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it's important to identify the triggers that make you angry. Understanding your triggers can help you anticipate and avoid situations that may cause you to lose your temper. When you feel yourself getting angry, take a moment to pause and reflect on what's causing the emotion. This will help you to take control of the situation and prevent the anger from escalating.

The Richest Man in Babylon written by S Clason

When I was growing up,like many people, I had low self-esteem and tremendous feelings of inferiority. It never occurred to me that I could be good at anything. When I saw other people who excelled at something, I admired them. At the same time, I felt inadequate and inferior in comparison to them. I felt that they had been blessed with intelligence, skills, and abilities that I was lacking. It never dawned on me that I could be like them.

One day, I had a revelation. It suddenly occurred to me that every one has the ability to be excellent at something. I realized that excellence was a journey, not a destination. One did not jump from mediocrity to excellence overnight. It was a long,slow process that anyone could embark upon and eventually achieve. The attainment of excellence in your work consists more of attitude and commitment than natural talent and ability

Heavy on the Soul: 5 ways to shed emotional weight - open up new possibilities

Living under the pressure of emotional problems is very difficult: past negative experiences affect your way of thinking, self-esteem and relationships. To make a difference, it's important to understand what's going on with you.

➡️What are the dangers.

1. Hyperprotection

2. Projections

3. indecision.

4. Constant comparisons

5. Loss of faith

➡️How to get rid of it.

It will take time to shed the emotional weight, because it's not a one-time action, but a long process. You need to be prepared to work on changing your way of thinking and outlook on life.

1. Take time out.

2. Don't suppress your emotions.

3. Create rituals

4. Learn

5. Be patient

4 mistakes in apologies - ask for forgiveness correctly Most people apologize formally and insincerely, which hurts relationships. Let's talk about four mistakes we make when we apologize.

1. Empty apologies.

You say, "Well, I'm sorry" or "I'm sorry" and think that's enough. Empty apologies are a shell with nothing inside.

2. Excessive apologies.

You exclaim, "I'm so sorry! I feel terrible!" An apology is necessary to correct a mistake, to resolve a disagreement, and thereby to mend a relationship. Excessive apologies are not conducive to that.

3. incomplete apologies.

You look the person in the eye and say, "I'm sorry about that." Those are better than excessive or empty apologies, but they aren't very effective either.

4 Denial

You state, "I'm sorry about that, but it wasn't my fault." Instead of sincerely admitting your fault, you get defensive and deny everything. Denial will not help you repair the relationship.

How do you know that you are in Love? Presented By Eyitayo Fasasi and Sekinat Rufai.

Letter to you

Dear, you,

The you that had been through a lot. The you that almost lost everything. Remember that your life does not stop here. You are not yet at the end, not even close. Even though life gets tougher every day, you must keep fighting, you must keep going. If the world doesn’t help you, let it be. Help yourself, look beyond where you are, and seek greater glory. Pray. you might think your prayer is not answering but he is already taking action. He’ll help you but you must also help yourself.

The world won’t stop if you’ll end everything now. Let yourself be remembered for fighting what’s killing you within not by letting what’s within kill you. You know yourself that you are strong, you are capable of doing the impossible. Do things for the greater good. You might feel alone, empty and lonely but know that there are people who wanted to be with you, people that miss you. Fill yourself with happiness and fun memories. Don’t let the world stop you for it won’t stop for you.

Fight with all you’ve got but remember that it’s okay to stop sometimes. It’s okay to be weak. It’s always okay to cry when you’ve had enough but that doesn’t mean you have already given up. Crying is not only for the weak, crying is for those who weep.

After all the crying, stand up, stand tall and face the world again. Take it with courage and pride. You’ve been through a lot and that gives you an advantage. Everything won’t be easy but you’ll know for sure how to deal with it.

©Fasasi Eyitayo S Marvel

Emily Oni Kaaba is a common term used in Western part of Nigeria to address someone who wears gown most especially traditional gown.

The Mute

Smart didn’t recall the name his parents had given to him. He had left home when he was eight. His drunken father, a burly worker, enraged by the arrival of a dumb son, beat his mother regularly, blaming her for smart’s embarrassing condition. When Smart tried to defend her, he too was badly beaten.

One night, there was a horrific fight and his mother never got up. The boy stood over his lifeless mother and felt an unbearable upwelling of guilt for permitting it to happen.

This is my fault!

As if some kind of demon were controlling his body, Smart walked to the kitchen and grasped a butcher’s knife.

Hypnotically, he moved to the bedroom where his father lay on the bed in a drunken stupor. Without a word, he stabbed him in the back. His father cried out in pain and tried to roll over, but his son stabbed him again, over and over until the apartment fell quiet. Smart fled home but found the street of Lagos equally unfriendly. His condition made him an outcast among other young runaways, and he was always forced to live alone at one of the room in dilapidated house, eating stolen foods and fruits. His only companions were tattered novels and English Language Textbook. He taught himself how to read and write.

Days soured into years, Smart grew strong.

One day he was mocked on the street by a girl far older than him. The girl found herself pummeled within inches of her life.

When the authorities pulled Smart off her, Smart was arrested and was jailed for attempted murder. Rather than Smart learnt after he was release but Smart back to the street and now he had grown more big and powerful. He became the ghost of the street. He became hired assassin. he was caught and death penalty was issued to him..

SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IT KILLS GENERATION...

©Fasasi Eyitayo S Marvel