Dumb Smart Mums

Haaaaaayyyyyooooo! 

Welcome back for another week! I'm so glad you're here! 

You have found this podcast while I am in the depths of norovirus and coming to you live from my bed. Everything hurts, chills, shakes, fever, headache. It's a whole thing. Which is WHY you will hear a weird automated intro from me this week. It's my words, but I truly did not have the strength to get out of bed and get my microphone to record the introduction. So, THIS was my solution. I got a bit silly with it sorry, I'm blaming sickness delirium. 

The episode this week is with Ben Boyce, which, what the actual heck?! Ben is someone I have grown up watching on TV and now listen to on the Hits breakfast show, and the fact that he was willing to take the time out to talk to me about parenting is just testament to what a cool guy he is. Ben and his wife Amanda have two teenage daughters, Sienna and Indie, but you're probably already familiar because Ben, Sienna and Indie are going all sorts of viral across the internet with their comedy content! Ben and Sienna also have a podcast called "When I Grow Up" which you can listen to here! 

While you're here, why not do all the things?! Follow, like, subscribe, rate, review, share. Or maybe do just ONE of the things? The stats show me that lots of people who listen to the pod aren't actually subscribed, which, wild! So go ahead and save yourself having to search for the pod, and just click subscribe. 

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It's episode 2 of our bonus EXPERT episodes! If you don't know what these are, listeners from the WDYPLT community have the opportunity to submit questions to parenting-adjacent experts for them to be answered. This week Shrenika has 5 questions that she answers from listeners in the WDYPLT community, and she answers them beautifully! 

If you want to find Shrenika this is her website and this is her instagram! If you're thinking about getting some first aid knowledge, Shrenika is your gal! As I say in the episode, I have done a session with her and found it so totally helpful. 

Our next expert episode is with Caylin from Pepi and Parent about all things baby/toddler/child sleep! If you have a question you'd like to ask her the submission form is here

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This week I had the joy of sitting down and speaking with Hannah Porter AKA the owner of Bear and Moo NZ! Bear and Moo obviously have a special place in my heart after they became the first ever sponsor of WDYPLT. It was absolutely lovely hearing about Hannah's journey to becoming a parent and her experience of parenthood, as well as running a business and how those two things intertwine. 

Hannah is kind, switched on, funny, and you can tell that she is just such a loving and proud mum. 

Hannah's other baby Bear and Moo are opening their first ever brick and mortar store in Kirikiriroa on June 25th from 4-6pm. I'll be there celebrating! Come and say hey! The store is at 1 Glennis Place, Frankton. 

If you enjoyed this episode, give it a 5 star rating! Or share it! Or review the pod! And make sure you're following us! Annnndddd.. Look in the mirror and tell yourself "YOU ARE A SEXY, SEXY BITCH".

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Holy friggin' moly can you believe that Aotearoa radio kuīni Sharyn Casey chatted with me for an hour about her parenting ~*jOuRnEy*~?! I certainly can't! 

Sharyn sat down with me and shared so much about her experiences raising her two boys Tyson and Reuben with her husband (also radio royalty) Bryce Casey. 

We talk fertility struggles, the 11 week early baby and NICU experience, raising boys to be loving and inclusive, instilling good values, not swearing til you're 18, dealing with parenting in the public eye, wiping poo off scrotums and so much more.

Sharyn is a joy to talk to, and had me cackling throughout the episode (my cackling was actually really hard to edit out, so apologies for how much of it you hear) but also had me really resonating with so much of her story. 

I'm so thrilled we, as fans of Sharyn, got to hear this other side of her life that we don't hear about too often, and I'm so grateful for her vulnerability in sharing this aspect of her life that she has kept pretty private. 

If you enjoyed this ep, why not share it? Go on, you know you want to. Send it to a boy mum, they'll bloody love it. Also, while you're at it, rate, review, and subscribe to the pod on whatever platform you're listening on. 

