Dyking Out - a Lesbian and LGBTQIA Podcast for Everyone!

If monogamy isn't for you, you never want to merge bank accounts with someone, but you're got a lot of love to give (and hope to receive it back), then perhaps solo polyamory is right for you! Comedian and writer Ashley Ray has been living that solo polyamory life (in a pandemic no less!) and joins us to correct common misconceptions about her love life. We talk about the funny and tragic red flags she sifts through when dating, how people react to her relationship structure, and why structure and communication are so important. Plus, she talks about her wild zodiac dating experiment which we hope gets made into a TV show. This episode just may leave you polycurious! Plus, Carolyn and Melody talk about Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, The DNC, The Chicks, and our polar opposite gayest things of the week! Finally, we end with a question from a listener who seems to be the victim of an emotional terrorist.

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Put on the kettle, because the incredible and talented Jen Richards (Netflix's Disclosure, HBO's Mrs. Fletcher, Emmy-nominated Her Story) joins us this week to talk about the beverage that dates back to 2732 B.C.: Tea! Jen is a writer, actress, and activist whose morning routine involves brewing some tea with her own special touches to complement her mood. We talk about how we were introduced to tea, why it's inherently queer, and the different times and places we've enjoyed it. If your not into tea, you might feel your curiosity brewing as we dyke out about this versatile and comforting beverage. Plus, Jen gives us the scoop on her recent engagement, and tells us what she's been up to in quarantine. But before tea time, we talk about the outdoor comedy crackdown, the attacks on Kamala Harris, Carolyn's big "gayest thing" moment, and the one topic that Carolyn promised to never talk about again. And, we finally reveal the new name for our listeners!

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When life tests us through heartbreak or tragedy, we have to find ways to heal our wounds and move forward. And if anyone knows this, it's Chemda (Keith and The Girl) who dykes out with us about her journey from straight-ish girl, to queer relationship, to heartache - both literal and figurative. Love, loss, and living have helped her find ways to cope with the crazy things life throws her way. We also talk about her relationship with the queer community now that she is divorced from her trans husband. And we answer the age old question of "should you be friends with your ex" once and for all (yeah right). Plus, Carolyn talks about all the lesbian things she did in the woods, and yet Melody still manages to out-gay her. Finally, we give TOO MUCH advice to our listener who sent in a question about her desire to hookup with men.

-Support the pod and get to know other listeners by joining our Patreon community. We use the money for equipment, studio rentals, editing, mixing, travel for live shows (when those are a thing again), and more! If you can't support the pod on a monthly basis, please consider tipping us through Paypal. We truly appreciate it!

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This episode is everything and nothing, because that's where we always end up when discussing labels. But to us, it's actually everything because we're dyking out with the hilarious and entertaining Becca Blackwell (High Maintenance on HBO)! We talk about their gender and sexuality journey, as well as their relationship to labels throughout their life. What happens when we hold individual definitions for shared labels? Is it okay to disagree about what they mean? What are the spaces we create for our identities and who can occupy them? Can a trans masc person still be a dyke? (ABSOLUTELY). Plus, we talk about the thing many of you have been asking us to talk about, even though we have previously sworn off talking about it/her/spoiler-alert-it's-Taylor-Swift. And, Melody may have finally gotten Carolyn hooked on Real Housewives drama. Finally, we end with a listener question about dealing with misogynistic gatekeepers.

Here is the link to Becca's band, Inner Princess!

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It's a sex party (chat), and you're invited (to listen)! Poet and filmmaker Fatimah Asghar (Brown Girls, NPR, PBS) joins us to dyke out about sex parties, which inspired her latest short film Got Game. First, apologies for the guest audio. It was the best we could get given the circumstances, but it's such a great conversation that we hope you won't mind. Where were we? Oh yes, sex parties! We talk less about the actual sex (lame) and more about trying to make a connection and what these interactions can tell us about ourselves. Plus, we talk about the importance of consent and the steps we can take to make these spaces as safe as possible. Before we get to our topic, we talk about our gayest thing of the week, and Los Angeles' gayest thing of the year! Finally, we end with a question from a frustrated listener whose girlfriend won't send nudes.

