Take the time to look in the mirror. The only one you see is YOU.  That is where you need to focus. It is your choice to let others cloud the view you have of yourself. Others may use anger and guilt to manipulate you but it is up to you to be the victim or the victor. The control is within YOU.  

If your life is a car, you are the driver. Focusing on the windshield and the future is much more effective than focusing on the rearview mirror and looking back. We can learn from our past while we can set our direction for the future. You control the future based upon your vision, hopes, dreams, directions.

Perspective defines your narratives. What is influencing your decision making? Use your experiences and your perspective to allow YOU to define your future.