What if all that online sex advice never hits because it genuinely doesn't work the way your brain does?

In this episode of The Embodied Podcast, I'm joined by clinical sexologist, licensed sex therapist, and ADHD researcher Dr. Leann Borneman for an in-depth conversation about ADHD, sex, desire, relationships, kink, and what she calls "erotic accommodations."

Dr. Leann's work explores how executive functioning, nervous system regulation, stimulation thresholds, working memory, and attention can affect our ability to access desire and intimacy. Sometimes people genuinely want sex, enjoy sex once they're having it, and feel attracted to their partner—but still struggle to initiate or transition into the experience.

That distinction opens up an entirely different conversation about what "low desire" can actually mean for people with ADHD.

We also explore Dr. Leann's research into ADHD and BDSM, including her observation that kink may sometimes function as an accommodation rather than simply a sexual preference. Increased sensation, novelty, structure, explicit communication, anticipation, and clear parameters can all change the conditions under which an ADHD brain is able to engage.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How ADHD can affect sex, desire, and intimacy

• Why low desire may sometimes be an access problem

• Sex as an executive functioning demand

• Spontaneous vs. responsive desire

• Executive function barriers in relationships

• ADHD, emotional regulation, and rejection sensitivity

• Why initiation can be difficult even when you want sex

• Kink and BDSM as potential erotic accommodations

• Why intense sensation can help some ADHD brains come online

• The value of explicit communication in kink and non-monogamy

• Context-dependent desire and why your preferences can change with different people

• Parenting, overstimulation, and sexual bandwidth

• Creating an "à la carte" approach to intimacy

• Why a bridge into sex doesn't guarantee capacity for sex

• Working memory, physical cues, anticipation, and desire

• Building relationships and sexual experiences around how your brain actually works

Dr. Leann also shares practical examples from her own marriage and clinical work—from bandwidth check-ins and intimacy menus to understanding why a sexy text at noon doesn't necessarily mean an ADHD brain will still be sexually engaged at 10 PM.

This conversation offers a much wider way of thinking about sexuality and neurodivergence: instead of assuming something is wrong when sex, desire, or relationships aren't working the way we're told they "should," what happens when we get curious about the conditions our individual brains and bodies actually need?

Thanks for listening!

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What if your relationships could fuel your creativity instead of competing with it?

In this episode of The Embodied Podcast, I'm joined by Kelsey Grant for a conversation about creativity, desire, dating, and designing relationships that genuinely support the life you're here to create.

Together, we explore why so many of us inherit relationship scripts without ever questioning whether they actually fit us. We talk about "taking lovers" as one example of intentionally designing relationships around your values, creativity, and season of life.

This conversation also explores the relationship between creativity and desire, why intuition matters in dating, how to recognize whether someone's presence expands or depletes your energy, and why building a meaningful life sometimes means letting go of the conditioning that says romantic relationships should be the center of our lives, and centering creativity instead.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How to build relationships that fuel your creativity • The connection between creativity, desire, and erotic energy • Taking lovers as one example of relationship design • Dating intentionally instead of following cultural defaults • Vetting through intuition, embodiment, and self-trust • Recognizing relationships that nourish versus deplete your energy • Why creativity deserves protection • Entrepreneurship, fulfillment, and redefining success • Designing relationships that fit your actual life • Living beyond inherited expectations around love, dating, and partnership

Whether you're dating, partnered, creatively focused, or simply questioning inherited ideas about relationships, this conversation offers a thoughtful perspective on building connections that support—not compete with—the life you're creating.

Thanks for watching!

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In this episode of The Embodied Podcast, I'm joined by artist, designer, and creator of The Elders Council Oracle Deck, Andrea Gomez Botero, for a deeply personal conversation about allowing yourself to be changed by life without resisting every identity death along the way.

Andrea shares her journey from Colombia to the Netherlands after falling in love, and the unexpected grief that came with leaving behind her home, language, culture, family, and familiar sense of self. Together, we explore why reinvention is rarely just about beginning something new—it's also about mourning what no longer fits, allowing parts of ourselves to die, discovering who we're ready to be, and the role art, creativity, and beauty can play in such transitions.

One of the most powerful moments in our conversation comes when Andrea says:

"When nothing makes sense, make art."

We also explore how creativity differs from productivity, why our creative lives are often hijacked by performance and output, and how art can help us metabolize experiences that words alone cannot.

