Emotion At Work

Episode 88 - Emotion at Work in Beautiful Leadership

Episode Summary In this episode, Phil is joined by Dawn Stallwood, the brilliant author behind the book Beautiful Leadership and a seasoned corporate M&A lawyer. Dawn brings nearly three decades of experience in high-stakes environments to the table, sharing why she wrote this book as a legacy piece to mark her 50th birthday and to build an "army of beautiful leaders". The conversation begins with the signature "innocuous question", exploring the environments Dawn chooses when the pressure is on and she needs to create capacity. This sets the perfect stage for the episode, as Phil masterfully hijacks Dawn's book structure (the seven phases of a Red Admiral butterfly's flight) to use as the flight path for their conversation. They dive deep into capacity versus competence, the F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real) framework, checking your "empathy tank", and the profound realisation that leadership is a human endeavour that requires bravery, not perfection.

Key Topics Discussed:

The Innocuous Question (01:27): Dawn shares how she creates capacity when the pressure is on, whether that is finding an unfamiliar quiet coffee shop, using noise-reducing headphones, or taking walking meetings.

The Red Admiral Metaphor (09:27): Why Dawn chose the Red Admiral butterfly as the emblem for her framework, recognising that everything needed for transformation is already present within us.

The Defining Mark & Istanbul (12:18): Dawn shares a touching story about her mother in Turkey and the phrase "Sen güzelsin" ("You are beautiful"), redefining beauty in leadership as how someone is experienced, received, and perceived.

Flight Pressure & Capacity (22:48): Exploring how high-pressure environments (like M&A deals) often expose a lack of capacity rather than a lack of competence, and how fear and pride can manifest as toxic workplace behaviours.

Wing Notes & F.E.A.R. (34:47): A life-changing reframe of fear as "False Evidence Appearing Real", and how this tool can stop leaders from catastrophising.

In Flight & Guarding Space (40:34): The importance of leaders setting boundaries, acting as stewards of their roles, and intentionally creating space so they do not get wrung out.

A Vulnerable Pivot (47:21): Dawn shares a deeply personal and recent story of a severe health scare that forced her to critically evaluate her own "always-on" operating model, highlighting the very real consequences of ignoring your capacity limits.

Stretch & The Empathy Tank (53:34): Understanding your superpowers versus your kryptonite, and how checking the building blocks of empathy can help you replenish your tank.

Release & Imperfection (01:02:09): The freeing realisation that you do not need to be a perfect leader; you just need to be a beautiful one

Guest Bio Dawn Stallwood is a corporate M&A lawyer and advisor with nearly 30 years of experience guiding CEOs, founders, and boards through high-stakes deals and critical transitions. She is the author of Beautiful Leadership, a book she wrote as a legacy piece to mark her 50th birthday. Dawn is on a mission to build an "army of beautiful leaders", helping professionals slow down, build true capacity, and embrace the beautiful imperfections of leading people.

Find out more about Dawn Stallwood:

Website & Book: www.thebeautifulleader.com

LinkedIn: Search for Dawn Stallwood

Email: [email protected]

Episode Summary

Phil Willcox is joined by Sara Sabin to explore the internal game of leadership and why tools and frameworks aren’t enough without emotional mastery. Sara explains that mastery isn’t about being emotionless, it’s about noticing emotions without resisting them, regulating in the moment and spending more time in emotional neutrality (calm and clear, not suppression or “not caring”).

They share a practical pathway, awareness, acknowledgement, acceptance, labelling and processing, plus two quick regulation tools: the power of the pause and a short mental rehearsal before high-pressure moments.

The conversation also tackles “repellent energy” (neediness that leaks through communication), how to stay ambitious without over-attaching to outcomes and why many leaders build confidence on external validation. Sara introduces internal scaffolding, a steadier confidence that holds up when work and life shake your identity.

Key Topics Discussed

Guest Bio

Sara Sabin is a Business Profits and Leadership Strategist who works with founders and senior leaders of high-growth SMEs to strengthen performance, confidence and impact. She supports leaders who recognise that sustainable growth requires more than strategy alone, blending leadership strategy with mindset and emotional mastery to help clients lead under pressure, build resilient teams and achieve greater results without burnout.

