If your marriage feels chaotic, disconnected, or directionless… you’re not alone. In this episode, Jason and Lauren tackle what it looks like when couples are stuck in survival mode—no calendar, no plan, and no unity—and how to get back on the same team.

Jay’s been walking with several couples who feel overwhelmed and out of sync, and in this candid conversation, the Vallottons offer a lifeline of practical tools and fresh perspective to help you move from chaos to clarity.

In this episode, they unpack:

• Why chaos is a symptom, not the root issue
• How to create an ecosystem for your marriage that you’re leading—not one that’s leading you
• The power of living from a shared calendar and shared priorities
• Why independent goals can still flow from a shared vision
• What it takes to build peace, productivity, and purpose in your everyday rhythms

Key questions to ask together:

• What season are we in right now?
• What are our top three shared goals?
• Are we moving toward those goals—together?

🎯 Practical Challenge: Try this for one week

1. Set a Sunday night “calendar + priority” meeting
2. Write down your top 3 shared goals
3. Name one pain point and commit to addressing it with compassion

Don’t let the chaos run the show. Step into leadership together—one week, one goal, one shared step at a time.

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