More:

• The hidden grief of starting over and reinventing yourself

• Moving across the world and rebuilding your identity

• Why creativity is not the same as productivity

• Making art as a way through uncertainty and transformation

• Nature as a teacher through seasons of change

• Following intuitive "yeses," even when they're frightening

• Identity death, personal evolution, and becoming

• Human Design, Gene Keys, and living through cycles of transformation

• Why lived experience becomes our deepest creative resource

• Creating a life that reflects who you're becoming—not who you've been

Whether you're navigating a move, a career shift, a creative awakening, or a season of profound personal reinvention, this conversation is a reminder that transformation often asks us to grieve, create, and trust in equal measure.

Thanks for tuning in!

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What if your healing journey has become another way to exhaust yourself?

In this episode of The Embodied Podcast, I'm joined by therapist and energy strategist Sara Kassem for a deeply honest conversation about burnout, shame, nervous system safety, hypervigilance, and what happens when healing itself becomes another form of self-exploitation.

Together, we explore why so many of us confuse constant vigilance with safety, how burnout can become a way of life, and what it actually takes to reclaim our energy without sacrificing ourselves in the process.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The hidden burnout of always trying to heal • Hypervigilance, nervous system safety, and chronic exhaustion • The difference between feeling safe and constantly protecting yourself • Shame, embarrassment, and the surprising role of "cringe" • Recovering from Superwoman syndrome and over-functioning • Why healing can become another form of self-exploitation • Restoring pride and integrity in how you use your energy • Joy as an antidote to apathy and burnout • Character, trust, and choosing the right thing over the easy thing • Small, consistent actions that create lasting transformation

Whether you're navigating burnout, chronic stress, people-pleasing, or a season of deep personal healing, this conversation offers a refreshing perspective on what it really means to feel safe, trust yourself, and stop carrying more than is yours.

Thanks for watching!

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What do words like wholeness, agency, sovereignty, and authenticity actually mean in a lived life - not as buzzwords, but as practices?

In this solo episode of The Embodied Podcast, I continue last week's conversation on identity by exploring what it means to live from wholeness. Through personal stories and Greek mythology, I unpack some of the internet's most overused words and offer a more grounded understanding of authorship, agency, sovereignty, authenticity, and self-governance.

Together, we'll explore how our identities are shaped, how we unconsciously adopt roles that don't always serve us, and why reclaiming authorship isn't about controlling life - it's about consciously choosing how we participate in it.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The roles we inherit and the identities we unconsciously adopt

• Why wholeness isn't something we become, but something we remember

• Self-authorship and reclaiming the pen in your own life

• Agency as participation - not control

• Sovereignty as self-governance, not isolation

• Authenticity, coherence, and living from your deepest truths

• The myths of Demeter and Psyche as guides for modern life

• Why discernment matters more than certainty

• Letting other people's opinions become "blips on the screen"

• Returning to yourself again and again

Whether you're navigating an identity shift, questioning inherited beliefs, or longing to live a coherent and congruent life, this episode offers language, stories, and distinctions that invite a deeper, more nourishing relationship with yourself.

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Who gets to decide who you are?

In this solo episode of The Embodied Podcast, I explore many layers of identity—from ancestry, mixed heritage, and neurodivergence to astrology, family stories, self-perception, and the way the world reflects us back to ourselves.

I share the deeply personal story behind adding my grandmother's last name, Figueroa, to my own, what reclaiming my Puerto Rican lineage has meant to me, and why defining yourself is one of the most liberating things you can do. I also reflect on discovering my AuDHD in midlife, navigating identity through perimenopause, and why so many of us are carrying invisible experiences that others simply can't see.

This episode is an invitation to become more curious about your own identity—not the labels other people place on you, but the deeper truths that live beneath them.

I get into:

• Why identity is always evolving

• Mixed heritage and cultural belonging

• Reclaiming family history and ancestral connection

• Adding my grandmother's last name

• AuDHD, perimenopause, and self-understanding

• The relationship between astrology and identity

• Why people project identities onto others

• What happens when you don't "look like" what you've lived through

• Extending more empathy to ourselves and each other

• Defining yourself instead of living through other people's assumptions

Whether you're navigating an identity shift, reconnecting with your ancestry, exploring neurodivergence, or simply becoming more yourself with age, I hope this conversation reminds you that no one else gets to define who you are.

Thanks for tuning in!

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What if the medicine so many of us are searching for isn't more information—but more connection?

In this episode of The Embodied Podcast, I'm joined by my dear friend Jolenny Piedra for a heartfelt conversation about belonging, friendship, community, curiosity, and the small acts of generosity that help us remember our shared humanity.

