Insecure thinking is the result of focusing on what has gone wrong, either with us or with things around us.  As an example, if you realize a mistake, there are two ways to address it.  You can sink into regret and feel bad about yourself and embarrassed to admit it, or you can attempt to ask for help correcting it.  We've all seen this or done it: "I can't believe I did that stupid thing.  I hope no one noticed.  I can't talk about it.  I'm so ashamed," etc.  That leads to a barrage of insecure thoughts of remorse, self-criticism, doubt, and distress.  It does not lead to growth and change and fresh ideas about what to do next.  Once we understand that insecure thoughts are just negative ideas we're creating, we can use our power as the thinkers, to let them go, get quiet, and clear our heads.  Then we can see that we're all human, humans make mistakes, and it makes sense to acknowledge our own role, make amends, and look to learn.  Thinking negatively about ourselves is exhausting and demoralizing.  Accepting and acknowledging actions or ideas we regret takes our attention off our "flaws" and lets us trust our innate wisdom to guide us to understanding and learning.

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