Embrace It All!

Getting enought sleep is so important to both our physical and our mental health.  But it's interesting to me that during the various stages of our lives, as women, we go through periods of sleep deprivation:  Being a young mom with children that awake in the night, having teen age kids coming in late from activities, and then there’s the onset of menopause and insomnia!  AWWWW. 

 It seems like no matter what stage of life we are in, sleep deprivation is real so today, let’s talk about what happens to our bodies and our brains when we become sleep deprived, and ways that I have found to handle sleep deprivation. 

I will share some simple tools and tips that continue to help me combat sleep deprivation.  If this is something that you are struggling with, then get on my calendar and let's talk!
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We all have negative thoughts.  Negative thoughts come because our brains are always scanning for dangerous threats and discomfort.  It wants to protect us and keep us safe.  But people who deal with anxiety or depression tend to have an overabundance of negative thoughts when it comes to themselves, the world, and the future. Thoughts like, “I never do anything right”, “I am always going to fail” “Nothing ever works out for me”, “I am so stupid!”  These thought distortions seem true, and over time, they can become Automatic Negative Thoughts, or ANTs for short.  

These ANTS become habit forming thoughts which can actually alter the brain's chemistry, depleting it of the "feel good" neural transmitters of serotonin and dopamine.  

But there are ways to retrain your brain and break those thought habits.  On this episode we will discuss the six ways to attack those ANTS.   

And, spoiler alert, finding a coach is one of them.  Click on the link below for a free coaching session when you want to break any negative thought habit.  
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I believe that the majority of people in the world go into marriage with the desire for their marriage to last forever, but sadly, we live in a fallen world, where our agency is constantly tried and tested, and marriages don’t always last as long as originally hoped for.  

But there are some that do.  Last week I was working with a client who happened to mention that her husband and her were celebrating their 42nd wedding anniversary.  42 years!  What a milestone for sure. 

  We know that from the beginning of time marriage was ordained by God when he created Adam and Eve.  In 1 Corinthians 11:11 it states, “…neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.”  God never intended for us to be alone. 

So today, in honor of my own 35th anniversary,  I want to celebrate marriage.  Whether you are married or not, in your first marriage or second, or are hoping to one day marry again,  the principles that I talk about in this podcast will apply to all.

Now just so we’re clear, my marriage is definitely not perfect. Far from it, in fact.   I don’t believe there is any such thing as a perfect marriage.  We have made plenty of mistakes over the years, and there has been a lot of trial and error, disagreements, long discussions, hurt feelings, anxieties, apologies, and forgiveness.   But today I will share the things we have learned along the way.  Some things we learned early on, but most of them have taken years. 

If there are principles that I discuss that you would like to dive into further, don't forget to click on the link below for a free coaching session and get on my calendar.   

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Children worry about so many things.  And as they grow, these worries become more than just monsters under the bed or shadows on the walls.  As they get older their worries become more  about being accepted by their peers, making mistakes, or not meeting their own or their parents expectations.

  We live in a very uncertain world, and our children worry about things that we never dreamed of happening when we were their age.  And with so much overexposure of information about things happening in the world,  through the ever present media, our children’s anxiety can feel really heavy.

So what can we do to help them when this happens?  Through my own experience, and through much research, I have compiled the following suggestions that I hope will help you help your child or anyone, really,  when they are feeling worried and anxious.  In this episode we dive a little deeper into each one.  

•  Keep communication lines open by being available for them 
• Stop! Name it. Acknowledge the emotions they are feeling
• Validate  
• Help them understand what feelings are
• Help them understand their amazing brains and the power they have over their brains
• Help them understand how to feel their feelings by getting into their own body
•  Ask them if they know why they are worried or anxious.  
• Don’t shield them from their anxiety!
•  Healthy habits
• Life is a 50/50 of positive and emotions for a purpose 

There is nothing wrong when your child experiences anxiety. Or any negative emotion for that matter.   And although it may be difficult for you as their parent to witness this, these tools that I share today will help both you and your child learn how to manage their anxieties and worries.  With your help and support, your child will become empowered over his or her emotions.  

Disclaimer: If you notice that your child is experiencing more intense anxiety and worry, this could be a sign of a more serious type of anxiety and one that needs to be addressed by a Dr. or Therapist who specializes in Anxiety disorders in children.  They will be able to diagnose the specific type of anxiety your child may be dealing with along with more specialized tools and treatments. 

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We are all created by God and as such have infinite value and worth.  But we also have a human brain that likes to point out all the things that are "wrong" with us,   our weaknesses and struggles,  and creates stories that make us believe that we have less worth and value than others who seem to have it all together.   I beleived this lie for years.    

In this episode I will address what happens when we stay in that belief and why I believe  we are given weaknesses.   And then I share the  8 things that I have done( and continue to do)  to better understand my own worth.  

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https://magazine.byu.edu/article/vocal-point-speech-impediments/

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Two weeks ago most of our family went on a beach vacation. My husband and I usually go on this vacation by ourselves,  bu this year  one of our sons and our daughter and her family were able to join us. As I was planning and preparing for our vacation, I started to notice how my brain kept offering me expectations of what I thought would make this vacation perfect for everyone involved.  Expectations like

• I expected that the weather would be warm and sunny and there would be lots of beach to play on
•   I expected that everyone would have a great time
•   I expected that we would all spend most of our time together, etc

Sometimes we create these expectations based on past experiences that produced great memories.  We may think that somehow we can control everyone's experience by setting those expectations.  

But setting expectations can create problems, the biggest of which can be setting ourselves up for disappointment when our expectations aren't  met.  
Today I share four advantageous I have discovered when we allow ourselves to stop and drop those expectations that will help us create the experience we want. 
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It’s natural that we want to be in hurry, because we live in a society where we are we are constantly on the go, always in a hurry. We’ve become used to having things instantly.  .  We have become so used to this way of living that when we have to wait for something, it can be almost painful, right?  Think about how you feel when your internet is running slow.  Do you get as frustrated as I do?

 We have become so used to having what we want whenever we want it.  And for some reason we think that we shouldn’t have to struggle with anything for any length of time.  So when we are faced with a situation that we don’t like, one that causes us to struggle, it doesn’t feel good.  And I would venture to say that most of us just want to feel good.  And there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel good.  However, being in a hurry to feel good doesn’t work for the long haul.   In fact,  being in a hurry  only creates more of the negative emotion we want to get rid of. 

In this episode we will discuss how this happens, and what we can do about it.  It might even suprise you that in order to feel better, you first have to slow down.   I will teach why this is true and how you can actually get to a place of feeling good again. 

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When we find ourselves experiencing situations we don’t care for, our brain likes to offer us so many thoughts like:

•  this is not how it is supposed to be
• it should be different
• I shouldn’t have to go through this
• He/she should not act this way
•  I would be so happy if this weren’t happening, 
• This is bad
• I must have done something wrong for this to be happening

And on and on. And these thoughts create so many negative emotions that, in turn, create  much pain and suffering for ourselves. 

Fighting against reality is living in denial.  Thinking that if we deny the truth of what is happening, then it won’t happen.  Maybe we think that when we resist the reality of what we are experiencing, we have power over it.  But just the opposite is true.  In this episode we discuss what we create for ourselves when we fight against reality, and how the power truly comes when we accept what is.  
 Accepting what is isn't easy and may take time.  Having a coach to help you get to accepting your reality instead of fighting against it is crucial.  Sign up by clicking the link below for a free coaching call with me and let's get you started on your way.
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The young adult years can be an exciting time.  Experiencing the thrill of independence and embarking on new adventures can be exhilirating.  But, like any other transition in life, it can also bring a lot of fear and uncertainty.  Over the past several years there has been an increased awareness of anxiety and depression when it comes to young adults.  College campuses across the nation have reported a steady increase each year in college students who are experincing both.   https://www.stress.org/anxiety-in-college-students-causes-statistics-how-universities-can-help

In today's episode I talk with Caleb Price, the College Coach who just recently graduated from Utah State University.   He shares some of the main concerns young adults are facing today, and what we can do to best support them as they navigate through this time in their lives, especially when it coes to dealing with anxiety.

As parents, we may naturally think that we can "fix" the struggles our young adult children face by shielding them from their own struggles, or offering unsolicited advice.  Afterall, we've been there before.  But Caleb shares that this kind of "help" is quite detrimental and offers the kind of help that is much more beneficial in helping the young adult in our lives navigate this time in their lives.

If you have a young adult in your life that may be struggling, then reach out to Caleb at https://www.calebpricecoaching 

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Ever have those nights when you can't fall asleep because thoughts are swirling around in your head and the overwhelm and anxiety build and build?   It happens to me all the time!  I call these "thought tornados".  In this short and sweet episode, I share the simple tool that I have found to be the most effective for me and walk you through it step-by-step.  It's amazing how something so simple can make such a big difference!   

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