In this powerful episode of Embracing Intensity, we welcome Caroline J. Sumlin—author of We’ll All Be Free—for a deep, vulnerable, and inspiring conversation about collective liberation, the impact of white supremacy culture, and how we can begin to reclaim our worth. Caroline shares her perspective as a neurodivergent mother, speaker, and educator, and we explore the intersection of self-worth, systemic oppression, and sustainable social justice work.

Caroline is an author, speaker, and homeschool parent living in the Washington D.C. area. Her work centers on liberation from white supremacy culture, with a focus on how systemic oppression impacts self-worth. Her book, We’ll All Be Free, is a guide to deprogramming the internalized messages of white supremacy and reclaiming your true self. Caroline’s mission is to help others recognize the worth that oppressive systems have tried to erase.

• The importance of understanding how white supremacy culture harms everyone—not just the most marginalized.

• Why urgency, productivity, and perfectionism are tools of white supremacy—and how to break free.

• Navigating motivation and urgency as a neurodivergent person.

• Creating a life of joy and balance while staying engaged in liberation work.

• The importance of connecting with our shared humanity in social justice conversations.

• Understanding collective harm and our responsibility in collective healing.

• Caroline's perspective on using privilege for good and deconditioning colonial thinking.

• Caroline J. Sumlin’s Website

• We’ll All Be Free – Caroline’s Book

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In this thought-provoking episode of Embracing Intensity, Aurora sits down with Sheldon Gay, host of the I Must Be BUG'N podcast, which amplifies the stories and voices of Black, unidentified, underrepresented, gifted, and otherwise neurodivergent people. Sheldon is deeply insightful, warm, and grounded in his advocacy to humanize the neurodivergent experience. Together, they dive into the power of mirroring—that magical moment when we see ourselves reflected in others—and how it plays a crucial role in identity, belonging, and connection.

Sheldon shares his personal journey discovering his giftedness later in life and how joining neurodivergent spaces offered a profound sense of home and validation. He speaks candidly about emotional giftedness, navigating systems that often don’t recognize or affirm difference, and the importance of compassion, boundaries, and self-trust.

✨ In this episode:

• What mirroring means and why it’s vital for neurodivergent people

• How Sheldon discovered his giftedness and launched I Must Be BUG'N

• Why IQ tests don’t tell the whole story of intelligence or giftedness

• Emotional giftedness, self-doubt, and how we process emotions

• Compassion and boundaries in spaces where we feel misunderstood

• Recognizing our gifts even when others don’t

• The power of community connection and storytelling

• Insights into upcoming collaborative projects with Sheldon, including neurodivergent-friendly apps

• Reflections on Aurora’s recent blog post on neurodivergent relationships

🔗 Resources & Links:

• I Must Be BUG'N Podcast

• Embracing Intensity Community

• Aurora’s Blog Post on Neurodivergent Relationships

• Intuitive Flow Podcast Episode

Whether you’re just beginning your journey or deep into exploring your neurodivergent identity, this conversation is a reminder that you are not alone—and that your experiences, brilliance, and emotions are valid and worthy of being seen.

🎧 Listen now and feel seen.

This week on the Embracing Intensity podcast, I’m thrilled to welcome back the always thoughtful and illuminating Brendan Mahan, founder of ADHD Essentials and creator of the Wall of Awful. In this free-flowing and deeply relatable conversation, we dive into the realities of ADHD burnout, navigating screen time, and what it really means to rest. Brendan and I both share personally about our own experiences with burnout and recovery, and how we’re learning to work with our neurodivergent brains instead of against them.

Brendan Mahan is a speaker, coach, and host of the ADHD Essentials Podcast. He specializes in helping families, educators, and individuals better understand ADHD through metaphor, structure, and compassion. Brendan is known for his "Wall of Awful" model—a powerful visual metaphor that helps people identify and move through the emotional blocks that make motivation so hard for those with ADHD. He’s currently working on a book titled Overcoming the Wall of Awful, expected to release in 2026.

