What if the problem isn’t your friends—but the way you measure friendship? We dive into an honest, practical reset on how to build relationships that actually form us, not just flatter us. 

We explore the subtle consumer mindset that creeps into our closest bonds—keeping score, expecting equitableness on our terms, and treating people like faucets for our needs. 

Then we turn the lens: friendship as spiritual formation. 

That means discomfort isn’t a red flag to quit; it’s the wind that strengthens the tree. From listening to pain without slipping into courtroom roles, to inviting third-party feedback when we get called out, we map simple, doable practices that help us repair quickly and grow deeper trust.

You’ll hear vivid metaphors to anchor the change: friends as targets to aim love at, not sources to drain; living like a river instead of a reservoir; and the Johnny Appleseed approach to generously sowing encouragement wherever you go. 

We also spotlight the “Brittany principle”: the people most loved- often love the most—reminding us that popularity isn’t the point, presence is. 

If you’re ready to move from “Do I get enough here?” to “How can I give first without keeping score?”, this conversation will meet you right where you are and nudge you forward with grace.

If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a hopeful nudge, and leave a quick review so more people can find Habit Lab. Want help applying this? Book a coaching with me—we’ll build offensively small habits that create big impact.

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