Can people actually change, or do we eventually have to learn how to live with what is? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona let listeners in on their behind-the-scenes process of choosing a topic—then land on one that hits close to home.

Pam opens up about her ongoing struggle to set boundaries with people she loves, and how making slow, incremental changes feels essential before she can fully open herself to a new relationship. Iona, on the other hand, explores a different kind of growth: accepting long-standing patterns in her marriage—like her husband's lack of initiative and tendency to get distracted—and learning how to tolerate those realities without losing herself.

What follows is an intimate mini-therapy session, as Pam gently guides Iona through what happens in her body when she feels triggered, and they unpack the difference between "won't" and "can't," why appreciating the 90% matters, and how grieving unmet hopes can lead to real peace.

Sometimes change isn't about fixing everything—and sometimes, being good enough is enough.