I used to get vulnerability wrong.

I thought it was about letting him know how I REALLY FELT.

Like, “tell me how you really feel!” type of thing. And guess what? He wouldn’t take it well at all. So it never got me what I wanted.

No, that’s easy. Anyone can do that. Vulnerability is different. It takes courage.

Vulnerability has completely changed my marriage and all my relationships.

I feel so much more connected to people.

I love my life more.

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Gratitude gives us eyes of light.

The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!

Matthew 6:22-23

I first connected this verse with gratitude when my client saw through working with me just how dark her view of her husband had become without her even realizing it.

It can creep up on us. We must remain vigilant to keep our eyes light.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Phillipians 4:8 

Paul wrote the “joy book” of the Bible when he was in prison.

Similarly, our circumstances don’t need to dictate our joy; and our husbands are just a circumstance.

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The opposite of faith isn’t doubt, it’s control.

I talk to a lot of wives and they want their husband to be a spiritual leader.

So they make helpful suggestions of what that could look like.

I know for me, I would wrangle everyone to read the Bible together even though I really wanted him to be the one to initiate that, and he would pull his phone out of his pocket during what was supposed to be our family worship time. 

Then, I would use I statements to let him know how I felt about him taking his phone out.

I would tell him how I would do it.

I did not see myself as controlling.

I thought I was just communicating. I thought I was just expressing my needs.

I thought I was just asking questions.

This didn’t work because he wanted me to champion the spiritual leader he already was, so when I only commented on what he wasn’t doing, he felt like he couldn’t win and he withdrew.

When I explained to him how to be a spiritual leader, I just thought I was being helpful. But I was actually trying to get him to do things the right way - my way.

This was getting worse and worse. I really thought maybe I had just married the wrong guy!

What I needed to do instead was relinquish control. So what would that look like? Find out on today's episode.

Early in my marriage, things felt extremely out of balance. I felt like I was doing everything. 

I felt the heavy burden of making up for my husband’s shortcomings both financially and in the housework department. It was extremely stressful!

Then I learned a skill that changed everything.

Now I know that God built us women to receive and that when I interfere with receiving I actually interfere with my husband’s sense of purpose. 

He’s built to provide and he loves to.

I’m so grateful that I learned to receive graciously. I started by practicing smiling and saying thank you whenever anyone gave me gifts, compliments, help, or apologies.

I thank God today that it has become an ingrained habit.

I invite you to experiment with being a more gracious receiver today so that your relationship can come back into balance. It’ll be the first step toward graciously receiving that ring you’ve always dreamed about!

When was the last time you received gifts, compliments, help, or apologies with a simple smile and a thank you? I’d love to hear - find me on social media or reach out to me at [email protected].

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Do you want to be more connected to your husband?

Most women start by wanting their husband to change, but what if I told you he can't find you to connect with you unless you are lighting your light with delight?

That's been my experience: when I make myself ridiculously happy, my husband finds me irresistable and piles on to make me even happier.

On this episode, you will hear a life changing new perspective on what self care is and how it will completely transform your marriage.

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That meant that I could help create another divorce - when I still didn't even understand what created the first one.

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Whatever your situation, the practical skills you will learn here will help you stay on track every day.

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That's what I offer in my free consultations.

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I'd love to hear from you. Please reach out to me at [email protected]. I am happy to connect you with resources as you empower yourself to create an extraordinary home life.

Do you feel like your marriage has hit a wall?

Maybe it's about something like porn or another woman.

Maybe he says he doesn't love you anymore.

Maybe he ditched his faith and went on a bender.

Or maybe he doesn't even see the problem, but you can't take his smoking anymore.

That's the thing about hitting the wall in marriage - it's just so personal and individual.

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I am so glad you are here.

I am Lucy Martin, licensed therapist and Laura Doyle Certified Relationship Coach, known for a simple and doable approach for making marriage amazing. I use the Biblical mindset that I teach to help my marriage and family thrive every day.

I created this podcast to give you hope. If you are lonely or discontent in your marriage, you are so in the right place. Every day, marriages are restored - that's what we do around here through God's grace.