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-c-sabin-coach/

Email: https://www.sarasabin.com/

Website: https://www.sarasabin.com/

Working Joyfully and Living Fully with Dr. Tiffany Slater

Episode Summary

In this episode, Phil is joined by Dr. Tiffany Slater, a seasoned Human Resources professional and the CEO of HR TaylorMade. Tiffany is passionate about helping small business owners create HR systems and policies that support the whole company, driven by her philosophy: "Work Joyfully, Live Fully".

The conversation begins, as always, with the "innocuous question." Tiffany shares her love for cooking breakfast for her family—specifically pancakes, eggs, and a special "monkey bread" biscuit dish—which sets the stage for a discussion on family, connection, and joy.

Tiffany then opens up about her personal journey from a miserable corporate existence to entrepreneurship. She shares a vulnerable story about how health scares and a spiritual calling pushed her to leave a job where she was unhappy, eventually leading her to build a business that allows her to live her life to the fullest .

Phil and Tiffany dig deep into the practicalities of creating a joyful workplace. They discuss why HR policies shouldn't read like a "prison handbook," but instead should be clear, kind, and effective. They also explore the vital distinction between being "nice" (surface level) versus being "kind" (compassionate candor), and why frequent feedback is essential because, as Tiffany jokingly puts it, "people suck and it's our fault" when leaders fail to set clear expectations.

Key Topics Discussed:

The Innocuous Question: Why breakfast is the meal that brings Tiffany’s family together

The Pivot: How Tiffany moved from professional misery to joyful entrepreneurship through faith and resilience 

Overcoming Fear: The importance of cataloguing past successes to get through the scary moments of running a business.

Joyful HR: Creating employee policies that are punitive only when necessary, but supportive and flexible by design

Feedback Loops: Why annual reviews aren't enough and the need for quarterly touchpoints.

Nice vs. Kind: Understanding why clear, direct feedback is kinder than polite ambiguity.

The Three Big Questions:

What impact do you want to make?

How do you want to improve the lives of others?

What do you want your story to be?

Guest Bio

Dr. Tiffany Slater is a human resources professional with over 20 years of experience. She is the CEO of HR TaylorMade, where she focuses on inspiring others to reach their highest level of achievement. Tiffany is known for having real conversations about success, failure, and the joy of a well-lived life.

Connect with Dr. Tiffany Slater:

Website: Fractional Human Resources Built For You

Email: [email protected] 

Introduction:

In this episode, we are joined by Molly Whiteside, a psychology student at Nottingham Trent University, to discuss her recent research report, "Am I Being Served?" which explores emotional exploitation in the hospitality industry. With lived experience in the field, Molly delves into the prevalence of economic and verbal exploitation, unsafe working conditions, and the lack of psychological safety faced by young employees.

We explore the surprising and often shocking findings from her research, which combines quantitative and qualitative data to paint a vivid picture of the challenges faced by 16-25 year olds in the workplace. From unfair pay and a lack of job security to the gendered nature of harassment, this episode uncovers the root causes of these issues and offers practical advice for young people, managers, and the industry as a whole.

Show Notes:

Resources:

Contact Us:

If you're looking to create a more psychologically safe and emotionally intelligent workplace, get in touch with us at [email protected].

You can also connect with Molly here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mollywhiteside/

Long time listeners may well know Phil has a penchant for poetry and the episodes guest leads with it in the work they do. Creator of the Poetry in Business conference and seizing a gap in the market to create the conference she would want to go to, Kate Jenkinson is the guest for this podcast episode. With over 25 years’ experience as an HR director and a lifelong passion for development, Kate brings a unique perspective on how poetry can transform the workplace.

The conversation begins with an evocative opening about sunsets, leading into Kate’s reflections on poetry as a form of creative recovery from the efficiency-driven world of corporate life. She shares her journey of weaving poetry into business, the resistance she’s faced, and the communities she’s built along the way.

Together, Phil and Kate explore the emotional power of poetry, its role in meaning-making, and its potential to unlock creativity, connection, and wellbeing at work. Kate also shares her pride in a deeply personal collaboration with her daughter, her vision for the future of business poets, and practical steps for listeners to “find their poetry.”

