Because it is.

The people you're trying to get love from are wounded, just like you. But the problem is not that you're not loved. It's that you're expending creative energy desperately grasping at it.

Wounded love is the root of self-medication and other toxic behaviors and relationships. But even in the best relationships - such as with God Himself - others feel distant, often when we need them the most.

Why does God allow that? Why does He feel distant when He knows that love is the primary human need? And how are we supposed to get our need for love met, when everyone around us is emotionally unavailable to us?

This deficit of love that we all share is often formed in childhood through emotionally distant or unavailable parents, and gets unconsciously projected onto God, our spouses, and others — creating cycles of chasing connection, scanning for approval, self-abandonment, and self-medication.

Using dream symbols (including the warehouse, little boy, and sunflower from Ep 4), and Scripture, I'll walk you through through the painful yet liberating process of recognizing this pattern, withdrawing projections, and beginning to integrate the masculine and feminine (animus/anima) with some practical tools.

True healing moves us from earning love to receiving and giving it freely — without inner collapse or compulsion (pop quizzes). This episode offers profound insight into why so many of us feel unseen or disconnected even in good relationships, and how God uses pop quizzes, dreams, and Scripture to lead us into deeper wholeness and authentic love.

If you're feeling unseen or disconnected, even in good relationships, I bet you need some new tools for coping.

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LOVE the Word® is a Bible study method based on Mary’s own practice: lectio without the Latin. Get the book based on Sonja’s method in the right margin, How to Pray Like Mary.  

L | Listen (Receive the Word via audio or video.)

O | Observe (Connect the passage to your life and recent events.)

What's your usual reaction to reaching for connection, but not being met? How have the daily readings and your dreams been speaking to you about that? What do you want to say to the Lord, now?

V | Verbalize (Pray about your thoughts and emotions.)

Remembering that He loves you and that you are in His presence, talk to God about the particulars of your O – Observe step. You may want to write your reflections in your LOVE the Word® journal. Or, get a free journal page and guide in the right-hand margin.

E | Entrust (Rest in the Word.)

St. Joseph, Patron of Dreams and "Master Dreamer," with the Holy Spirit, guard and illumine the contents of my sleep, I pray, so I that I may hear God speak as you did.  Amen +

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