Pam's on fire! She's realizing how much she says to her partner in her relationship that she shouldn't say! “I hate you”- you know, stuff like that! Iona weighs in on the issue with things she's said to her husband when she's feeling upset with him.

How to stop it before it hurts your partner?  Its like getting that drunk friend out of the party before she trashes the house! Timing is everything. The therapists then dive into issues of emotional regulation, front loading information to your partner and lots of other good ideas to get yourself out of this trap before too much damage ensues.