We all want to be provide a supportive shoulder for the people we love, but when does healthy venting become emotional dumping (and how do you tell the difference)? Today, the Cassels dive into this important boundary issue and share some of the ways that you can recognize when someone is crossing the line! In this episode, Amy defines these two sides of the same coin and explains some real-world examples we can all recognize, while Tray gives some excellent advice on how to be an active listener without trying to fix the other person's problems. We also find out what the Cassels are up to in January 2022, hear a funny story about how Tray finally put his grill together, and Amy shares some touching honesty about her feelings towards the signs of aging. We hope you tune in for another educational and heartfelt sit-down with the Cassels!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Amy gets vulnerable about her relationship with her hair and getting older.
• Hear Tray's wise words of support and compassion that bring some perspective. 
• The Cassels open their home to us with what they do every January!
• Getting into emotional dumping versus venting; when is it a problem?
• The importance of listening and not always trying to provide solutions.
• Tray shares a fascinating practice he learned that defines a good interaction.
• How to know when you're being emotionally dumped on.
• How to know when someone is emotionally venting to you in a healthy way.
• The importance of ending the conversation and walking away when you need to!
• Using the 'feel, felt, found’ protocol as a response.
• Amy closes with her advice on what to do when you're feeling under the weather.

Tweetables:

“Sometimes you just need to be a good listener.” — Tray Cassels [0:12:37]

“Deep down inside, we know our own solution but we've got to verbally talk about it and get it out about what the problem is because, in that moment that that person is venting to you, they're also formulating a solution for themselves.” — @amy_cassels [0:12:47] 

“You, as the recipient of that conversation, has to be in control of what's happening with you. If you find yourself losing your control in that conversation, that's when that boundary gets drawn.” — Tray Cassels [0:17:50]

“You shouldn't have guilt or shame for the emotions that you feel. That emotion is there, and it's telling you something, and it's there to look [into] and explore. Everybody is entitled to their own emotion.” — @amy_cassels [0:19:16]

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