My mother has often told me that from the day I was born I was a very independent child and had the attitude “I can do it myself!”  Over the years this attitude has stayed with me, and I even married a man with the same independent nature. We tend to be self-reliant, not afraid of tackling most projects ourselves. 

But for the longest time I had a problem that I just couldn’t solve myself. I was stuck in the mire of so much blame, resentment, and anger over something that seemed so important at the time, but in hindsight, really wasn’t. This blame, resentment and anger took a heavy toll on me and my relationships. No matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t get rid of these feelings. I tried to ignore them. That didn’t work. I tried resisting them. That didn’t work. And I even tried reacting to them, “letting it all out,” and that didn’t work either. In fact, the feelings of blame,resentment, and anger grew even stronger, causing me to not show up the way I wanted to.

And I was miserable. 

This was not how I wanted to feel and behave, and certainly not how God would want me to feel and behave either. 

I realized, maybe for the first time,  that this was something I couldn’t tackle on my own. I really couldn't do this myself.  I  needed help. And admitting this was not very easy. But when I allowed myself to accept this, things started to change. 

I believe most of us think we can do it ourselves when it comes to making changes in our lives. Sometimes we can, but sometimes we need extra help. And there is nothing wrong with this. In fact, it is all part of God’s plan for us. 

On today’s podcast I share my own journey of seeking the help I needed to get out of the mire of blame, resentment, and anger and the peace and joy that came as a result. 

If you find yourself experiencing something that you want to change in your own life, then come to a free coaching session with me and let’s talk about it. Wouldn’t you rather feel peace and joy, than be stuck in the mire?

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Whenever you recieve a compliment or experience something positive in your life, how do you usually respond? For years, I would automatically discount the compliment or positive experience because I had this belief that it coulnd't be true, or that it was just a fluke.  Discounting the positive is another sneaky thought distortion that many people experience, sometimes without even realizing it.  Today I will share what this looks like,  where it comes from, and 8 tips to get you started in breaking this thought habit once and for all. 

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People who deal with anxiety, overwhelm, perfectionism, and even depression often spend time in what has been called distorted thinking:  thoughts that our brain has twisted in our mind that we believe are true.  One of these types of thought distortions is "All or Nothing Thinking".  

All or nothing thinking is often called black and white thinking, thinking in absolutes.  It is all one way or the other.  There is no gray in between.   And in negative situations, sometimes these thoughts have become automatic, meaning that your brain automatically goes right into this type of thinking.  You can recognize all or nothing thinking when the words "always", "never", and "ever" are in your constant vocabulary.  

In today's episode I will explain this type of thought distortion and what it looks like and then I  will share four tips on how to overcome "all or nothing" thinking.  For your reference I am including these tips here.  

1.   When a negative situation comes up, write down the thoughts that automatically come and identify the "all or nothing" thoughts
2.   Challenge those thoughts and flip them around using the following questionsa.    Is this thought 100% true?  
   b.    What else could be true? 
   c.    How do these thoughts make me feel?  
   d.     Is this thought something the Lord would want me to think or feel? 
   e.    Is this thought helping me or hurting me?
   f.     What do I know about myself that tells me this is not true?
   g.    What would I say to someone I was close with if they had this same thought?
3. Focus on your strengths and not your weakness, understanding there will be setbacks, but not make them meand anything negative about yourself
4. Give yourself grace and compassion while practice changing the "all or nothing" thought habit

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References from today's episode:

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/emotional-resilience-for-self-reliance/2-healthy-thinking-patterns?lang=eng
https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/jeffry-h-larson/expect-key-personal-happiness/
https://www.verywellmind.com/all-or-nothing-thinking-2584173
https://pacificcognitivebehavioraltherapy.com/thoughts/all-or-nothing-thinking-what-it-is-and-tips-on-helping-yourself/  
Dr. David Burns  https://feelinggood.com/

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When things happen in our lives or situations come up,  sometimes we  interpret them to be a problem and this causes us the feel something.  We might feel confused, perplexed, frustrated, discouraged, disappointed, sad, etc.  And between the situation and what we feel, there is space, the space in between. 

Many times we aren't even aware of what we are filling that space with, or why we feel the way we do.  For years I had no idea myself.  It was with the help of a coach that I was able to realize that I was filling much of that space in between with negative thought habits, thoughts I subconciously practiced over and over again. 

In today's episode we will discuss what the space in between is,  how we fill that space, and then I will give you three tips about how to get you started on breaking negative thought habits.   This episode is short and sweet and straight to the point.  You won't want to miss it.

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Four years ago I found a coach, and from that moment the transformation began.   No longer did I believe that living with anxiety would keep me from progressing and becoming the person I am meant to become.  There is so much more to me than my anxiety, and my coach showed me that we all have limitless possibilities to grow and progress and create the life we want.  It's truly within each of us.  I needed a coach to help me see it for myself. 

   Coaching has  truly changed my life.  So much so that I want to shout it from the rooftops and share it with everyone I know!  But rather than getting on top of my roof everyday, I decided to become a Life Coach instead, with my mission to help you realize what I did four years ago.  

I have had the privilege to train with Molly Claire, Certified Master Coach and instructor,  as well as be part of her Business Coaching program, The Coaching Collective. She is an amazing coach. 

