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By Jason and Lauren Vallotton
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In this insightful episode, the Vallottons sit down with Robyn Gobbel, an expert in relational neuroscience and interpersonal neurobiology, to discuss a transformative approach to understanding and supporting children's challenging behaviors. Robyn shares her journey from being a psychotherapist to becoming a dedicated advocate for families, particularly those dealing with complex trauma or adoption histories. The conversation centers around her influential book, Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies That Really Work, which has been a key resource for the Vallotton family as they navigate their daughter’s sensory modulation challenges. Robyn’s guidance encourages parents to look beyond difficult behaviors and address the underlying needs driving them, ultimately fostering deeper connections.
The discussion delves into the dynamic relationship between "connection" and "protection" modes within the nervous system, highlighting how these states impact both parents and children. Robyn explains the pivotal role of safety in building healthy connections and offers practical insights for handling real-life scenarios, such as when a child reacts with unexpected aggression. The Vallottons and Robyn explore the journey parents often face—from feelings of guilt to a deeper self-awareness—while learning to support their children’s emotional regulation and maintaining their own.
Listeners will also be introduced to the "owl, watchdog, and possum" framework that helps parents decode children’s behaviors as signs of their needs rather than intentional defiance. The episode wraps up with actionable strategies for supporting children’s emotional regulation, emphasizing that a parent’s regulation is equally essential. Robyn’s compassionate and knowledgeable approach equips parents with valuable tools to nurture strong connections and guide children through their toughest moments. This episode is essential listening for parents seeking a new perspective on navigating complex behaviors and fostering resilient, loving relationships with their children.
Where to find Robyn Gobbel:
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As we wrap up the year, the last few months often bring holiday stress, busier schedules, and the opportunity for intentionality. This episode dives into why the fourth quarter of the year is a pivotal time for strengthening relationships and offers practical tips for deepening connections, navigating holiday tensions, wrapping up the year with relational intentionality.
1. The Fourth Quarter Mindset
2. Balancing Holiday Stress with Relational Connection
3. Reflect and Reconnect: End-of-Year Conversations
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Life is hard—and family and marriage, as part of God’s design, come with their own challenges. Just because something is hard doesn’t mean it’s wrong. In this episode, we unpack the tension between fulfilled dreams and unmet expectations. We explore the trap of believing, “I’ll be happy when…” and how comparison can steal our joy. What happens when reality doesn’t match the dreams we had?
We dive into the truth that God’s dreams for us are often bigger—and harder—than what we imagine. Yet, it’s through surrender and perseverance that we discover deeper joy. Drawing from Scripture, we reflect on what it means to embrace the hard work, steward what’s been given, and trust that barren places can become fertile ground for God’s purposes.
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Join us as we reflect on the joy that comes not from ease, but from faithfulness, endurance, and trusting God’s bigger picture—even when it looks nothing like we imagined.
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Episode 92: Why Isn’t This Working?
What to Do When Your Attempts at Healthy Conflict Resolution Seem to Fail
In this episode, Lauren and Jay dive into the frustrating moments when your best efforts at conflict resolution just aren’t cutting it. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why isn’t this working?”—this one’s for you! They walk through five key checkpoints to help you figure out where things might be going wrong and how to adjust.
5-Point Check for Healthy Conflict Resolution
Bonus Tip: Learn from Feedback
“We grow to the level of feedback we are willing to take.” After each conflict, reflect on what worked and what didn’t. This is how real growth happens.
Tune in now for practical advice, personal stories, and tips you can apply today to navigate conflict with more success.
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Ever feel emotionally disconnected, even in a healthy relationship? That was us this past month. Life got busy, stress built up, and before we knew it, we hit a wall—what we now call “disconnection week.”
In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain to share how we navigated those difficult moments in real time. Whether you’ve been married 5 months or 50 years, connection takes intentional work. Conflict will come, but how you handle it makes all the difference.
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In this insightful Q&A session, the Vallottons tackle 5 questions submitted by listeners pertaining to marriage and friendship.
Questions Answered in This Episode:
1. When one spouse feels the need for separation to heal and rebuild, but the other is unwilling, what do you do?
2. What specific emotional needs are unhealthy in opposite sex friendships?
3. Do you have any suggestions for dealing with narcissistic tendencies in a spouse?
4. How do you recharge well when you have a marriage and family and work to take care of?
5. I’m a husband and a father that loves God, but I just don’t feel a lot of purpose or motivation, and I keep getting stuck in this rut. What should I do?
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Have you ever wondered how faith can transform your life and relationships? In this special episode, the Vallotton’s are honored to be joined by Dru Hammer, an extraordinary woman whose journey of faith and resilience shines through in every aspect of her life.
