When you are avoidantly attached, dating can feel like a complete minefield. You might have had people tell you that you are aloof, a closed book, secretive or not open to a relationship, even when you would like a relationship more than anything else.

Moving into deeper intimacy can feel terrifying, whether you acknowledge it and are aware of it or not. Often, it is part of your subconscious that blocks intimacy before you have any conscious say in the matter. This can be incredibly frustrating and painful for you and your partner. It can be a confusing time.

In this episode, Jen discusses the four factors that make dating difficult for the avoidantly attached and her 9 top tips for dating when you have an avoidant attachment adaptation.

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To learn more about avoidant and anxious adaptions - listen to Episodes 2 and 3.

EP 2 Avoidant Attachment Explained

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/psychotherapy-central/id1701257974?i=1000623584769

EP 3 Anxious Attachment Explained

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/psychotherapy-central/id1701257974?i=1000623929027

Extra Resources

Heal Your Anxious Attachment by Jennifer Nurick

Attachment by John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth & Main & Solomon

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