If you’ve ever followed all the parenting rules, read all the books, and still felt your child slipping away, this episode will land deep in your chest.

In this raw and honest conversation, Christy-Faith shares the story she’s never fully told—the moment she realized the parenting method she believed was “biblical” was actually building fear, walls, and distance with her child. 

What followed was a journey of unlearning, healing, and rediscovering what discipline actually means through the lens of Scripture and attachment, not shame.

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Episode 75: Three Phrases I'll Never Say to My Kids Again

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Episode 80: Are Homeschool Moms More Patient?

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🎧 SHOW RECAP

✅ Why obedience isn’t the same as heart change

✅ How “biblical” parenting methods can accidentally feed fear, shame, and sneakiness

✅ The moment Christy realized consequences weren’t shaping character

✅ The difference between punishment (payment) and discipline (training)

✅ Why Jesus’ model of correction centers on restoration, not retribution

✅ What the research says about authoritarian vs. permissive vs. authoritative parenting

✅ How shame shuts down the learning parts of a child’s brain

✅ Why connection + boundaries create the healthiest long-term outcomes

✅ How to rebuild trust and help kids come to you instead of hiding

✅ What it looks like to parent with curiosity instead of control

✅ Why this shift changed the culture of Christy’s home—and her relationship with God

You don’t need to parent from fear. You don’t need to rely on shame. You’re allowed to build something different—something closer, safer, and far more effective.

📌 Like, subscribe, and share this episode with a mom who’s questioning the way she was taught to parent. She’s not alone, and this conversation might be exactly what she needs.

💬 What part of your parenting story is shifting right now? Share it in the comments or tag Christy-Faith on Instagram—we’d love to hear.

The Christy-Faith Show | Ep. 94