• The difference between hard fascination and soft fascination, and why the latter is key for real rest

• What the Default Mode Network is and how it affects neurodivergent minds

• How screen time mimics rest but often leads to hard fascination and further mental exhaustion

• The origins of the Wall of Awful and how it helps people understand motivation challenges

• Tools Brendan uses to access soft fascination, from walks in the woods to weighted pressure

• The idea of contaminated time and how it sabotages meaningful rest

• Navigating professional transitions and creative burnout

• Letting go of transactional relationships and leaning into transformational connection

• Using Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to intentionally rebuild from burnout

• How embracing your values and regulating sensory input can be powerful tools for recovery

• Reframing burnout as a “season” and holding onto hope that things can and do change

🎧 Tune in to hear a heartfelt, relatable conversation on burnout, ADHD, and the power of slowing down with intention. Whether you're deep in burnout or on the road to recovery, this episode offers compassionate insights and practical tools to help you find your way back to balance.

• Brendan Mahan – ADHD Essentials

• The Wall of Awful on How to ADHD (YouTube)

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In this inspiring episode of Embracing Intensity, I’m joined by the vibrant and insightful Fizzah Zaidi, a psychotherapist based in Chicago who works with adults with ADHD, especially those navigating high-pressure environments like tech and finance. We originally connected at an ADHD conference over boots and breakfast, and I’m so excited to bring her energy and wisdom to the podcast!

Fizzah shares her journey from a creative career in animation to becoming a mental health professional, her passion for social justice, and how she uses her intensity to empower her clients. Together, we explore what it means to navigate neurodivergence with curiosity, creativity, and self-compassion.

Fizzah is a psychotherapist and former animator who brings her creative flair and social justice focus into her therapeutic practice. Working primarily with high-achieving adults in the finance and tech sectors, she specializes in supporting ADHD and twice-exceptional individuals as they navigate complex challenges in both personal and professional settings. Her approach is multimodal, trauma-informed, and deeply rooted in empathy, humor, and the belief that everyone deserves someone who truly believes in them.

• How Fizzah uses creativity and multimodal therapy to connect with clients

• The role of social justice in her personal and professional intensity

• Navigating cultural stigma around mental health and emotional expression

• Toning down to survive: childhood masking and fear of judgment

• Channeling intensity into advocacy: challenging grad school policies while pregnant

• Why “being kind to yourself” means embracing your human moments

• The power of curiosity and education in making sense of your neurodivergent brain

• Executive function myths: the difference between lacking skills vs. activation

• Building community care, challenging black-and-white thinking, and supporting clients in discovering their fire

Fizzah reminds us that intensity can be a powerful force for justice, healing, and growth when it’s supported and expressed authentically. Her story highlights the importance of giving ourselves permission to feel, question, and grow in our own unique ways—and supporting others as they do the same. Whether you’re navigating neurodivergence, embracing your emotional depth, or looking for ways to channel your fire, this episode will leave you feeling seen and inspired.

🎧 Tune in now and discover how you, too, can embrace your intensity and turn it into your greatest strength.

• Fizzah Zaidi Psychotherapy Website: fzpsychotherapy.com

• Connect with Fizzah via Email: Available through her website

• Located in Chicago? Reach out and grab coffee with Fizzah!

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After a bit of a break from long-form content, I’m so excited to be back with a solo episode that’s deeply personal and incredibly timely. I’ve missed connecting with you more intimately through the podcast and am looking forward to bringing you more episodes like this in the coming months.

Lately, I’ve been diving into the topic of neurodivergent burnout, something I’ve experienced firsthand and that I know many of you can relate to. I’ve written two blog posts on the topic and shared a companion video on YouTube—and even tested out long-form content on TikTok for the first time!

This episode is a heartfelt exploration of what burnout can look like for those of us who are gifted, ADHD, autistic, or otherwise neurodivergent, and how we can begin to recover and reconnect with our energy and purpose.

Over the last three years, I’ve been working through the most intense burnout of my life. It started during the pandemic and lingered far beyond, as I struggled to return to the rhythms of daily life in a world that never truly went "back to normal." Like many neurodivergent individuals, I found myself caught in a cycle of urgency, executive dysfunction, emotional exhaustion, and identity loss—especially as a twice-exceptional adult who spent years masking and pushing through.

Throughout this episode, I share how I began healing by shifting my energy focus, consuming more uplifting media, and building out my self-regulation toolkit. These small but impactful steps helped me start to climb out of burnout and reconnect with my values and purpose.

