wonderful! 

Thank you SO much Caylin, for lending your expertise to the WDYPLT listener whānau, we are so grateful. 

If you would like to find out more about Caylin and her services this is her website, and this is her instagram! I highly, highly recommend Caylin. She is so gentle and kind and doesn't expect you to go against how you naturally want to respond to your child's cues! We love that in the parenting space!

Our next expert episode is going to be with a speech/language therapist, so keep an eye out on my instagram for the link to ask any questions you might have! 

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Who's that giiiiiiiirl, it's Cass! 

Cassidy Skelton (@cassidyskelton), the lady, the myth, the legend joins me this week for an extra fun, extra chaos chat.

I mush so much about Cass in the intro and my pre-pod ramble so there isn't too much more I need to say here, but I was really thrilled to get the opportunity to sit down with my old pal and have a meaningful conversation about our parenting journey. Our younger selves would be so damn proud of us. The world is better for having Cassidy Skelton. Seeing her wee family thrive just makes me heart swell. 

In the introduction I speak about how 100% of my earnings from the podcast from the month of July will be going to Gaza Aid. If you want to contribute to that, listen to the pod! 

That's all for this week!! 

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Blow me down, we've got a couple! It has been on my wishlist for a wee while now to have a couple speaking on their parenting experience together, and we got that this week with Britt and MJ Meafou! 

You may know MJ as @dadbehaviour on instagram. He shares his life as a Dad on there, but also has created a stroller club for dads in Christchurch! An opportunity for Dads to get together with their kids and other Dads and catch up. MJ is passionate about creating community for Dads in the postpartum stage, the way Mums are so good at doing. 

MJ and Britt are two golden humans, it is just evident that they are kind to their core, passionate about their mahi, and deeply committed to giving Arthur and Mimi the very best childhood they can. MORE COUPLES LIKE THIS PLS! 

You can find all the details of MJ's work and info about upcoming events he is running for Dads on his instagram page @dadbehaviour 

Keeping it short today, because, as I say in the ep, I am deep in the midst of grieving my beloved Grandfather. Thank you for all the kindness and love that has been shown to me since telling the internet about his passing. 

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Abby Bridgeman (@theearlydaysnewzealand), y'all. She has quickly become one of my favourite people, and I am really grateful to this podcast for introducing me to her. 

She wears so many hats: nurse, mum, neurodivergent, parenting educator, total badass, and we get into most of them on the pod! 

I could yap on for a long time about how much I appreciate and value her education and her friendship, but I think it's pretty evident in the episode. I am so grateful to her for her vulnerability and trusting me to share her story on this platform. She really goes there and that is what makes this podcast good. I can only share as much as the guest shares. And Abby shared. 

If you're a parent looking for some evidence-based, practical, actually helpful, easy to understand, calm down your anxieties, parenting education, Abby is ya gal. 

I talk about it in the episode, but a heads up that in a month's time there will a month break from posting podcast episodes as the first season is 20 episodes. When I return for season 2, I will be posting episodes fortnightly. Just looking ahead to going back to full time work, I'm having to shift things to make it alllll a little bit workable. Hopefully eventually I will be able to go down to part time employment and part time with the podcast and return to weekly posting, but that's still a while away! I hope you all understand that I'm doing this to avoid burnout and make sure that I can keep posting on a consistent schedule. 

While you're here, why not do all the things?! Follow, like, subscribe, rate, review, share. Or maybe do just ONE of the things? The stats show me that lots of people who listen to the pod aren't actually subscribed, which, wild! So go ahead and save yourself having to search for the pod, and just click subscribe. 

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