Dru Hammer, originally from Tulsa, Oklahoma, shares the profound spiritual awakening of her father, which is captured in her book Hammered. Her story reveals the power of faith to transform individuals and families, especially in times of hardship. From navigating divorce and infidelity to finding peace and healing through a spiritual pilgrimage to Israel, Dru's journey of forgiveness, resilience, and the divine guidance that shaped her path offers hope to anyone facing life's struggles.
One of the most powerful moments in this episode is when Dru talks about a heart-shaped stone she found on her trip to Israel, symbolizing renewed hope and God's ever-present love. She emphasizes the importance of surrounding oneself with supportive friends, spiritual leaders, and immersing in Biblical teachings to find strength during life's darkest moments.
Parenting and personal growth also take center stage as Dru shares her experiences raising children with strong faith-based values in a world that increasingly questions religion. She opens up about her son Armie's journey from deep church involvement to questioning his faith, and the challenges she faced as a single parent post-divorce. Her volunteer work at the Los Angeles Dream Center adds another layer to her story, revealing how helping others in recovery led to her own unexpected spiritual growth and support.
This heartfelt episode closes with Dru's inspiring message about the importance of faith, resilience, and never giving up, no matter the challenges. Whether you're seeking solace, direction, or simply want to hear an incredible story of hope, this episode is a testament to the power of faith to heal and transform.
Tune in for a conversation full of wisdom, faith, and the reminder that you are never alone in your journey.
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Lauren introduces the episode by announcing that applications for The Marriage Intensive are open!
As the fourth and final episode in The Measure of Marriage series, the Vallottons introduce Riley and Candace Stuart to listeners as a young married couple who have been able to identify issues, work on them, and experience the beautiful fruit of working hard on their marriage connection. Get ready to be inspired by their love story and the practical insights they offer from their six-year relationship.
Ever wondered what it’s like to navigate the early stages of marriage? Riley and Candace open up about the unexpected pressures and challenges they faced in their first year. Riley reveals the stress and anxiety he felt trying to live up to his own expectations as a husband, while Candace emphasizes the transformative power of empathy and compassion. Their stories of personal growth and mutual support highlight the essential role of humility and understanding in overcoming marital hurdles.
Investing in your personal growth and relationship can be truly transformative. Riley and Candace discuss the pitfalls of passivity and people-pleasing, and the significant impact professional help had on their communication and emotional well-being. Learn from their experiences about the importance of validating each other's emotions, preparing for future challenges, and maintaining a strong, connected partnership. Don’t miss this episode packed with practical tools and heartfelt stories that can help any couple foster a deeper, more resilient bond.
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Lauren opens the episode by setting the context for today’s discussion as part 3 in a 4-part mini series with today’s topic being “dynamic” couples. Listeners should visit jasonandlaurenvallotton.com to take the free marriage assessment to get a real-time look at the state of your relationship. Understanding the three possible categories is essential to chart a pathway forward for growth in your marriage.
Segment 1: What Does a Dynamic Marriage Feel Like?
Jason begins by describing the feelings associated with a dynamic marriage, where both partners feel valued and connected:
Jason emphasizes that life isn’t necessarily easier for these couples, but they have practiced the necessary skills so much that they know what to do when challenges arise.
Segment 2: Contributors to a Dynamic Marriage
Jason discusses the key factors that contribute to a dynamic and thriving marriage:
Segment 3: How to Achieve a Dynamic Marriage
Jason provides actionable steps couples can take to move towards a dynamic marriage:
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Lauren opens the episode by setting the context for today’s discussion as part 2 in a 4-part mini series with today’s topic being “developing” couples. Listeners should visit jasonandlaurenvallotton.com to take the free marriage assessment to get a real-time look at the state of your relationship. Understanding the three possible categories is essential to chart a pathway forward for growth in your marriage.
Segment 1: Recognizing the Need for Growth
Jason describes the subtle signs that signal a marriage needs development. These signs might manifest as a feeling that the marriage should be better, or they might surface after a significant event that reveals the need for work to achieve a healthy relationship.
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Segment 2: Contributors to a Developing Marriage
Jason dives into the factors that contribute to a marriage being in a developing stage, emphasizing the lack of intentional growth.
Key factors include:
Segment 3: Moving Toward Connection and Growth
Jason outlines the steps necessary for couples to transition from a developing stage to a more connected and fulfilling marriage. He shares insights, observing that many couples experience a great awakening, often after a failure, which leads to a determination to rebuild their marriage.
Steps to move forward include:
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