Eros & Earth with Megan Lambert

Men and women are often polar opposites when it comes to sexual needs, desires, and what turns us on. It's this polarity that can be the key to either bringing us together or pushing us farther apart. 

This week, I'm talking with Sarita, a radiant woman in her 60s who has been teaching Tantra for 30 years. Her whole life she has been following the question - "What is the essence of life?" In Tantra, she found an answer. 

James & I just finished an amazing week-long couple's retreat with Sarita. At the end of the week, I sit down with her to explore the peaks and valleys of the tantric love-making. 

If you've ever felt that your sex life could be more fulfilling, vibrant, and divine, this episode will give you valuable insights from a master Tantra teacher. 

Key Topics:

• Sarita's path to tantra, love, and the search for enlightenment [1:59]
• Why sexiness is the closest thing to godliness [4:20]
• Riding the orgasmic waves of the yin and the yang during sex [6:43]
• Balancing masculine and feminine arousal in love-making [12:25]
• Worshipping your man's Lingham (penis) as a path of devotion [18:45]
• Reigniting the honeymoon hormones from your early relationship [25:06]
• Why Tantric men are the best lovers - and how to know if he's the one [27:37] 
  
  

Find more from Sarita:

https://www.tantra-essence.com/about/mahasatvaa-ma-ananda-sarita-2/

If you're curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

This week, I'm doing an interview from a couples' retreat on the beach in Bali with my friends and fellow changemakers, Madiha Bee and Ehab Marneh.

Madiha coaches Arab women to reclaim their sacred feminine power and step into leadership in their communities, while Ehab teaches people to embody their truest selves and become enlightened leaders. 

This episode will touch on many of the challenges the two have faced in their coaching careers advocating for change and challenging cultural taboos, particularly in the Middle East. We discuss how they each approach criticism from the public, their peers and families, and even within themselves. We'll also discuss the taboos of challenging deep-seated cultural norms, reframe how other cultures view one another critically, and how to design your own reality to become truly liberated.

We'll leave you with new perspectives to ponder, and the question, "How can you contribute to the change you want to see in the world while trusting your intuition and inner wisdom?

If you're curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

Key Topics:

• Madiha and Ehab's background in creating a movement  [1:22]
• Ehab's story of sharing a provocative post & being publicly shamed by millions of people for it [5:28]
• How he turned this moment into personal growth through appreciation [12:08]
• Madiha's ability to create space for free will around the hijab [25:00]
• "Everyone has their own veils; some are just more visible than others."  [30:41]
• Liberation comes from within  [34:23]
• Madiha's experience of ease and safety amongst her online community. [40:30]
• Trusting your intuition and contributing to meaningful change in the world  [44:49]

Find more from Ehab:

https://www.facebook.com/dr.ehabhamarneh

https://www.youtube.com/c/HighestPossibleExpression

https://www.instagram.com/dr.ehabhamarneh/

Find more from Madiha:

https://www.facebook.com/madihabeecoaching

https://www.youtube.com/c/MadihaBeeAwakenedWoman/videos

https://www.instagram.com/madihabeecoaching/

This week, I'm interviewing one of my coaching clients, Emily, about her journey on a 3-month coaching container with me that's now coming to an end. Emily first chose to work with me when she was post-partum with her third child and felt she was dragging baggage around from the past that she was ready to surrender.

In this episode, we get real about Emily's deepest emotions, desires, and shadows that she had been avoiding bringing into the light before working with me. We talk about opening up about sexual fantasies, grieving the lost relationship with her mother and the rage surrounding it, cutting ties with people who no longer served a purpose in her life, and what's in store for her future. 

If you want to reach into the depths with us and share in Emily's emotional journey, you don't want to miss this episode.    

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM, or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you're curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Key Topics:

• Emily's desire to release the baggage she's been carrying around from the past [1:03]
• Using the concepts of free birth as a tool for surrender [3:38]
• How my approach helped Emily soften and be vulnerable with me [7:48]
• Getting deep about desire with her partner by channeling her feminine energy [14:16]
• Accepting anger, rage, and grief and releasing expectations around family members  [22:21]
• Channeling rage and darkness through swamping [30:36]
• Finding the courage to cut ties with her abusive ex, her legal battles, and the voices telling her to keep fighting for things that were no longer serving her. [34:28]
• Flipping the script on feeling like she had to be a certain way to be seen as professional  [36:45]
• Envisioning her future career and wanting to support families through traumatic events [40:37]
• Calling others to go deeper and let circumstances show you where you need to heal [50:27]

When is it the hardest to love yourself?

