Have you ever noticed that you genuinely want success, but somehow make getting there harder than it needs to be?

Maybe you want your business to grow, earn more money, or create more freedom. Yet when things start getting easier, you feel uncomfortable, guilty, or like you should be doing more.

In this episode of Embrace Your Value, trauma therapist Kristen Burrus and Beliefs & Boundaries Specialist Jen Anderson explore the beliefs that can make success feel exhausting.

Together, they discuss how our experiences shape what we believe success requires, why being productive can become connected to our sense of worth, and how over-functioning can make it difficult to receive help or allow life to become easier.

Jen shares her experience of working long hours after starting her business because she believed a legitimate business owner should always be working. Kristen brings the trauma and nervous system perspective, explaining why familiar patterns can continue even when we consciously want something different.

You'll also hear about hustle guilt, social comparison, the difference between effort and suffering, and why success can sometimes bring fears about identity, belonging, and deserving more.

The conversation invites you to ask:

What do I secretly believe about success?

Do I know how to experience success, or do I only know how to pursue it?

What would success look like if I defined it around the life I actually want to live?

You don't have to make success more difficult to prove that you've earned it. You can begin building a definition of success that includes your values, your relationships, your well-being, and the freedom you're working toward.

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What if one of the most important apologies you're waiting for needs to come from you?

In this episode of Embrace Your Value, trauma therapist Kristen Burrus and Beliefs & Boundaries Specialist Jen Anderson explore the difference between guilt and shame and why learning to separate what you've done from who you are can be such an important part of self-forgiveness.

Guilt can tell us that something we did wasn't aligned with our values and move us toward repair. Shame goes deeper. It can turn "I made a mistake" into "I am the mistake" and leave us punishing ourselves long after we've learned, changed, or made amends.

Kristen and Jen talk about the things we carry for years: relationships we stayed in, choices we regret, times we didn't speak up, mistakes we've replayed, and decisions our younger selves made without the knowledge and resources we have today.

They also explore the shame people sometimes carry for something that was never theirs to own. When someone else mistreated, betrayed, manipulated, or harmed you, it's easy to turn their behavior into questions about your own worth.

You'll hear how to approach your younger self with curiosity instead of judgment, what a healing apology to yourself can sound like, and why true repair doesn't stop at "I'm sorry."

The episode closes with two powerful prompts:

"I'm sorry I..."

and

"From now on, you can trust me to..."

Because self-forgiveness isn't pretending the past didn't happen. It's taking responsibility for what belongs to you, releasing what doesn't, and deciding how you're going to treat yourself moving forward.

Learn more about Jen Anderson

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You can understand your patterns, recognize your people-pleasing, know what a healthy boundary looks like, and be rebuilding self-trust. Then someone you love gets upset with you, and suddenly everything you've learned becomes much harder to practice.

In this Season 1 finale of Unlearning the Good Girl, Jen Anderson, Beliefs & Boundaries Specialist, explores what happens when boundaries meet real life.

What do you do when your mother sounds disappointed, your partner gets quiet, a friend reacts badly, or someone tells you that you've changed?

You'll learn how to recognize the moment discomfort starts pulling you back toward people-pleasing and self-abandonment, interrupt an old pattern without criticizing yourself, and measure progress by how quickly you're able to recognize what's happening and come back to yourself.

Jen also explores an important question about guilt: Did you violate one of your values, or did you violate an old expectation someone had of you?

You'll hear why another person's disappointment doesn't automatically make your boundary wrong, how compassion and accountability can exist alongside a firm boundary, and why choosing yourself doesn't always mean saying no. Your needs, capacity, values, and desires get to be included in your decisions.

This episode also includes reflection questions to help you identify where and with whom you abandon yourself fastest and what you're afraid might happen if you stay with yourself instead.

📖 Download the free Where Am I Abandoning Myself? Reflection Guide:
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This episode closes Season 1 of Unlearning the Good Girl. If you'd like the playlist with all 13 episodes together, email [email protected] and ask for the Unlearning the Good Girl playlist.

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How do you feel after spending time with the people you call friends?

Supported? Connected? Free to be yourself?

Or do you sometimes leave feeling exhausted, anxious, guilty, or questioning yourself?

In this episode of Embrace Your Value, therapist Kristen Burris and Beliefs & Boundaries Specialist Jen Anderson are doing a friendship audit.

We're looking beyond whether someone texts often enough or occasionally needs more support and asking a deeper question: What does this relationship consistently feel like?

We talk about emotional safety, resentment, one-sided relationship patterns, people-pleasing in friendships, changing friendships, and what happens when you're always the fixer, listener, or person everyone depends on.

We also explore why some friendships need a conversation, some need a boundary, and some may simply need a little more distance.

Most importantly, we turn the audit inward with one powerful question:

Who am I in this friendship?

You don't need to judge your friends or make a dramatic decision today. Get curious about the patterns and notice where you feel most free to be yourself.

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Feeling overwhelmed, emotionally stuck, or unsure why making a clear decision feels so difficult?

