The therapists discuss unrealistic expectations in relationships and the importance of moving them into longings so as to minimize anger. Expectations can be toxic and deadly to relationships because they are often unspoken, sometimes untrue and can build and create big feelings and resentment.

Iona talks about her impossible expectations of Steve and how unattainable they really are. Do we expect our partner to act as if they are our mothers- meeting each and every one of our needs perfectly??

The therapists then dive into some great strategies for changing expectations into longings and some other goodies for navigating through these treacherous waters