Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Knowing your partner's love language can offer positive outcomes in your relationship. The five love languages describe the different ways that romantic partners express and experience love. Oftentimes, the act of love that we're willing to give is connected with our dominant language. Although it's strenuous to match your partner's especially in the early stages of your relationship, it can be achieved with practice and commitment to the process.

The practice of the 6th love language in your relationship is also pivotal to you and your partner's optimal living and real functioning. Taking time for one's self or self-care should not be viewed as a partial or total absence of engagement in the relationship. Here's why. Today's episode discusses how you can apply and cultivate the benefits of the 6th love language in your relationship to be more present, more available, and have more opportunities to engage in an authentic relationship with your partner.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

04:19 Gary Chapman's five love languages — words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, gifts — neatly package an individual's preferred care style. Everyone has a primary love language that's related to what they hope to receive from their partner.

11:03 The 6th love language — space — is an act of deep love and care where you give/ask your partner for space. This sense of space or solitude may come in the forms of physical or relational distance where a person takes time to contemplate, process, and feel one's own truth.

12:47 Introverts and highly sensitive people value this love language more than others due to their absorbing nature. This allows them time to reflect, process, and be comfortable in their own company.

18:18 Emotional disconnect in relationships occurs when someone has mistakenly picked up on their partner's non-verbal cues. To counteract this, revealing conversations that aim to articulate or educate both sides' wants are necessary.

23:41 In times of conflict, men may benefit more from the 6th love language as they need a moment to breathe and process things before actively engaging with their partner. However, the difference in gender lies in the ability to name and articulate the concern.

28:53 On Jessica's personal relationship: How the practice of revealing conversations and the 6th love language have sustained their healthy marriage

Mentioned

• The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman (*Amazon Link)
• The "Are You A Highly Sensitive Person" Test by Elaine Aron
• 17 Traits of Highly Sensitivity People Article
• ERP 134: Sensitivity and Intimacy with Candy Crawford
• ERP 273: How to Handle the Concern of Vulnerability Not Working in Relationship
• Grief Refuge app

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The natural fear we feel when showing vulnerability is tied to our survival instinct. However, this fear can affect intimacy in our relationships. Working through the specific moments in our past which triggered this fear is a painful but rewarding process, and can allow us to grow and foster more intimate relationships.

The causes of our fears account for many factors including cultural and intergenerational trauma. Therefore, the most important elements to foster healing are open communication and creating a safe space to be vulnerable.

Mitchell Smolkin is a certified emotionally-focused couples therapist (EFT), Jungian psychoanalyst, published author, experienced public speaker, and the host of "The Dignity of Suffering Podcast." He explains what we should expect around vulnerability in relationships & why it matters.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

• 03:56 Introduction to Mitchell and EFT
• 07:24 Vulnerability in relationship is a particular skill that is practiced over a lifetime.
• 11:11 Cultural and intergenerational history are important contexts in the process of healing.
• 18:42 Vulnerability as a relational phenomena. Notice your first reactions to disconnection, name them, to track where the upset originates.
• 25:28 Hiding what you are feeling can't overwrite the nervous system. We have mirror neurons that actually anticipate partner's responses.
• 29:07 Just allowing another person can establish safety. However, being anti-social is tied to survival but this is terrible for intimacy.
• 35:26 How to discern between vulnerability and being afraid. Just talking about it with a professional creates the safety to get out of your cycles of fear.
• 44:01 Meaningful conversations need to happen in the right environments, as well as the right frames of mind. Partners are continuously learning how to make each other safe.
• 48:12 Connect with Mitchell

Mentioned

• Mitchell Smolkin Website

• Mitchell Smolkin Instagram

• The Dignity of Suffering Podcast

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.

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Every single person needs secure relationships. While this is true for everyone, finding it is not always the simplest process—and here is where extended family comes in. Tracy McMillan, a television writer, relationship expert, and author joins the show to discuss how relationship problems almost always have roots in the family.