In this episode of Embrace Your Value, Jen Anderson interviews therapist Kristen Burrus about her new workbook, Coming Back to Yourself: A Simple and Practical Workbook for Emotional Regulation, Self-Understanding, and Clearer Choices.

Kristen shares why emotional regulation is such an important part of understanding yourself, how becoming more grounded can help you make clearer value-based decisions, and why you don’t have to work through personal growth in a perfectly prescribed order.

We also explore Kristen’s House of Self model, which connects:

• Values as the foundation

• Boundaries as the walls that protect those values

• Access and choices as the doors

• Perspective as the windows through which we see the world

• Meaning as the roof that helps bring it all together

Kristen also explains how Coming Back to Yourself can be used independently or alongside therapy as a practical tool for reflection, conversation, and greater self-understanding.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, disconnected from yourself, stuck in your emotions, or unsure what you really want, this conversation may give you a helpful place to begin.

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You know what a boundary is. You recognize your people-pleasing patterns. You may even catch yourself abandoning what you need in real time.

So why do you still do it?

In this episode of Unlearning the Good Girl, Jen Anderson talks about what happens after awareness and how you actually become the woman who stops abandoning herself.

We're talking about rebuilding self-trust through small promises, learning to pause before automatically accommodating someone else, allowing other people to have their own feelings, and recognizing progress even when old patterns still show up.

You'll also hear why becoming more boundaried doesn't require becoming less compassionate and why you don't have to wait until guilt disappears before choosing yourself differently.

The woman you're becoming gets built in small moments when you decide you're worth listening to.

Download the free Where Am I Abandoning Myself? Reflection Guide:
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Have a question or want Unlearning the Good Girl to continue? Email Jen at [email protected].

Choosing yourself will cost you.

When you've spent years being the dependable one, the helper, the peacekeeper, or the woman who always says yes, changing those patterns can feel deeply uncomfortable. Setting a healthy boundary may disappoint someone. A relationship may change. You may discover how much of your identity has become connected to being needed.

In this episode of Unlearning the Good Girl, Jen Anderson, Beliefs & Boundaries Specialist, explores what really happens when you begin choosing yourself.

You'll hear why other people's discomfort doesn't automatically mean your boundary is wrong, how over-functioning can shape relationships, and why learning to tolerate the discomfort of change is part of rebuilding self-trust.

Jen also shares a powerful client story about what happened when one woman finally stopped over-giving in a one-sided friendship, along with reflection questions to help you recognize where you may still be abandoning yourself for approval.

Choosing yourself may change what feels familiar. It can also give you greater peace, clarity, self-respect, and space to hear yourself again.

📖 Download the free Choose You Reflection Guide:
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Have you ever replayed a conversation over and over, made endless pros and cons lists, or asked everyone you know for advice, only to feel just as stuck?

In this episode of Embrace Your Value, trauma therapist Kristen Burris and Beliefs & Boundaries Specialist Jen Anderson explore why overthinking is often less about needing more information and more about feeling unsafe making a decision.

Together, they discuss how past experiences shape the way we approach uncertainty, why perfectionism and people-pleasing keep us stuck, and how self-trust is built by taking one small step at a time.

If you've been waiting until you feel completely certain before making a decision, this conversation will encourage you to trust yourself, take action, and remember that confidence is built by doing—not by waiting.

Connect with Jen Anderson

Website: https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the.jennifer.anderson

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.jennifer.anderson

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thankfulheartscoaching

Connect with Kristen Burris

Website: https://www.kristenburrus.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enlighten_services

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/enlighten_services

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In this episode of Unlearning the Good Girl on Embrace Your Value, Jen Anderson talks about something that catches a lot of women off guard on the healing journey: grief. Not grief over losing someone, but grief over how long you carried too much, how long you ignored yourself, and how long you believed your worth depended on what you could do for everyone else.

Jen walks through why grief is part of the bridge to healing rather than a detour away from it, why so many women skip straight to fixing and stay stuck, and what it looks like to offer the old version of yourself compassion instead of criticism. Reflection prompts included.

Download the free reflection guide at www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/chooseyou.

Reach Jen directly at [email protected]

What if someone had told you years ago that rest is allowed before burnout, other people's emotions aren't your responsibility, and you don't have to abandon yourself to be loved?

In this episode of Embrace Your Value, Jen Anderson and trauma therapist Kristen Burris share the life lessons they wish they had learned much earlier in life. Together, they explore people-pleasing, over-functioning, emotional responsibility, healing, self-trust, and why choosing yourself doesn't mean losing your compassion for others.

If you've ever felt emotionally exhausted from carrying everyone else's needs while ignoring your own, this conversation offers encouragement, practical insight, and the reminder that you're allowed to grow into a healthier version of yourself.

Resources

📖 Download Jen's free reflection guide, Where Am I Abandoning Myself?
https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/chooseyou

🌐 Learn more about Jen:
https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com

Connect with Jen Anderson

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the.jennifer.anderson

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.jennifer.anderson

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thankfulheartscoaching

Connect with Kristen Burris

Website: https://www.kristenburrus.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enlighten_services

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/enlighten_services

Contact the Embrace Your Value Podcast

Email: [email protected]