Together, we explore what it means to live relationally in a world that often rewards isolation, busyness, and transaction over presence, kindness, and genuine connection. From music and travel to boundaries, judgment, technology, and everyday interactions, this conversation is an invitation to reconnect with one another—and with ourselves.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why music and travel create profound human connection

• The importance of friendship, community, and belonging

• How technology can create the illusion of connection

• The difference between boundaries and barriers

• Why curiosity is more powerful than judgment

• Small acts of generosity that change relationships

• Reverence, kindness, and seeing the humanity in others

• The courage to reach out instead of waiting

• Creating meaningful relationships in modern life

• Why we need each other more than ever

Whether you're longing for deeper friendships, navigating loneliness, building community, or simply trying to live with more intention, this conversation offers a beautiful reminder that connection is something we create together.

Thanks for watching!

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What if love isn't something we find—but something we practice? And what if the relationship you have with yourself shapes every other relationship in your life?

In this episode of The Embodied Podcast, I'm joined by Kalah Hill for a rich conversation about love, self-intimacy, monogamy, polyamory, pleasure, and creating relationships from freedom instead of conditioning. Together, we explore what it means to know yourself deeply enough to make conscious choices in love.

We talk about questioning inherited relationship norms, following pleasure as a practice of self-trust, and why intimacy begins long before another person enters the picture. Kalah shares her journey into erotic embodiment, how spontaneous experiences of pleasure transformed her life, her perspective on polyamory as a relational and social practice, and why she's currently in an unexpected season of celibacy after years of profound exploration.

We also get into:

• Self-intimacy and embodied self-trust

• Monogamy, non-monogamy, and polyamory

• Pleasure as a spiritual practice

• Erotic embodiment and life force

• Compersion, jealousy, and relational freedom

• Sexuality beyond labels and binaries

• Objectification, agency, and sovereignty

• Curiosity, consent, and self-discovery

• Aging, ripening, and how love evolves over time

• Purity culture, shame, and trusting your own body

Whether you're monogamous, non-monogamous, polyamorous, single, partnered, or simply curious about creating more honest and intentional relationships, this conversation is an invitation to rethink love, deepen self-trust, and embrace your own path.

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The inner child gets a lot of attention in healing work, but what about your inner teenager?

In this episode of The Embodied Podcast, I'm joined by author, educator, and longtime friend Eliza Alloway for a heartfelt conversation about the inner teenager, belonging, embodiment, self-trust, and what it means to truly come home to yourself.

We explore why adolescence is such a pivotal stage of human development, how so many of us learned to disconnect from our bodies and our truth, and why healing often requires returning to the parts of ourselves that were never fully seen, heard, or supported.

We also talk about:

• Healing your inner teenager and why it matters

• The difference between inner child work and adolescent healing

• Self-trust, boundaries, and becoming more precious to yourself

• Belonging, authenticity, and finding your own path

• Neurodivergence, sensitivity, and living in a complex world

• Caregiving, integration, and rebuilding a relationship with yourself

• Embodiment, nature, and reconnecting with your body

• Why joy, creativity, and risk-taking are essential to healing Eliza also shares her evolving body of work, Homebody—a beautiful exploration of what it means to cultivate genuine friendship with your body instead of trying to fix, control, or perfect it.

If you're navigating personal growth, healing old patterns, reclaiming your voice, or learning to trust yourself more deeply, this conversation offers both wisdom and practical insight.

Thanks for tuning in!

Connect with Eliza: https://elizaalloway.substack.com

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What if the wisest, most grounded, most trustworthy part of you is already inside you?

In this episode of The Embodied Podcast, I'm joined by my dear friend, teacher, and guide Heather Lindemenn for a powerful conversation about the Inner Elder—the wise, mature aspect of ourselves that can hold, guide, and support every other part of who we are.

Many of us are familiar with inner child work, healing childhood wounds, and tending to younger parts of ourselves. But what happens when we invite the Inner Elder to lead?

Heather shares how connecting with the Inner Elder can help us move beyond hypervigilance, self-protection, and old survival patterns into deeper trust, wisdom, softness, and self-leadership.

In this episode, we explore:

* What the Inner Elder is and why it matters

* Moving beyond inner child work alone

* Healing childhood wounds through wisdom and self-trust

* The difference between protection and true safety

* Hypervigilance, nervous system healing, and softening

* Spirituality, mentorship, and embodied wisdom

* Trusting your lived experience

* Leadership, healing work, and personal growth

* How to access the wisest part of yourself

We also talk about aging, maturation, mentorship, spiritual teachers, healing journeys, and what it means to grow into a deeper relationship with your own authority.

This conversation is for anyone navigating healing, personal growth, self-trust, spirituality, or a desire to feel more rooted in themselves and their own wisdom.

Thanks for tuning in!

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