Tracy's own show called "Family or Fiance" fosters the healing of relationships by addressing generational trauma. She finds that partners in relationship come out of the show feeling liberated when they experience breakthroughs with their families.

Tracy is an accomplished author whose works include Mad Men, Good Girls Revolt, Marvel's Runaways, and United States of Tara. She has written three books including a relationship book called Why You're Not Married… Yet and a memoir called I Love You and I'm Leaving You Anyway.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

• 03:47 Introduction to Tracy and her unique voice as a relationship expert
• 12:33 Spirituality helps create secure attachment. This is a human need regardless of sex or gender.
• 14:07 Relationships as needs: Now less about survival and more about self-actualization.
• 19:25 Healing a relationship is healing generational trauma. Breakthroughs can happen in an instant and all it takes is honesty to oneself.
• 25:15 Creating visibility and normalizing therapy is the main goal of Family or Fiance. It helps change the narrative in communities that do not believe in therapy.
• 29:10 Families find unity and common ground with their experience on Family or Fiance.
• 32:49 How to connect with Tracy

Mentioned

• I Love You and I'm Leaving You Anyway: A Memoir

• Why You're Not Married . . . Yet: The Straight Talk You Need to Get the Relationship You Deserve

• Tracy McMillan Facebook

• Tracy McMillan Twitter

• Tracy McMillan Instagram

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.

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*With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

It is common for codependent people to be people pleasers. While this strategy is effective at avoiding conflict, it also builds up anger and resentment that your partner may not even know about. Michelle Farris is a licensed psychotherapist, anger management specialist, and course creator. She discusses how letting go of codependence is not an easy task as the anger that so often accompanies codependence feels too familiar.

Toxic codependence does not have to be a permanent reality. Michelle explains that therapy provides a safe space to work out the root cause of your pain and allows you to go through the complex process of recovery. Michelle's work helps codependent people trust themselves and create mutually satisfying relationships. She has been featured on Psych Central, Bustle, Your Tango, The Good Men Project, and The Daily Positive to name a few.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

• 07:18 Codependency is a relationship pattern that focuses on others at the expense of yourself. It relies on external validation. Recovery helps people discover their personal identities.
• 08:58 Identifying the traits of codependence that are hurting you is the first step of recovery. It may take years to become ready to let go as there is a painful withdrawal process that must be undertaken.
• 15:50 Saying no takes practice. Start with the safest people who are okay with you saying no and start with the "baby nos."
• 18:26 Codependent people may not relate with the word anger, as it may be too scary, but can typically relate with resentment.
• 21:14 Voicing what hurt you is a liberating experience. It has the potential of changing the dynamics of your relationship because it creates awareness of what you're feeling, something which may not have been apparent before.
• 24:49 Codependents don't go to anger immediately. It is, in many ways, a secondary emotion that comes after hurt. But festering anger and feelings of being a victim begin with hurt not being handled in the first place.
• 29:04 When anger leads to rage it is critical to be mindful. It is probably not the best time to talk and you may need to take some time off and walk away before returning.
• 32:10 Anger at oneself is tricky territory. It's important to have a safe community, perhaps in therapy, where you are validated that you did the best you can given your circumstances and you can make a different choice when you are ready.
• 34:15 Recovery involves fixing your relationship with yourself, improving your relationship skills, and doing the childhood work. This is not linear and the issues with each aspect happen at the same time, making recovery a complex endeavor.
• 37:03 An addiction to relationship is additionally complex as having it is a biological necessity. However, what therapy does is lessen the dependence on other people.
• 42:17 Receiving a favor is a practice that not only helps you take care of yourself but also allows others to be present in your life.
• 44:46 How to get in touch with Michelle and learn more about Counseling Recovery

Mentioned

• Counseling Recovery Website

• Counseling Recovery Checklist

• ERP 260: How to Break Free from Codependency in a Relationship – an Interview with Sherry Gaba

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.

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Authentic relating refers to how you express your own authentic self, the way you seek the same from your partner, and the dynamic created in between. Sara Ness, an internationally acclaimed facilitator, teacher, and community-builder popularized the field of Authentic Relating through the use of authentic relating games.