• What neurodivergent burnout really is and how it differs from general burnout
• The impact of executive dysfunction, sensory overload, and masking
• The "gifted kid burnout" problem and how identity gets tangled in achievement
• How urgency culture creates cycles of burnout and crash
• Using the “circle of influence” vs. “circle of concern” to refocus energy
• Shifting media consumption and moving from doomscrolling to hope scrolling
• The importance of community care and authentic connection
• Building a personalized self-regulation toolkit for long-term energy balance
• Learning to ask for help and receive support without guilt
• A reminder: burnout is not a personal failure—it’s a survival response

Burnout is an all-too-common challenge for neurodivergent people, and it often looks very different from what the general population might expect. For autistic people, ADHD burnout, and other forms of neurodivergent burnout, it’s not just about long hours or hard work—it’s about the constant effort of navigating a neurotypical world without adequate support. The neurodivergent mind processes sensory input, social interaction, and executive function tasks in different ways, often leading to sensory processing issues and emotional exhaustion. Many autistic adults and neurodivergent individuals experience a greater risk of burnout due to the compounding effects of chronic stress, loss of skills, and a deep lack of motivation when support systems are not in place.

While neurotypical people may recover from burnout with rest alone, a neurodivergent adult often needs more nuanced strategies to heal—ones that take into account their unique neurodivergent traits, sensory experiences, and cognitive abilities. Burnout can also exacerbate mood disorders like anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Unfortunately, many family members, employers, and even mental health professionals may overlook these common causes, failing to provide the school accommodations, social support, or safe place needed for recovery. Whether it’s through personal experience, insights from advocates or participation in online communities, it’s clear that understanding the term neurodivergent and how it manifests is crucial. Supporting autistic children, ADHD individuals, and all neurodivergent people in reaching their full potential means meeting human needs, addressing sensory processing issues, and creating an ideal world where burnout is not the norm—but a sign that something deeper must be healed.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re constantly pushing through exhaustion, struggling to find balance, or wondering why everything feels so hard—you are not alone. Neurodivergent burnout is real, and it’s not a reflection of your worth or capability. It’s a signal that your needs deserve more care, compassion, and community support.

Let this episode be a gentle reminder that your intensity is not too much, your rest is valid, and your healing matters. I’d love to hear from you—what topics would you like me to explore further on the podcast? And if you’re ready to start building your own toolkit for energy balance and self-regulation, check out the PowerZone Toolkit Challenge, now available anytime you need it.

🎧 Listen now and take your next step toward recovery and reclaiming your energy.

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In this episode of Embracing Intensity, host Aurora Remember sits down with Caroline J. Sumlin, author of We’ll All Be Free: How a Culture of White Supremacy Devalues Us and How We Can Reclaim Our True Worth. Together, they explore the intersection of intensity, self-worth, and collective liberation.

Caroline shares her journey from feeling like she was “too much” to reclaiming her intensity as a gift. They dive into how societal systems—especially those rooted in white supremacy—fuel perfectionism, hustle culture, and the feeling of never being good enough. This conversation is both deeply personal and action-oriented, offering tools for doing the inner work to break free from these toxic systems and reclaim your inherent worth.

Caroline J. Sumlin is a writer, speaker, and educator whose work focuses on dismantling the toxic cultural messages rooted in white supremacy that tell us we are never enough. She empowers individuals—especially Black women and other marginalized communities—to reclaim their self-worth and reimagine a liberated, fulfilling life.

Her book, We’ll All Be Free, blends personal narrative, social commentary, and actionable guidance to help readers break free from perfectionism, self-doubt, and societal pressure.

• The Never-Enough Culture – How systems of white supremacy drive perfectionism and keep us striving to prove our worth.

• Intensity as a Gift – Caroline’s journey from being labeled “intense” to recognizing her passion as a source of power.

• Masking and Cultural Expectations – The pressure on Black women to tone down their true selves and “fit in.”

• Self-Discovery as Liberation – Why examining how systems shape our beliefs is essential to personal and collective freedom.

• Finding Outlets for Intensity – How Caroline channels her energy through writing, tennis, acting, and music.

• The Power of Rest and Reclaiming Time – How rest can be a radical act of resistance in a culture that values productivity over well-being.

• Navigating ADHD and Giftedness – Caroline’s exploration into her own possible neurodivergence and her daughter’s twice-exceptionality journey.

• Ripple Effect Change – Why small, intentional actions can lead to lasting, collective transformation.

• Your worth is not tied to your productivity.

• Systems of oppression benefit from keeping us feeling “not enough.”