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A dating episode in the midst of a global pandemic? If anyone can still have game when the world feels upside down, it's comedian Alysia Brown. From back-to-back dates to picking up audience members on Zoom shows and everything in between, Alysia does it all. She tells us about her dating life before COVID, during quarantine, and what she hopes to find for the future. We implore her to share her tips and go-to moves so that our listeners can learn from her experience. Plus, Melody tries to cheat with her pick for Gayest Thing Of The Week while Carolyn is on her way to becoming a Bernie Sanders meme. Finally, we end with a question from a listener who is questioning her sexuality, but afraid of leading on another woman in case it turns out she isn't queer after all.

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Want an episode that truly lives up to the podcast's name? Because we're dyking out with singer-songwriter Thao Nguyen (Thao & The Get Down Stay Down) about Lilith Fair, and that might be as gay as it gets! But first, Carolyn and Melody mourn the loss of Naya Rivera and talk about what her performance on Glee meant to them. And Melody lets us all know what a Byke is, thanks to a wonderful listener. Then we get to the good stuff. Thao opens up about how her latest album Temple coincides with both her marriage and coming out publicly. This naturally leads into a nostalgia and joke-filled conversation about Lilith Fair - the famed women's music festival that thrived from 1997-1999, and failed in its 2010 revival. We also get the scoop on how her brilliant Zoom music video for Phenom came together in quarantine. Finally, we end with a listener question about being queer in high school in conservative areas.

-Want to hear more from Thao? Check out our extra, exclusive content by joining our Patreon community or becoming a member on Himalaya. We use the money for equipment, studio rentals, editing, mixing, travel for live shows, and more! If you can't support the pod on a monthly basis, please consider tipping us through Paypal. We truly appreciate it!

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Let's level the playing field by striving for equity both on and off the field (or court, or rink, or office flooring, etc). Rachael Rapinoe joins us this week to talk about how she's working to create equity in the CBD/Cannabis industry. Before she co-founded her company Mendi, she was a professional soccer player who was all too familiar with the disparity in income and playing conditions between men and women. And as you can imagine, the gap can be even bigger for the LGBTQ community and POC. We dyke out about how her background as an athlete informs her decision-making as a business owner in a fairly young industry, and the different ways her sister Megan uses her own platform to fight for equity. But first, it's TikTok O'Clock at the start of the episode. Carolyn and Melody age themselves by talking about their favorite social media fascination. Plus, Melody can't stop thinking about last week's gayest thing. Finally, we end with a listener question about Harry Potter fandom in light of JK Rowling's transphobia which leads to a longer discussion.

-Want to hear more about Rachael's opinions on queer culture and where to meet women in Portland? Check out our extra, exclusive content by joining our Patreon community or becoming a member on Himalaya. We use the money for equipment, studio rentals, editing, mixing, travel for live shows, and more! If you can't support the pod on a monthly basis, please consider tipping us through Paypal. We truly appreciate it!

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We're dyking out across the world with photographer Erika Owens, who many of you know from the latest season of TLC's 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 Days. Erika stands out on the show for quite a few reasons. She's part of the first queer pairing on the show, she's super fun and likable, and she has bright, bold, head-turning style. We talked about what it was like coming out on TV and having her relationship drama play out in such a public manner. She also dykes out about what it's like to be queer in a small town, and what inspires her work and style. But before getting into the interview, Carolyn and Melody recap their Priding Out show and give an update on some dramatic developments that unfolded during the show. Plus, we reveal (or should we say 'release') our gayest thing of the week. Finally, w end on a listener question about finding other queer women in the midwest.

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We could all use a little more self love, especially this pride month. That's why we're dyking out with the very funny and wonderful Jerrell Tate from the MinoriTEA Report podcast. Jerrell, like many in our community, had a long road to self-acceptance and appreciating what makes him different. We talk about how hard it can be to treat ourselves with the kindness that we more easily show to others. And we manage to age ourselves by sharing our personal methods of showing ourselves love and kindness. Plus, our Gayest Thing Of The Week has now officially become a competition with a prize of sorts! Finally, we end with a question from a listener who is afraid that her sexuality will cause her to lose her parent's support and derail her dream of becoming a Rockette.

-GET TICKETS to our virtual pride show that's happening this Thursday, June 25 at 8pm EST.

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-We've got new MERCH.

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-Like our theme song by There Is No Mountain? Subscribe to our composer/mixer's youtube channel for more beats and mixes.

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