The values of authentic relating include awareness, empathy, honesty, and the importance of creating space. Not only does this help romantic relationships blossom into their most authentic forms, but it also helps multinational organizations like Google, Mindvalley, and Burning Man grow in authentic leadership and communication.

Sara Ness wrote the source text for Authentic Relating and has worked with tens of thousands of students in more than 100 communities on every continent except Antarctica.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

• 04:12 Authentic relating involves 3 perspectives: ourselves (authenticity), the other person and how we relate, and the space in between. There is a constant feeling out of how much of our authentic truth we bring and seek, and the synergy between.
• 08:39 Authentic relating games like Withholds and Appreciations allow you to look at your relationship instead of simply being in it. These exercises reveal, through honest communication, relationship patterns that may act as barriers in relationship.
• 13:11 The Noticing game puts to words the feelings, sensations, and lines of thoughts you have with your partner. It reveals the idea of presence in connection with someone else.
• 18:04 Authenticity has layers and is congruent to the values we are committed to. Your values will dictate the level and kind of authenticity you respond from.
• 22:00 Authentic relating exercises are also effective within multinational companies like Google, as well as the addiction recovery space and diversity discussions.
• 25:08 It is even possible to use authentic relating games to actually meet your romantic partner because it teaches how to set boundaries, make requests, and discover your values within a relationship.
• 30:54 Knowing what helps you recover from a trigger before it even happens is one of the most powerful things you can do in relationship.
• 33:36 Making a request is about changing behavior. This must be navigated caringly as different people and social cultures may have different ways of communication. Space must be created for these behaviors to change.
• 39:40 The act of making request is complex and involves vulnerability. Sometimes there is a need to go through conflict to figure out what your request truly is.
• 43:37 How to get in touch with Sara and learn more about Authentic Relating

Mentioned

• ERP 215: How to Deal with Being "Alone Together"

• ERP 216: What to Know about Loneliness and Relationship

• ERP 273: How to Handle The Concern Of Vulnerability Not Working In Relationship

• The Authentic Revolution website

• The Authentic Revolution Instagram page

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Self and co-regulation is an essential human need that couples need to understand to know that their relationship is somewhere they can feel safe and come home to. Deb Dana, LCSW, clinician and consultant specializing in Polyvagal theory, joins the podcast to discuss what regulation is, its role in the nervous system, and how couples can apply it to their relationships.

Deb trains therapists worldwide on the Polyvagal approach. She is co-founder of The Polyvagal Institute and author of The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation and Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices.

Deb is also the co-editor with Stephen Porges of Clinical Application of the Polyvagal Theory: The Emergence of Polyvagal Informed Therapies and developer of the Rythm of Regulation clinical training series among many other pioneering works into this space.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

• 06:21 Co-regulation is the first organizing principle of polyvagal theory. It is a biological need to survive and to experience well-being. For people living with trauma, this did not happen in a safe environment and led to self-regulation instead.
• 08:40 Neuroception is the second organizing principle. It refers to the nervous system's way of getting information. The nervous system is constantly listening to three pathways: inside the body, the environment, and other nervous systems.
• 09:57 Hierarchy is the third organizing principle. There are three states that we visit all the time: ventral (safety and connection), sympathetic (fight and flight), and dorsal (disconnect and shutdown).
• 13:25 Co-dysregulation in relationship is common and when this happens the prefrontal cortex doesn't work the way it should. For couple therapy to be effective, one system must be anchored in ventral.
• 17:52 Protective strategies keep partners sympathetically charged. Since biology keeps nervous systems in this state, timing is important so that connection happens. Reaching by one partner while the other is in this state will result in pushback.
• 27:28 Tips for couples in dysregulated phases and using language other nervous systems can understand.
• 35:01 Asking who, what, where, when is an exercise to anchor to ventral and feel safe.
• 43:07 Contact Deb and learn more about the Polyvagal approach.