• Intensity is a strength when you learn to embrace and channel it.

• Rest is a radical act of resistance against hustle culture.

• Small, personal shifts can ripple outward to create collective change.

• Caroline’s Website 

• Follow Caroline on Instagram & Threads: @carolinejsumlin

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• Twice-Exceptionality Stories Playlist (YouTube)

In this episode of Embracing Intensity, I’m thrilled to welcome Sheldon Gay, host of the I Must Be Buggin’ podcast. Sheldon brings his insightful perspective on navigating life as a late-identified gifted and neurodivergent individual. His podcast and work are dedicated to amplifying underrepresented voices and empowering others to embrace their unique identities.

We explore the challenges and beauty of being true to oneself in a world that often misunderstands intensity, neurodivergence, and giftedness. Sheldon’s passion for self-discovery, emotional depth, and compassionate communication shines through in this powerful conversation.

About Sheldon:

Sheldon Gay is the host of the I Must Be Buggin’ podcast, where he delves into topics of identity, giftedness, and neurodivergence through the lens of being Black, underrepresented, and gifted. His mission is to create a space for self-awareness, acceptance, and growth, while helping others see and embrace their unique strengths.

Sheldon’s background as a late-identified gifted and neurodivergent individual has fueled his passion for helping others on their journey of self-discovery. He brings a thoughtful, empathetic approach to conversations on identity, culture, and the power of authenticity.

In This Episode:

• Navigating Identity as a Late-Identified Neurodivergent Individual – Sheldon shares his journey of discovering his giftedness and neurodivergence later in life.

• Ask vs. Guess Culture – A deep dive into communication styles, cultural nuances, and how self-awareness can help bridge differences.

• The Power of Self-Discovery – Reflections on how shadow work and embracing authenticity can lead to freedom from shame and guilt.

• Intensity and Emotional Depth – Exploring how Sheldon’s intellectual curiosity and emotional intensity shape his interactions and relationships.

• Cultural Expectations and Exceptionalism – Discussing the pressures faced by marginalized communities and how giftedness intersects with cultural identity.

• Truth with Compassion – The importance of sharing truth in ways that create connection and understanding rather than division.

Resources & Links:

• Sheldon’s Website: Sheldon Gay is Buggin

• Listen to the I Must Be Buggin’ podcast

• Learn more about Sheldon’s speaking engagements

• Explore his neuroaffirming and anti-racist merchandise

• Join the Embracing Intensity Community 

• Connect with Aurora: Embracing Intensity

Sheldon’s thoughtful reflections and passion for empowering others provide invaluable insights for anyone navigating their own journey of self-discovery and authenticity. Tune in for an engaging and inspiring conversation!

Listen now and share your thoughts with us! 🎧✨

In this episode of Embracing Intensity, we’re excited to share the Q&A portion of our powerful conversation with Nneka Denise, founder of the Write to Heal Project. This discussion offers timely tools and insights as we reflect on letting go of the past year and preparing for a fresh, intentional start in the new year.

Nneka shares her transformative approach to healing through writing, addressing grief not only as it relates to loss but also to life transitions, personal growth, and emotional clarity. Whether you’re navigating stress, seeking emotional release, or exploring creative outlets, this episode provides practical strategies to help you move forward.

Nneka Denise is the founder of the Write to Heal Project and a trained end-of-life and bereavement doula based in the Portland-Vancouver area. Through journaling, visualization, and somatic practices, Nneka helps individuals process grief, trauma, and life’s emotional challenges. She also runs the New Wellness Center in downtown Portland, a collective of holistic healing practitioners offering vibrational sound baths, Reiki, massage, and emotional wellness support.

• The Science of Writing to Heal – How writing can help process emotions, grief, and transitions in life.
• Practical Writing Strategies – Tips for using gratitude journaling, brain dumps, and affirmations to create a daily healing practice.
• Ceremonial Release – The power of burning or shredding written emotions as a symbolic act of letting go.
• Affirmations for Healing – How to create affirmations that feel believable and achievable, guiding you toward positive change.
• Navigating Writing Challenges – Nneka’s advice for those with ADHD, dyslexia, or writing apprehensions, including voice dictation and alternative methods.

• Connect with Nneka on Instagram: @nneka_denise

• Contact Nneka via email: [email protected]

• Learn about the New Wellness Center in Downtown Portland (10th & Morrison)

• Explore the Embracing Intensity Community and Memberships.

