Can love still feel new when someone has already been married and had children with someone else?

In this vulnerable episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton respond to a heartfelt question from a listener navigating the early stages of dating a divorced man with kids. Together, they unpack the very real fears, griefs, and hopes that can rise up in blended beginnings.

Whether you're walking this journey yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers practical wisdom, personal insight, and gentle clarity around some of the most tender questions:

• How do I reconcile the longing to be someone’s first with the reality of coming in second chronologically?
  
  
• Can I feel truly chosen if he’s loved before?
  
  
• What are healthy signs he’s healed from his past—and what red flags should I pay attention to?
  
  
• How do I navigate comparison, memories, or ongoing connection with a former spouse as they co-parent?
  
  
• What does “fairytale love” look like when the story begins with complexity?

Jason and Lauren speak from personal experience and pastoral wisdom to offer encouragement, grounded perspective, and honest dialogue about grief, hope, and choosing love in real life—not in the fantasy.

Because healing doesn’t mean the past never happened—it means the past no longer holds the pen.

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