Mentioned

• The Polyvagal Institute Website

• Rhythm of Regulation Website

• The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation (*Amazon book link)

• Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices (*Amazon book link)

• Polyvagal Flip Chart: Understanding the Science of Safety (*Amazon book link)

• Clinical Application of the Polyvagal Theory: The Emergence of Polyvagal Informed Therapies (*Amazon book link)

• Befriending Your Nervous System: Looking Through the Lens of Polyvagal Theory (*Amazon audiobook link)

• Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory (*Amazon book link)

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Substance abuse disorder wreaks havoc on a relationship with trust being one of the first to erode. Chantal Jauvin, an attorney and book author, joins the podcast to talk on the ASCENT approach which couples in recovery can practice to make their recovery journey successful and reignite the love that may have been lost due to addiction.

Chantal, for all her expertise which made her General Counsel of a Fortune 500 company, did not know how to save her husband from the grips of addiction or building a relationship while in recovery. It took years of soul work and interactions with other couples to produce her second book, Love Without Martinis, to share the lessons she learned along the way.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

03:59 Chantal learns about substance use disorder and collects couples' stories to share to others as a learning tool.

06:12 Recovery covers three aspects: The one suffering, the one who loves them, and the relationship itself.

13:50 Couples can recover successfully from substance abuse with the ASCENT approach.

18:09 A: Assess readiness to change. Shift focus from what cannot be done to what can be done. The Stoplight Method makes it smoother to move areas that are red to yellow and eventually green.

28:07 S: Structure your time. This creates accountability, a key aspect in building trust, and conveys what matters to you and what you truly value.

31:33 C: Create your community. Addiction creates trauma and emotional baggage, so meeting new people, it provides a fresh start without the guilt associated with past behaviors. It also teaches you on how to set healthy boundaries.

34:43 E: Engage in your life. To feel the joy of living, to get fired up, you need to assume responsibility for your own life. Engaging in what makes you happy helps your own individual growth, as well as the growth of the couple itself.

38:47 N: Nurture your spirituality. This allows each partner to pause and become self-aware to break the chain reaction of action and reaction which is so prevalent in substance abuse disorder.

41:24 T: Treasure your partnership. A touch, smile, or compliment says, "I see you" and creates meaning.

Mentioned

• Chantal's website
• Chantal's Facebook
• Chantal's Instagram
• Chantal's LinkedIn
• Love Without Martinis Amazon page (*Amazon Link)

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.

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Borderline personality disorders make things appear as black and white with no integration between the two. It manifests as rejecting the love and support from a partner, the very thing that a person with this disorder actually needs in the first place.

Gabrielle Usatynski, a licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, explains that borderline personality disorders cause radical misperceptions which cause confusion in relationship. Displaying compassion plays a central role in healing the very source of the trauma to result in more loving and fulfilling relationships.

Gabrielle is the host of the new TV show "Iconic Couples of History" and the Founder of the Power Couples Institute. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Counseling Today, and Women's Health. She has an upcoming book entitled "The Power Couple Formula" due for release later this year.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

06:51 Personality disorders impair the way we look at our identity and the identity of others. This has a significant impact on displays of empathy and intimacy in relationship.

13:15 "Splitting" in personality disorders means a person cannot integrate opposing thoughts and only sees things as one or another. There is a lack of integration between the two, something which normally develops very early in life.

18:57 There is a nurture aspect to borderline personality disorders which is attributed to trauma, abuse, and/or neglect. Any sabotage to a growing person's self-activation will manifest in relationships well into adulthood.

26:46 Borderline personality disorder affects the socio-emotional capacity to separate raw emotions and physiological experiences. It is a lack of neural integration that results in poor reality testing.

35:08 Clinicians can easily misdiagnose borderline personality disorders. There is a need for partners to display love and compassion to address the root trauma that is causing so much disconnect in relationship.

41:01 Borderline personalities sabotage the very thing they need the most, which is the love and security they receive from their partners.

44:53 How to care for a partner with borderline personality disorder.

51:34 Having a third party observe the dynamics of a relationship and attempt to fix the system can create profound changes in the individuals.