If you've never asked yourself this question before, this episode is for you. I'm joined by my good friend and self-love queen, Gina Swire, where we get deep about the messy, edgy, and wonderful parts of the self-love journey.  

We discuss the realness and rawness of true self-love vs. the diluted version you often see in mainstream media, how self-love is an internal truth, how to navigate through difficult emotions that can arise in our journey, and we even share our own moments where we've struggled to love ourselves through hardship and loss.  

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you're curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Connect with Gina:

@ginaswire

https://linktr.ee/ginaswire

Key Moments:

• The dark depths of true self-love vs. mainstream, diluted self-love [2:19]
  
  
• The addictiveness of lower-frequency thought patterns that take away from our healing [6:34]
  
  
  
• Riding the waves of the emotional spectrum vs. spiritual bypassing [9:24]

• What happens when your emotional processing is mismatched in relationships? [14:25]

• Coming back to connection after a falling out; revealing our self-love blind spots  [21:09]

• Lifting the veil on Gina's downloads and channeling abilities [26:02]

• Revealing our own self-love struggles [31:50]
  
  
• One simple step to start on your self-love journey and what we're currently working on for ourselves [46:34]

This week, I'm sitting down for a solo episode to talk with you about motherhood and my experience so far raising my ten-month-old baby, Lila. 

As you can imagine, we've learned a lot in the time we've had her in our lives. There has been so much expansion, growth, joy, tears, and learning. But all of it has brought me so much love and purpose as our family grows. 

In this episode, I'm going to share all the moments — happy, messy, scary, and humbling — starting with the first 40 days of our parenting cocoon. I'll share what it was like to not leave the house for almost 2 months in the beginning, what traveling the world with a newborn was like, our first big health scare as a family, and all the expectations and teachings I've had throughout the last 10 months.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email ([email protected]), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you're curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Safe Infant Sleep is a great resource to learn about co-sleeping safely

Possum Sleep Method for sleep training

Solid starts for baby-led weaning

Key Moments:

(01:19 - 6:26) Feeling so supported by family and friends in the first 40 days of our parenting cocoon

(6:27 - 7:46) The shocking realization that motherhood is a lot messier than it seems

(7:47 - 8:34) Honoring Lila and her spirit sibling in a Balinese placenta burying ritual

(9:56 - 11:45) The sweetest, most expansive moments of motherhood so far

(11:46 - 14:07) The messiness of traveling for 36 hours with a 2-month old 

(14:08 -18:00) Navigating difficult emotions through our first health scare as a family 

(18:02 - 19:35) Realizing the importance of having friends who relate to motherhood

(19:35 -23:16) Throwing away the parenthood playbook to find what parenting styles worked best for us

(23:17 - 25:27) Screens, or no screens? Adjusting our parenting styles over time

(25:28 - 29:36) Balancing being a wife, mother, entrepreneur, and individual 

(29:38 - 32:33) Reflecting on how I've grown and evolved over the past 10 months as I navigate first-time motherhood

In today's episode, I'm joined by my good friend Stephanie Dickinson (also a relationship coach), and we're talking all about asking for our desires from our partners. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and sit down for a heart-to-heart with us.

In this episode, Stephanie & I share our real-life, intimate stories around asking for what we want from our partners. 

As we've discovered, it's not easy to ask for what we want. We often build stories around why what we want isn't possible, or we drop our desires before we get the courage to ask for them. 

Here we give you tangible ways to break down the process — how to identify a desire in ourselves and the feelings that come up around the desire, how to approach the desire with a partner, friend, or loved one, and how to be open to others' desires when we're on the receiving side of a request. 

We also explore masculine/feminine dynamics and how to work with the opposing energies when it comes to asking for a desire. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email ([email protected]), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you're curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Connect with Stephanie on Instagram

Schedule a call with Stephanie

https://schedulestephanie.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=34999529

Key Moments:

(2:16 - 6:22) Stephanie opens up about an edgy desire she's asked for recently, and how it went for her

(6:25 - 8:18) Talking yourself out of your wants as a form of self-rejection

(8:20 - 12:07) The inner work Stephanie does to identify desires in herself

(12:26 - 17:08) Megan's desire to do the tantra retreat - and how she persistently and gently brought James on board

(17:18 -19:50) Resentment is the smoke on the fire of your desire

(19:52 - 26:32) Confiding in your friends to dig deeper before approaching your partner

(26:36 - 31:59) Being on the receiving end of someone else's desires and setting boundaries

(32:00 - 38:20) Navigating "charged" sensations in difficult conversations

(38:21 - 41:00) Setting a "context" or framework around conversations with loved ones

(41:02 - 43:54) Sharing our current (secret) desires that we haven't yet spoken to our partners about

In today's episode, I'm joined by my husband James to discuss our pregnancy journey—how we decided it was time to start a family, how we discovered that I was pregnant, what we learned going through this for the first time, and our separate physical and emotional experiences throughout each stage of pregnancy.

Pregnancy was a completely new experience for both of us. We went into it with our own preconceived ideas and expectations of how it would be and were met with a reality that toppled all of it. While it was intense and hard at times, we were also pleasantly surprised at how it was simultaneously wonderful and exciting. Join us to hear all the juicy details from preconception, conception, and a trimester-by-trimester walkthrough of our journey together.   

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email ([email protected]), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you're curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

I created a guide of all the amazing resources that supported me in my pregnancy journey! You can find that here:

https://www.megandlambert.com/pregnancy-resources

Key Moments:

(1:17 -3:58) How we knew we were ready to be parents 

(3:59 - 5:33) Our conception story, feeling the spirit of our future baby with us

(5:35 - 10:03) The many false negatives that led up to our pregnancy announcement  

(10:04 -11:35) Why we decided to tell everyone right away instead of waiting

(11:36 - 18:02) The first trimester: learning to slow down and listen to my body

(18:03 - 24:47) The second trimester: "The Great Wait" and regaining my energy

(24:48 -27:19) Traveling while pregnant and getting COVID 

(27:20 -31:18) The third trimester: James's changed perception of pregnancy stereotypes vs. what's actually possible for pregnant women

(31:19 - 35:02) Being confronted with body insecurities and feeling alone 

(35:04 -37:27) Closing up shop and the final preparations before birth

(37:28 - 39:56) Our advice to couples in being supportive to your pregnant partner, and finding the gifts and intuitive nature that pregnancy holds

Today, I'm interviewing a coaching client and friend of mine, Kori Zornes (@herwanderlustsoul) about her transition into motherhood, and her decision to reach out for support during this transformational time in her life.

For many new mothers, the first few months after baby are a blur, and Kori's experience was no exception. Through all the chaos, she's been relearning about herself. Who she is, what her values are, what she wants out of motherhood and partnership, and how she wants her future to look with her growing family. 

In this episode, we discuss why it's so important to reach out for support no matter where you're at in life, why Kori chose me to coach her through this time, and all the beautiful things she's learned about herself and her relationship along the way. Kori's commitment to self-development has had a ripple effect throughout all aspects of her life. I'm honored that she chose me to support her through it and excited to continue celebrating her future growth!

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let me know your thoughts!

If you're curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Connect with Kori on Instagram, or visit her website to learn more:

@herwanderlustsoul

https://www.revampretreats.com/

Timestamps:

(01:18 -3:43) Kori's background, coming out of the postpartum cocoon and beginning to rediscover herself 

(3:46 - 5:54) What was going through her head as she decided to receive support during this new phase of her life

(5:56 - 7:48) How Kori and I aligned to work together on her goals

(7:50 - 9:11) The top 3 things Kori wanted to work on during her coaching 

(9:16 - 11:26) The challenging moments — realizing her relationship is a mirror for herself 

(11:27 - 15:15) Why you should "focus on your own side of the street" (and what that actually means)

(15:16 - 21:18) Apologizing, improving communication, and changing the stories we tell ourselves around disagreements

(21:29 - 23:07) Breaking down tumescence and how tumescence hinders our deepest connections

(23:09 - 27:35) Getting curious in moments of confusion or doubt

(27:37 -29:55) What is Kori celebrating herself for in her journey?

