One of the biggest cliches in 3 Principles language is the expression, “It’s just a thought.” A panacea for all ills, then, and yet this sentence can often sound patronising and dismissive and is often an example of BAD listening and disconnection with the person you’re speaking with…

Keywords: just a thought, just your thinking, just this moment, just a feeling, intellect, understanding, thinking, garret kramer, innate health, 3 principles, three principles understanding, inside-out

It's possible to see life inside-out instead outside-in. So what?

In this episode, Steve and Antti share their personal reflections on how life is so much simpler and easier these days and how things just seem to make more sense.

Keywords: perspective, clarity, better relationships, ease, less striving, nothing is wrong, trust, addictions, drugs, alcohol, near death experiences, 3 principles, three principles understanding, inside-out

Happy New Year! To start the new year, Antti and Steve discuss what a simulated life means, and why it sometimes doesn't look like a simulation. We explore how seeing life as a simulation frees us up to play the game of life with more fun and creativity (and less anxiety)

Keywords: waking up, dreaming, role-play, game of life, meaning of life, rules of life, meditation, mindfulness, michael neill, quora, inside-out understanding, consciousness, doing your best, 3 principles

Often transformative coaching is about helping the client to see their OKAYness. Okay, but what next? Listen to Antti and Steve talk about the creative possibilities that become available once the client moves their focus away from ‘fixing’ and fear towards creating and being curious.

Keywords: creativity, curiosity, possibilities, problem-free living, coaching, inside-out understanding, the 3 principles

Why do we have so much thinking when someone says ‘no’ to us?... Listen to Antti and Steve talk about rejection, and all the meanings we give to NO, or to being ignored, or to any outcome we’d rather not experience. (Warning occasionally funny!)

Keywords: rejection, criticism, getting no for an answer, vulnerability, internet dating, inside-out understanding, the 3 principles

Antti coaches Steve around a long list of sometimes deeply personal troubled thinking Steve has. Covering his thoughts about being a successful transformative coach, successful at dating, and ultimately successful at being human... Is it any of it actually real?

Keywords: anxiety, troubled thinking, love life, coaching, meanings, feelings, inside-out understanding, the 3 principles

Why is it so difficult for us to ‘relax’ when we have a lot of unfinished things to do? Or is that just Steve? Is this perfectionism? Or not knowing everything’s okay? Listen to Antti and Steve talk about the ‘importance’ of getting things done…

Keywords: relaxation, okayness, internal pressure, troubled thinking, innocent misunderstandings, inside-out understanding, 3 principles, sydney banks

Finally, Antti coaches Steve around the thorny topic of relationships. Specifically, Steve's belief that appearance (of his partner) matters in the success, or otherwise, of his relationship. Listen as Antti and Steve explore some troubled thinking Steve has around female appearances and relationships.

Keywords: apperances, looks, faults, imperfections, inside-out understanding, 3 principles, sydney banks, fetishes, judgements, overthinking

Tribes and groups are in intrinsic part of human life. They're also the foundation of some of the best and the worst human actions and achievements. Steve has some troubled thinking around tribes and together with Antti they explore the nature of tribes and our place in them.

Keywords: tribes, trust, inside-out understanding, 3 principles, holocaust, achievements, red auerbach, groupthink, conditioning

Relationships. They are often the best and the worst life has to offer. We start our discussion of relationships with this quote by Garret Kramer: “The foundation of an enduring relationship? Knowing your feelings aren't caused by the behavior, appearance, or opinions of your partner."

KEYWORDS

relationships, dating, difficult relationships, troubled thinking, overthinking, why are relationships difficult?, inside-out understanding, 3 principles, hell is other people