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ABOUT TODAY'S EPISODE:

Relationships are at the core of who we are as women, but when we begin to believe lies about our relationships, whether thats because of trauma or simply misunderstood scripture, maybe things they've been told growing up, or by an influential person in their life. Regardless how the lies come in, they impact our relationships and can detract from our ability to have healthy, enjoyable relationships. In this episode we dive into some of the lies women believe about their relationships, how that's influenced by past trauma and how to begin to move out of those lies. My guess Sarah Jane Ho is a Pastor and licensed counselor and brings so much wisdom in this topic as well as next week's episode!

SOIL:

S- Stuck out Scripture - scripture that pops when you read it.

O- Observation Orientation - Make observations about the facts surrounding your reading. The Who, What, Why, How, When, Where

I- Insightful Interpretation - The facts that I just discovered, what is God saying to me about these facts? How am I supposed to receive that? Hint: Follow peace! Peace is God's tool to show us we are in the right place.

L- Learn from it. - By choosing to listen to Him and learn from the reading, it impacts me which impacts others around me.

When considering context for scripture reading, keep in mind: CONTEXT, CULTURE & CONTENT

A RED FLAG that someone is living out of their trauma instead of from a healthy place, is that there are communication issues. Blaming, gaslighting, name calling, refusal to communicate, stonewalling, needing to have the last word, needing to be right, needing to point the other person back to their own faults, refusal to take responsibility.

PRESCHOOL VERSION of communication: Listening, responding with a summary of what was said (indicating understanding), and then problem solving.

What happened, how that made you feel, and what can we do moving forward to enact change.

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ABOUT SARAH JANE:

As a wife and mother of five children, I am always on the go. I spend my time as a freelance writer, pastor, and Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. Looking back, it is clear that I have always been a writer of some sort or another, I can even recall keeping diaries as a child and even writing poems as an adult but the realization of it was obscured from my view until I began homeschooling my children years ago. My writing is a way for me to express the emotions and reactions I have about how God views relationships and how women were designed as co-heirs, just like their counter parts. As a writer it is my desire to use my writing style to glorify Him through truth in love and with a little bit of humorous anecdotes on the side.

CONNECT WITH SARAH:

https://pastorsarahjane.com/

https://www.instagram.com/pastorsarahjaneho/

https://armorofgod.biblejournalingconference.com/

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