(29:57 - 33:45) Making sense of the early postpartum blur and leaning into the messiness; closing thoughts

In this episode, my husband James Mattingley & I are interviewed by the wonderful Aimee Batuski of Desire on Fire, on how our marriage has changed since becoming parents. Aimee helps us dig into all the shifts we've gone through, and how we've navigated them together as a couple. 

We knew our lives would change after we got married, started our businesses, and had a baby, but it was impossible to fully prepare for the ups and downs that would occur through all of these major life events. Here we share how we've adapted to new needs, expectations, and roles as parents. 

Today, we're bringing our tools and advice to you so that you can learn from our mistakes and successes and start integrating these practices into your own relationship to start having the intimacy you crave.   

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM, or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! 

If you're curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Key Moments:

(4:13 - 5:52) Our history as a couple so far 

(6:16 - 9:25) Reflecting on our marriage and early parenthood. Describing the magnified feelings and emotional bubbles we experienced

(9:26 - 12:20) Megan feeling needy after giving birth, and learning to feel worthy of that extra love and care

(12:22 - 13:39) James's perspective on being needed more while receiving less, and what has changed for him in becoming a father

(13:41 - 19:26) How we've navigated the inevitably uneven roles in new parenthood without becoming resentful of each other (well, not too much!)

(19:28 - 22:11) How James has responded to different communications surrounding Megan's needs

(22:13 - 27:15) How we've kept the erotic intimacy alive after becoming parents. Hint: intimacy doesn't always involve sex 

(27:16 - 32:46) The physical challenges we faced postpartum. Intimacy, sex, and body confidence

(32:48 - 42:37) Sharing our juiciest, most stubborn fights - and how we moved through them by choosing love again and again 

(42:39 - 55:55) Analyzing the moments where we've failed to disagree in a healthy way, but have always gotten back on track

(55:58 - 1:02:59) Tools like "Emptying the Bucket" on how to move through disagreements and regulate yourself in heated moments.

We're hosting a couples' retreat in September! Learn more here:

https://integratedintimacy.co/epic-intimacy-retreat/

Private 2 on 2 couple's coaching:

https://integratedintimacy.co/couples-intensive/

Get in Touch with James, Megan, and Aimee:

https://www.instagram.com/megandlambert/

https://www.instagram.com/james.mattingley/

https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Aimee's Desire on Fire Website:

https://www.desireonfire.com/

Today, I'm finally sharing the highly-requested home birth story of our daughter, Lila. This is a tell-all episode with no intimate details spared. 

In this episode, I recount my birth journey — from choosing our midwife, the days leading up to the birth, the moment I knew I was in labor, the feelings and sensations moving through my body during the whole experience, all the way up to the birth when we finally met our daughter.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram, or leaving a review to let me know your thoughts! 

If you're curious about what my husband James & I offer, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Key Moments:

(0:00 - 5:12) How we chose home birth, navigating family and cultural expectations, and the secret our midwife didn't tell us at first

(5:15 - 6:00 ) The calm before labor begins - a quiet moment with God and the Universe 

(6:01 - 10:00) Realizing labor is starting (on my exact due date!)

(10:01 - 15:00) How my birth team made me feel like a true goddess, channeling my primal power in the late stages of labor

(15:02 - 16:05) Connecting deeply with my husband in the moments before Lila was born

(16:08 - 17:57) Channeling pain into pleasure as I started pushing

(17:58 - 19:26) Pooping during labor: let's talk about it

(19:35 - 22:02) The final pushes, and the indescribable joy of finally meeting our daughter

(22:03 - 22:53) Bonding with Lila through baby-led breastfeeding

(22:54 - 25:30) Post-birth: stitches, catheters, placentas, and cutting the cord together as a new family

(25:31 - 27:27) Reflecting on the feelings of empowerment after giving birth and final thoughts

Birth Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

"Transformed by Birth" by Britta Bushnell

"Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" by Ina May Gaskin

"Nurture" by Erica Chidi Cohen

"Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering" by Sarah J Buckley

"Bountiful, Beautiful, Blissful" by Gurmukh

"Give Birth Like a Feminist" by Milli Hill

"Expecting Better" by Emily Oster 

Instagram

@painfreebirth

Where to Find Megan:

@megandlambert

https://www.megandlambert.com/