For the voyeurs among you, the full visual ep is over on our YouTube 

As per, follow along with the chaos and fun on the socials (including a giveaway to enter at the moment that you don't want to miss!!): 

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I know I bang on about it a lot, but I will just never get over how lucky I am that people as cool and interesting as Rāniera want to talk to me. Rāniera Procter (Ngāi Tāmanuhiri, Ngāti Porou) joined me for an incredibly insightful conversation about his whānau and the values they live. In particular his mission to raise his children with te reo Māori as their first language, a taonga he was also raised with. 

Rāniera is a father who walks the walk, but he's very honest that it took him a while to get there. Becoming a dad at 22 was not in the plan, and Rāniera spoke to me about how that woke him up to becoming an adult, as well as ignited his passion for the revitalisation of Māori language and culture. 

Rāniera has three children with his ex-wife and he and his wife Kawai are expecting their first pēpi together literally any day now. This is their second pregnancy, after they lost their first baby, Hinepūororangi, who was born still at 33 weeks last year. If stillbirth is a difficult topic for you, please look after yourself. 

Rāniera is humble, funny, kind, passionate, gentle, reflective, and just a really great guy to chat to. I am so glad that people like him exist, and families like his exist. Particularly in regards to the incredible de-colonisation/reindigenisation work they are doing for their community. 

These stories are worth sharing, so please share this episode with someone you know. Also, give us five stars while you're up there, go on, the button is just there! 

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Your political ranting, mother-advocate, chaos aunties are back for another week! Here for your listening pleasure is the second half of my conversation with Charlotte Kells Robertson (aka @phdmamanz). In this episode, Charlotte answers the third, fourth, and fifth questions and as you can probably tell from the title, we manage to cover quite a lot of ground! (Us? Chatting? It can't be!) Charlotte, thank you for your knowledge and honesty and humour and alllll the taonga you gave me during this conversation. 

I know by this point you are all absolutely in love with Charlotte and her whole vibe, so be sure to follow her here so you can keep up with all her goings on (including her refreshingly real insight to being a mum whilst doing a PhD!) 

A huge, huge ngā mihi to Viva La Vulva for sponsoring this episode! It is such an honour to be a small part of the VLV whānau, and I am so proud to be associated with a brand doing such wonderful things for the vulvas of Aotearoa (and beyond!) the product I shouted out this week are the Soothing Postpartum Ice Packs and based on the fact that I still use them at least once a week with my gung-ho toddler, I think they're high on my recommendations list! Don't forget to use code VIVAMAMA for 20% off any orders over $50! Say it with me, everyone! "We love you, Viva La Vulva!!!!"

Resources mentioned in this podcast: 

• Josie aka @playbasedpepi

A link to all my socials and my NEWSLETTER!:

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Also, if you've read this far, here is a secret. I was drinking white wine out of my Artemis Ceramics  boob mug during this episode, and by the end of the two hours I was eeeeever so slightly tipsy. You may notice that I get a bit louder and a bit gigglier by the end of the episode, THAT WOULD BE WHY. Ok now you know my secret. I trust you. Keep it safe. 

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The best thing about this podcast is that I get to approach people I admire and get them to have a conversation with me, and that is exactly what happened in this situation. I have followed Charlotte Kells Robertson (aka @phdmamanz) for a good, long while now. Her knowledge and insight on motherhood has always left me looking like the mind-blown emoji, and this time she got to see that reaction in person! I could have spoken to Charlotte all night, but I had to cut it off at 2 hours (which is still one hour longer than we were meant to talk - oops!) But, don't worry, Charlotte and I have become fast friends and I can absolutely see some more PHDMAMANZxWDYPLT content in our future. 

As I say in this introduction, you're all in luck because we get Charlotte next week too! So this week is the first two answers, and next week is the last three. 

Big shout out to Viva La Vulva for sponsoring this week's episode! I can highly recommend the perineal power pack, I purchased it before birth with both of my kids and found the products sooooo good. If you use code VIVAMAMA at checkout you will get 20% off any order over $50. THANK YOU, VLV! 

As mentioned in the introduction, WDYPLT is now on the iHeart Radio Podcast Network! Bloody exciting stuff, to put it lightly! I am so thrilled to be partnering with the iHeart team to help this poddy grow, and the community of listeners to grow! I've written a post on my substack about it, which you can read here if you would like to know more, but the TLDR is: nothing is changing from a listener perspective, other than you will hear some ads throughout the episodes. The change is mainly coming on my end of things, with having a big support system helping me learn, and grow, and get better at the podcasting thaaang. This is a really exciting step forward for the pod, and I see great things coming down the pipeline. 

As usual, pls do all the things, like, share, subscribe, rate, review, and follow me on social media! instagram, tiktok, and substack! 

If you have a story that you believe would be good for the pod, send me an email with a brief overview of your journey! [email protected]

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You guys.. I'm honestly lost for words. Jo Robertson is on the pod, and I'm cheesing so hard about it. If you can't tell by the grin plastered on my face throughout the whole episode, Jo is a bit of a personal inspiration for me professionally. She has done some seriously, seriously impressive work in the child advocacy and parenting education space, but she makes it so easy to digest! Her communication skills are next level, and you'll see those skills on display in this ep.

Jo was so generous with her story, and even though she is the literal expert on parenting, she was so honest about how she isn't perfect. I think that it is so important for us to see that not even parenting experts get it right all the time, because there is actually no way you can.

Also, Jo is such an interesting person that during her introduction I forgot to mention that she has done a TED talk AND was an expert on MAFS NZ?!! Can you imagine being decorated enough that those things can be left out in an introduction and you STILL have a full intro? Wild. Simply wild.

A small content warning that during the first question segment, Jo talks about a tricky birth and a tricky recovery. If those topics are hard for you to hear right now, please look after yourself and skip forward.

Thank you so much to Bennie & the Jets for sponsoring this episode!! The coooooolest kids clothes on the block (and that's before even taking into consideration that everything in their store is ethically and sustainably made!). There's a 10% discount code for listeners, WDYPLT10 at check out! (Non-sale items only). ALSO ENTER MY GIVEAWAY WITH BENNIE & THE JETS! Over on my instagram account. You will seriously be kicking yourself if you don't at least TRY to win this prize. https://www.bennieandthejets.co.nz/

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Welcome to the very first episode of Why Do You EXPERT Like That? A bonus episode that you'll see every 6-ish weeks. I'm gonna be asking experts in parenting-adjacent spaces questions that have been submitted by listeners (you guys!) and get their big, big, beautiful brains to get some answers!

This week we had five listener submitted questions and Jo answered with love, empathy, kindness, and was so helpful! (imo).

If you haven't listened to her main episode (also in your feed now!) go back and listen, because some of her story contextualises her answers even more! And also because it's a damn good listen.

AND WHILE YOU'RE AT IT RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, SHARE. HOW MANY TIMES DO I NEED TO SAY IT.

Follow my socials or subscribe to my substack to have the opportunity to ask our next expert your questions!

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If you've ever wanted to see me try and act cool and normal around someone I have a crush on, this is your opportunity! The absolute charisma-bomb that is Steph Monks joins me on the pod this week, and she's exceeded all expectations of funny, relatable, and insightful.

You'll know Steph from her illustrious career in NZ radio, but she is currently keeping us entertained on our drives home with the Edge Arvos show! Steph and her lovely partner Jake have a one year old named Rocco, and hearing Steph speak about her journey of parenting so far was an absolute delight.

The thing that struck me the most about speaking with Steph is about how much she credits the Mums in her village for getting her through the tricky early days, and how much she strives to be a champion for the Mums in her life now! She is like the ultimate hype woman for any person looking after a small human and it is bloody delightful.

In honour of Steph's philosophy of Mum-hype, if you've made it this far, send a message to a Mum in your life telling them how much of a f*cking legend they are.

Once again, the biggest thank you to Bear & Moo for their sponsorship this episode. They even spoiled Steph and sent her some goodies! They have just moved warehouses AND announced their store opening, so huge things happening over there. I'm particularly grateful for the honeysticks watercolours set this week, because Freddy made his Nonna and Grandmum a very cute painting for Mothers' Day. If you would like 10% off any non-sale item on their website use WDYPLT10 at check out. (Every time you do, I get a notification and get real excited about it!!)

I think the only resource we mention in this pod is a book that I can't remember the name of, that book is:

- Smart Mothering by Natalie Flynn

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