The episode closes with Kate performing her poem Hope, a moving reminder of poetry’s ability to inspire resilience and renewal.

🌅 Opening and Poetic Beginnings (00:09 – 06:30)

🖋️ Poetry as Creative Recovery (06:31 – 15:30)

💡 Emotion, Resistance and Transformation (15:31 – 26:30)

🎶 Meaning-Making and Everyday Poetry (26:31 – 39:00)

👩‍👧 Personal Pride and Creative Legacy (39:01 – 33:30)

📚 Practical Ways to Find Your Poetry (34:31 – 42:30)

🌍 The Future of Business Poets (42:31 – 47:00)

🌟 Closing Reflections and Performance (47:01 – end)

🔗 Find out more about Kate Jenkinson

Overview

Here is Katie's LinkedIn Bio https://www.linkedin.com/in/katieallenconsulting/

And her website https://www.katieallenconsulting.com/

Episode Summary: In this episode of the Emotion at Work podcast, host Phil Willcox dives into the integral role of emotion in building and sustaining high-performing teams. Following on from the previous discussion on meetings, accountability, relationships and decision-making, Phil shifts focus to four additional critical areas: communication, wellbeing, recognition and performance. With emotion woven throughout these elements, Phil shares insights and actionable advice for creating environments where people feel safe, optimistic, and confident.

Phil explores:

Expect reflective questions to challenge your thinking and help embed emotion-led practices in your own team.

What’s Next? Future episodes promise to expand on these themes with expert guests, including High Performing Teams coach Kim Brosnan and clients who've embraced the emotion-led blueprint. Look forward to hearing their stories and experiences.

Contact Information: For feedback, questions, or to connect with Phil on [email protected]

In this episode, Phil Willcox explores the critical role of emotions in fostering high-performing teams. This is the first part of a mini-series that delves into the essence of high performance and how emotions drive it.

Phil dives deep into:

Throughout the episode, Phil poses thought-provoking questions to encourage deeper reflection, such as:

This mini-series will continue with a focus on the remaining four levers: Well-being, Performance, Recognition, and Communication.

In this episode, Lizzi, our Emotion at Work Marketing Manager, sits down with Ross Garner and Anna Barnett from The Mind Tools for L&D podcast to explore their ground breaking research into management practices.

Together, they explore the recent study, conducted in partnership with YouGov, which gathered data across 12 industries. The research uncovered some key insights into the realities of management today.

The study identified 12 core management capabilities essential for success: delegation, goal setting, transparent communication, coaching, active listening, recognition, inclusive leadership, trust, social sensitivity, self-awareness, self-regulation and empathy. Notably, empathy was linked to a 34% increase in team innovation.

The conversation also touches on the significance of happiness and satisfaction in the workplace. Research shows that employee satisfaction is associated with better long-term performance and happy employees are more likely to engage in self-driven learning.

Tune in to gain insights into the future of management and discover how to create leadership that drives performance and innovation.

Links

Building Better Mangers Report: https://www.mindtools.com/thought-leadership/reports/building-better-managers/

Anna mentions working with Michelle Ockers: https://michelleockers.com/

Anna Barnett LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-barnett-phd/?originalSubdomain=uk

Ross Garner LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ross-garner-8594a341/?originalSubdomain=uk

Mind Tools L&D podcast: https://www.mindtools.com/podcast/l-d/ 

During Episode 79 of the podcast, Phil interviews Rachael Edmondson-Clarke, an expert in leadership, psychology and biology, who highlights the role of emotions in the workplace.

The conversation begins with the significance of emotional intelligence, highlighting Rachael's personal experiences with warmth and connection, particularly with her children, along with her insights on the use of psychology and biology in leadership. They discuss Rachael's own burnout and recovery journey, stressing the need for recognising early signs, taking breaks and practicing self-care.

The episode further explores the value of appreciative feedback, effective communication strategies, and the importance of curiosity in learning. As the discussion wraps up, Rachael shares thoughts on creating meaningful connections, balancing validation and prioritising physical well-being alongside mindset.

Links

Rachael’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachaeledmondsonclarke/