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Ep 40 Why We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective


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Do you find yourself repeatedly drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, even though you crave connection? In this episode of Psychotherapy Central, we explore why this pattern happens through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), or parts work.

You'll discover:

💔 Why avoidant behavior is protective and how it forms
🧠 How your own avoidant part might be choosing unavailable partners
❤️ How childhood wounds and unprocessed relationship trauma influence partner choice
🌿 The steps to break free from these patterns and cultivate secure attachment

IFS helps us understand the parts within us that unknowingly lead us toward distant partners. Healing begins with self-awareness, compassion, and working with these protective parts.

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Episodes Referenced:

🎧 EP2: Avoidant Attachment Explained
🎧 EP5: What is IFS Therapy? Internal Family Systems Therapy Explained

 

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