This week the therapists dish and dive about defensiveness. If things are escalating quickly, it's a sure sign that defensiveness is in da house!

Iona and Pam dish about accountability and how difficult it can be to own their pieces of the problem. But, they discover that ownership begets ownership and the more likely they are to own their stuff, the more likely their partners are to do the same.

Conversely, ownership can also feel like a hot potato, tossing blame back and forth between partners, no one wanting to hold it for very long. The therapists then dive into the literature and learn that the tossing of the hot potato can lead to major consequences- divorce being one of them.

Listen in as they learn more and more about accountability, blame and how to safely own your part of the issue so you can feel more like a team.