I have invited Molly to join me in discussing how Life Coaching can transform your life.  She will share her own journey with Life Coaching and then we will discuss  a  Life Coach's role and  how everyone (yes, everyone) can benefit from having a coach.  We will also explore how, as members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we both have witnessed how the remarkable tools from coaching go hand in hand with the Gospel of Jesus Christ. 

 Her enthusiasm and passion for what she does truly emanates from her. Whether you are needing help in managing your own anxiety, or buiding a business, we both agree that having a life coach is so empowering and makes everything in life better.  

 You won't want to miss this episode!   

When you a ready to get the help you want and need, get on my calendar and schedule a coaching session with me.  
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To find out more about Molly Claire and The Coaching Collective, visit:
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https://mollyclaire.com/thecoachingcollective/

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We live in an “I want it now” world.    Instant gratification is quite accessible, and as a society we have become quite accustomed to it.  When we are told to wait, notice the thoughts and feelings that come up for you.  Think about when you turn on your computer and for some reason it takes more than 10 seconds to boot up.  Or when we are searching for something on the internet and it takes more than a few seconds to connect us to the site we want.  Waiting is not the norm for us.  Instant gratification means we get to feel good instantly, and feeling good is what we want, right?   

Waiting requires time, patience, effort, and faith.  But think about the feelings we experience when we finally get what we have waited for.  Those are the feelings that truly change us, and last.

For years I have struggled with the "I want it now" thought, and it created a lot of frustration and pain for me when I didn't get what I wanted in the time I wanted.  Two weeks ago I had an experience that opened my eyes to the deeper feeings, gifts,  and wisdom that I have received when I had to wait, and I want to share this with you today.

Don't forget to get on my calendar for a FREE coaching session today.  We can talk about your struggle with wanting something now but having to wait. 

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Motherhood is probably the most complex and challenging roles we play as women, and we can be so hard on ourselves in this journey.  In today's episode I welcome Anna Mortimer, a certified Life Coach for Mothers who specializes in helping mothers let go of mom guilt so they can enjoy their relationships with their children and themselves. 

For years I struggled with the constant feeling of guilt,  thinking that even the tiniest mistakes I made as a mom would somehow damage my children forever.  I was so focused on being the "perfect" mom and doing it all right, that I often lost sight of finding  the joy in my relationships with my children, as well as myself. 

Maybe your are in the middle of raising your children right now.  Or maybe your children are grown and gone, but you find yourself looking back with feelings of guilt and regret.  Just know you are not alone and this is for you.  We will each share with you the tools that we have found, through coaching, that have helped us personally learn to let go of the guilt ourselves, and finally  enjoy the relationships we have with those we love most.

We will be discussing the top three reasons we moms feel guilty and share solutions that will get you started in your journey of letting the mom guilt go.  And for more support on this topic make sure you sign up for a free coaching session with myself or with Anna by clicking on the links below.

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https://annamortimercoach.com/

Anna makes a reference from the book Untamed  by Glennon Doyle that can be found here
https://www.oprah.com/inspiration/glennon-doyle-melton-parenting-children-of-divorce

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The "I don’t know how" lie is one of many stories that our brains like to offer us when we are facing a new opportunity or challenge because it just wants to protect us from feeling fear, inadequate, and discomfort.   When we hold tightly to that story, we simply stay stuck.  We simply don’t progress.  In a very real way we simply give up on ourselves and our potential. 

Think about what this world would have been like if certain people stayed stuck in the "I don't know how lie":  Martin Luther King Jr., George Washington,  Mother Theresa,  Moses, and so many more.   

In today's episode I share some tips on how to loosen your grip on fear, inadequacy, and discomfort, while moving from the "I don't know how lie" into the confidence of  "I can figure this out." 

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When was the last time you laughed, I mean really laughed?  How do you feel being around people who help you laugh?  

 It's been said that laughter is the best medicine, and I believe that is true, especially in times of stress.  Laughter has the power to:

• Ease the tension and stress in any situation
• Show us another perspective
• Allows us to view ourselves in a more positive light
• Keep us from taking things so seriously
• Strengthen us physically and mentally
• Heal

I am sure we can all think of a time when laughter brought relief during a stressful situation, and as we explore each of these areas, I will share stories, and examples that illustrate this further.   I will also share tips on how you can develop  more laughter in your life, because, as Marjorie Pay Hinckley once said, "The only way to get through life is to laugh your way through it."

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References:
https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/226482.Marjorie_Pay_Hinckley

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2000/03/if-we-can-laugh-at-it-we-can-live-with-it?lang=eng

https://www.humana.com/health-and-well-being/health-benefits-of-laughter 

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What comes up for you when you hear the word perfectionism? Is it a word that you can identify with at some level? 

Maybe you have had thoughts like, 

“This project I am working on isn’t good enough. Look at all those mistakes and flaws! It has to be perfect before I can finish it."   
 
"I am afraid to try that thing because I don’t know if I am going to be any good at it, and I don’t want to look like a fool!" 

" What will other people think of me? "

" Am I ever going to be good enough?" 

If any of these sound familiar to you, then you may have some perfectionism thinking going on.  Today we are going to discuss what perfectionism is and what it looks like, the difference between perfectionism vs. doing your best, and tips that I have found helpful for me in working on overcoming the distorted thoughts of perfectionism.  
If this sounds like something you are struggling with, then you've come to the right place.  You won't want to miss this epsidoe.   
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