Notle Chew grew up a Crazy Rich Asian. 

Who later ended up joining the Secret Society & running one of Singapore’s first social escort businesses (and a successful one at that!) for almost 7 years before he ended up in prison.

Which, as you can tell, is not a story you’d normally find on STIMY. But also a story I’ve really wanted to have told.

Because I believe that we can learn so much from people from all different parts of society.

And Notle’s life story is a cautionary tale, while also giving us a glimpse into a part of society that isn’t often heard of. 

There is a price to be paid for our actions and in Notle’s case, a hefty one.

Some things we talked about:

• What it means be a member of the secret society; 
• The concept of trust and brotherhood, the initiation process is like and how he ended up leaving the secret society;
• The 8 o’clock rule;
• Why he started a social escort business, and grew it to be one of the top businesses around;
• How he ended up being caught;
• What it was like being in prison;
• How he shook off his depression and suicidal thoughts; and
• Why he believes 80% of ex-convicts can't be helped.

As we cover a lot of heavy topics, please consider this a trigger warning.

Highlights:

• 3:19 The name “Notle”
• 4:01 Life of a Crazy Rich Asian
• 6:49 Recruited to join the secret society in school
• 11:56 The 8 o’clock sharp rule
• 19:15 Paying the price to leave the secret society
• 22:08 Initiation process for secret society members
• 24:56 The secret society mindset
• 26:10 How trust operates in a secret society
• 27:01 What does “justice” mean?
• 27:30 Brotherhood
• 30:50 Starting a social escort business
• 33:44 Advertising for female workers
• 39:25 Staying competitive
• 41:08 The business model
• 44:40 Business expansion
• 46:48 Being caught by the police
• 47:47 Life in prison
• 49:18 Finding God
• 49:18 Not regretting prison
• 54:36 Healing broken relationships
• 59:57 Triad Trails & the girl
• 1:04:54 Best way for society to support ex-convicts
• 1:05:47 80% of ex-convicts will never change
• 1:07:40 Identifying the 20% that can be helped

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