53:42 Couples with a shared mission, an organized principle between them, give a reason to hold in the relationship through the good and bad times.

56:35 Get in touch with Gabrielle.

Mentioned

• Power Couples Education website
• The Power Couple Formula book website
• Power Couples Counseling
• Power Couples Education YouTube Channel
• ERP: 180: What If I Think My Partner Has a Personality Disorder? An Interview with Gabrielle Usatynski

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Vulnerability is a key aspect in connecting with your partner. It makes you feel seen and provides a sense of belonging. However, the longing to feel known and the fear of letting down our guard are two competing human needs that must be understood with compassion.

In many cases, our own protective strategies helped us survive trauma and pain in the past. However, many years later, these same strategies prevent us from becoming seen, validated, and known. Today's episode discusses some of the most common protective strategies and what you can do to turn it around and increase intimacy in relationship.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

05:25 Vulnerability cultivates connection. Disconnect happens when there is a block between the call of one partner and the response of the other.

10:02 Being vulnerable is difficult. The desire for intimacy is there but an inner conflict based on fear holds us back from allowing ourselves to be vulnerable.

14:42 Having a safe container for vulnerability is paramount. This is rooted in biology via the polyvagal system which requires us to have reciprocal and safe interactions with our closest connections.

18:42 The most successful couples respond to each other's "bids" or calls and responses. This allows couples to feel validated and seen.

22:14 Unsuccessful attempts at vulnerability are caused by "blocks" or personal protective strategies. It has been proven that humans choose safety and familiarity over intimacy and vulnerability during critical moments.

29:15 The desire to be known and to protect against hurt are two competing human needs. Being in a threatened state makes it impossible to access vulnerability and have constructive conversations.

31:13 Examples of protective tendencies that get in the way vulnerability include people-pleasing, intellectualizing/explaining/defending, numbing out, getting angry/reacting, hiding, being resistant, denial, being stressed/tired, and independent stance.

38:02 Tips to cultivate vulnerability and increase intimacy in your relationship.

Mentioned

• ERP 233: How to Deal with Fears of Intimacy – Part One
• ERP 234: How to Deal with Fears of Intimacy – Part Two
• ERP 247: How to Turn Towards Your Partner to Strengthen Your Love
• ERP 261: How to Strengthen Your Relationship from a Polyvagal Perspective – an Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges
• ERP 220: How to Reconnect Emotionally with your Significant Other

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins

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New parents cannot truly prepare for the profound changes a baby brings. Catherine O'Brien, Licensed Marriage, Family Therapist, and founder of HappyWithBaby.com shares tips to keep your relationship strong despite the very real challenges of raising kids.

One of the most common changes new parents experience is the disconnect that brews between them due to the demands of the baby. The secret to overcoming this and even strengthening your relationship is by honestly communicating what your needs are and validating each other when parenting is done right.

Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode:

05:31 Introduction to Catherine O'Brien

06:25 Prenatal classes to prepare for your first child are important but having a baby brings unforeseen consequences, such as creating a disconnect with your partner.

11:18 Each parent feels like they are doing all the work. Postpartum communication is critical to share the load and make sure you and your partner know what tasks need to be done and by whom.

14:29 Communication also strengthens your connection with your partner. This connection can fade given the enormous number of tasks needed to raise a child.

19:00 Take stock of your own needs first then see how you can be there for your partner next. This way, you can both bond with your baby in a meaningful way.

22:49 It's normal to not enjoy every moment of being a parent. Acknowledging and validating each other is important to keep your love alive and foster positive growth as parents.

25:14 Having a united front and handling unwanted parenting advice.

31:47 Catherine's baby-friendly tips for self-care and reigniting your relationship.

39:46 How to get in touch with Catherine and her Facebook group.

Mentioned

• Catherine's website
• Happy with Baby Community Facebook Group
• Happy with Baby Facebook Page
• Happy with Baby Instagram Page
• Happy with Baby Twitter Page

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Website: drjessicahiggins.com

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