• Preorder Aurora’s workbook, Energy Balance (Kindle edition), available this Friday, December 20th.

Nneka’s work offers invaluable tools for self-reflection, healing, and emotional growth through the simple yet profound act of writing. Whether you’re a lifelong journaler or just beginning your healing journey, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you process emotions and step into the new year with intention.

Listen now and take the first step toward embracing your own healing process! 🎧✨

In this highly engaging episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman dives deep into the world of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) with Bob Yamtich, a seasoned practitioner with over 20 years of experience. Bob shares how NVC has shaped his approach to relationships, parenting, and self-understanding, particularly as a neurodivergent individual. This conversation is packed with practical insights and tools for those seeking to enhance their self-connection and interpersonal communication.

About Bob Yamtich:

Bob Yamtich is a dedicated Nonviolent Communication trainer, therapist, and engineer. His journey into NVC began after his career as an environmental engineer, driven by his desire to contribute to societal change through better communication. Bob’s unique approach integrates empathy with analytical insights, honoring the importance of neurodivergence in his work and personal growth. He is a passionate advocate for using NVC as a bridge between self-awareness and impactful communication.

In This Episode:

• Bob’s personal journey with Nonviolent Communication and how it helped him find balance as a bipolar individual.

• The core principles of NVC: self-connection, empathy, and honesty.

• How to distinguish between needs and strategies, and why it matters in communication.

• The concept of holding multiple needs and strategies simultaneously for resilience and creativity.

• Balancing analytical insights with empathy in understanding neurodivergence.

• Practical exercises, including identifying three current needs and corresponding strategies.

• How NVC fosters community, shared power, and collaborative problem-solving.

• Bob’s experiences teaching NVC to diverse audiences, including children and incarcerated individuals.

• The shift from “battle mode” to “build mode” in creating meaningful connections.

Links and Resources:

• Learn more about Nonviolent Communication and its principles here.

• Learn more about Bob on his website!

• Explore Aurora’s Neurodivergent Toolbox and other resources at the Embracing Intensity Shop.

• Get 25% off Aurora's digital products and memberships with code BIRTHDAY24 (valid until Dec 2).

Whether you're new to Nonviolent Communication or a seasoned practitioner, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable strategies for enriching your connections with yourself and others. Tune in for a thought-provoking and uplifting discussion!

This episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, features a detailed conversation with Heather Borman Morris about understanding narcissistic relationships and how they uniquely affect gifted and neurodivergent individuals. Heather, a clinical social worker, shares her personal experience with narcissistic abuse, providing insights on identifying covert narcissism versus mere intense interest, particularly in neurodivergent or twice-exceptional individuals. The discussion delves into strategies for recognizing and managing toxic relationships, differentiating between narcissism and authentic behaviors, and emphasizes the need for understanding personal boundaries and fostering healthy relationships post-abuse. The episode also introduces Heather's work, including her book 'A Thousand Paper Cuts' and the podcast 'Starting Stronger'.

About Heather:

Heather Boorman-Morris is a renowned therapist, speaker, and author dedicated to helping individuals heal and thrive after experiencing toxic relationships. With over two decades of experience in the field, Heather specializes in trauma recovery, relationship dynamics, and neurodivergent mental health. She is the founder of Starting Stronger and the author of the acclaimed book Thousand Paper Cuts: Finding Healing in the Aftermath of a Narcissist. Heather’s compassionate approach and deep understanding of complex emotional landscapes make her a sought-after expert in the journey towards healthy, fulfilling relationships.

In this episode:

• Heather joins the podcast to discuss navigating healthy relationships, focusing on narcissistic abuse.

• Heather shares her experience of being in an abusive relationship and later discovering covert narcissism.

• Discussion on the targeting of neurodivergent individuals by narcissists, highlighting their traits like empathy and ambition.

• Differences between overt and covert narcissists are outlined, including their stages of relationship: idealization, devaluation, and discard.

• Strategies like mirroring used by manipulators in relationships are explained.

• Emphasis on trusting one's body and intuition as indicators of being in a toxic relationship.

• Conversation on distinguishing between love bombing and genuine neurodivergent intensity.

• Importance of taking time to build relationships and recognizing genuine intentions.

• Discussion about the impact of past trauma and hyper-vigilance when forming new relationships.

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