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Why does the same disagreement feel completely different to a Type 8 versus a Type 9? Your Enneagram type shapes how you react.
Damon and Kelly walk through the knee-jerk conflict response for all nine Enneagram types and what to do instead. Plus, the 20-minute rule for getting untriggered.
Quick guide to each type's conflict response:
Type 1: Criticizes others or themselves
Type 2: Becomes overly helpful or manipulates
Type 3: Spins the situation to avoid failure
Type 4: Withdraws emotionally
Type 5: Detaches and goes silent
Type 6: Fires off endless questions
Type 7: Escapes through distraction or humor
Type 8: Intensifies and pushes harder
Type 9: Avoids, numbs, or accommodates
What you will learn:
The automatic conflict response baked into each type Why criticism, withdrawal, escape, or accommodation can damage relationships. How to pause and respond instead of react.
Damon shares a moment where he told a room full of people "I am not where you all are" and why that one sentence worked better than silence or argument. Kelly explains how knowing your conflict response, and your team's, turns destructive arguments into constructive ones.
Whether you are navigating a hard conversation at work, a disagreement with your spouse, or just trying to understand why your coworker shuts down while you want to push forward, this episode gives you a practical map.
Mentioned in this episode: The Path Between Us by Suzanne Stabile
New episodes every Wednesday.
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Why does the same disagreement feel completely different to a Type 8 versus a Type 9? Your Enneagram type shapes how you react.
Damon and Kelly walk through the knee-jerk conflict response for all nine Enneagram types and what to do instead. Plus, the 20-minute rule for getting untriggered.
Quick guide to each type's conflict response:
Type 1: Criticizes others or themselves
Type 2: Becomes overly helpful or manipulates
Type 3: Spins the situation to avoid failure
Type 4: Withdraws emotionally
Type 5: Detaches and goes silent
Type 6: Fires off endless questions
Type 7: Escapes through distraction or humor
Type 8: Intensifies and pushes harder
Type 9: Avoids, numbs, or accommodates
What you will learn:
The automatic conflict response baked into each type Why criticism, withdrawal, escape, or accommodation can damage relationships. How to pause and respond instead of react.
Damon shares a moment where he told a room full of people "I am not where you all are" and why that one sentence worked better than silence or argument. Kelly explains how knowing your conflict response, and your team's, turns destructive arguments into constructive ones.
Whether you are navigating a hard conversation at work, a disagreement with your spouse, or just trying to understand why your coworker shuts down while you want to push forward, this episode gives you a practical map.
Mentioned in this episode: The Path Between Us by Suzanne Stabile
New episodes every Wednesday.
Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagramu/id1691530997
Follow us on Spotify and leave a review:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2kbIVeByJn4WDoN3kFlUId?si=65a99542c46a49fa

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