A part of being in relationships is coming into conflict with the people we love. What do we do when we have those disagreements? How do we handle conflict? Do we run away from it or fight through it? On this episode of God Hears Her, Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy talk about how they handle disagreements with the people they love. They also share their thoughts on unhealthy conflict, and how we can resolve it. 

 

Notes and Quotes: 

• “When you have a disagreement with somebody, it does feel like that can take up the whole relationship instead of looking at the other pieces of the relationship.”
• “The way disagreement first hits us is that we feel rejected. We feel wrong. We feel less than, out of control, not safe. But you can learn to receive disagreement in such a way that you can grow from it, and you can feel loved by it.”
• “Create a safe space for the disagreement where you can let your emotions ‘thaw.’”
• “Have mutual respect for the other person [while being in a disagreement] and believe the best of them.”
• “Reflect on your posture. Is it a defensive posture? Or is it an open-handed posture?”
• “When we are stuck in defensiveness we are building barriers.”
• Paul’s recommendations for disagreements from Philippians:
  • Stand firm in your belief.
  • Begin the conversation with love.
  • Stay on mission: What are you trying to accomplish here?
  • Get help from an outsider when you can’t agree.
  • Put your faith in practice.
• “How does the Lord see my viewpoint? What is there for me to learn? What does He want to teach me?”

 

Verses: 

• Paul’s letters to the church in the Bible
• Peter’s letters to the church in the Bible
• Philippians 3 and 4

 

Links: 

• God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
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• Free Resource: Developing the Art of Gracious Disagreement
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• Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
• Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy