Eros & Earth with Megan Lambert

One baby vs. two babies — depending who you ask, you'll get a different answer about what it's like to shift from a family of 3 to a family of 4 or more. 

This week, I'm talking with Jess Osie about the shifts in motherhood that come with a growing family. 

In this episode, we discuss motherhood as a rite of passage, the family nervous system, and caring for your relationship with your partner throughout all stages of parenthood. 

Jess gets real about what it's like caring for two children and the struggles she and her partner have faced along the way. If you're growing your family, or just curious to know what it's like shifting into this new stage of life, this episode is for you.

Key Topics:

• Moving through the resentment tunnel of early parenthood [2:48]
• Practicing gratitude and appreciation of each other as parents [8:32]
• Navigating the family nervous system as a family of 4 [14:26]
• How to tend to the family nervous system [18:29]
• 1+1 does not = 2 in parenthood [22:00]
• Feeling a deeper inner confidence and intuition as a mother with baby #2 [26:30]
• Self-trust in maternal intuition is nourishing and reaffirming [29:54]
• Motherhood is a rite of passage — go slow, be gentle [35:32]

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If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Find more from Jess:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessosie/

Website: https://www.jessosie.com/

Are you pregnant, postpartum, or a parent --- and are also trying to keep an intimate relationship alive? This episode is for you. 

Here we cover one of the topics people ask me about the most - what changes in your intimacy once a little one arrives? 

In short, everything. 

In this episode, I break the conversation down into 3 phases - pregnancy, early postpartum days, and toddlerhood & beyond - and share the major challenges I hear from couples in each of these phases. 

Then I share 5 powerful ways you can keep the spark alive with your partner, even as you navigate the turbulent and awe-inspiring waters of parenthood. 

Key Topics:

• The changes and challenges to sex and intimacy in pregnancy [2:18]
• The pleasant (sexy!) surprises about intimacy during pregnancy [6:05]
• Rediscovering each other after the baby is born [6:47]
• Allowing space for your partner's erotic needs after giving birth [8:47]
• Keeping the spark alive as new parents [10:03]
• Resentment is a wet blanket for intimacy  [11:37]
• Parenthood as an initiation to deepening and expanding your intimacy [12:26]
• 5 tangible shifts you can make to keep the spark alive [14:52]

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If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Have you heard the news? We're expecting baby #2! 

James & I are planning to welcome a little boy to our family in February 2024. We're so excited. 

In this life update episode I share all - how I knew it was time to conceive, our intimate conception story, finding out I was pregnant, and the way we surprised our family with the news. 

I also open up about fears and desires for this second journey through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum - as well as the challenges I'm anticipating. 

Lastly, I share how James and I are preparing our relationship to weather the storms of having more children - and how we're continuing to deepen into parenthood together. 

If you're interested in hearing about my first birth story, you can listen to that episode here: 

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/my-birth-story-of-lila/id1498731180?i=1000569846244

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/57NraRCfBZQFtSlu8z2ymH?si=8d11a34372f14fb3 

Key Topics:

• How I knew it was time for baby #2 [1:32]
• Navigating my complex feelings around a new pregnancy [4:05]
• Sharing the news with family in-person as a highlight of our wedding  [7:27]
• The differences in the first trimester between baby #1 and baby #2 [8:14]
• Breaking ground on The Sanctuary right after conceiving [13:09]
• Expectations vs. Reality of the second pregnancy [15:11]
• Hopes and fears for the portal of pregnancy, birth, and rebirth [16:40]
• Planning for another post-birth family cocoon [19:00]
• Anticipating new needs for structure and support in our relationship post-birth [19:00]

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If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Have you ever struggled with a "low libido"? It can feel so isolating, especially in a relationship, where your partner may be looking to you for their erotic satisfaction. 

In this episode, with renowned French sexologist Camille Bataillon, we unravel what "low libido" really means - and what to do about it. 

We often talk about "low libido" as if it is an individual problem - but the truth is, when you're in a partnership, "low libido" is a relational challenge of mismatched desire.

So how do you address conflicting desires and needs, sexually? 

How do you uncover what you really want and nourish your erotic self?

How do you take responsibility for your own erotic satisfaction and then share it with a partner?

We cover all of these juicy topics in this episode. We hope it serves you in your journey towards more fulfilling sex, juicy desires, and closer partnership! 

Key Topics:

• Taking the shame out of libido mismatches [1:15]
• Finding a balance and setting expectations without judgment [6:08]
• Communication comes first [11:25]
• How to avoid therapy as a last-resort relationship saver [12:32]
• Your libido isn't broken — Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire [14:23]
• Nourishing your erotic self through learning about your libido [17:48]
• How parenthood shifts libido, desires, and the way we communicate about them [27:39]
• Making love makes love — 240 different reasons to have sex [33:22]

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Learn more about Camille at https://www.camillebataillon.com/ or connect with her on Instagram @camilleparlesexe.  

If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

What leads to the spark dying down? How can you stoke the fire and bring back the flame - in a fun and playful way? 

In this episode, I share a sample story of a couple who's passion and romance faded over time… and the specific ways James & I helped them revive the spark. 

One of the main ways we help couples is by bringing the play back into intimacy, predominantly through games. Intimacy games help couples feel on the same team, be open minded to discover each other, and communicate what they like. 

Here I share 3 of my favorite games for couples who want to reignite and rediscover each other intimately. Each game takes 10 min or less - but can radically shift your erotic life. 

Let me know how the games go afterwards via email ([email protected]) or via Instagram (@megandlambert). Wishing you a fun and playful exploration with your partner!

Key Topics:

• Acknowledging relationship loops that stand in the way of intimacy [1:09]
• The unspoken void of intimacy disconnect - and how to shift it [6:18]
• Game #1 - Kiss Me Like This [8:55]
• Game #2 - A/B Testing [11:52]
• Game #3 - The Desire Game [15:46]

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If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

What actually happens at a couples retreat?! Who goes to a retreat? What do people learn?

In this episode, my husband James Mattingley and I share about our most recent couples' retreat in Bali. This was the third couples retreat we've hosted together, and like each one so far, it was full of lessons for ourselves and for the couples. 

We talk about the type of people who attend couples' retreats, what these couples were looking for, and some of the surprising twists and turns this retreat took. 

We shared our favorite topics and a-ha moments from the retreat, from the myth of low libido to a body-based approach to navigating conflict in relationships, as well as one of the key skills we teach - how to spark the passion in long-term love. 

I hope you find this episode useful! If you'd like to join us on a future retreat, our next one is Dec 1-4th, 2023 in Bali. You can find more info on it here: www.integratedintimacy.co/retreat. 

Key Topics:

• The type of people that attend couples retreats (hint: it's not what you think!) [1:07]
• Learning to have healthy conflict and embrace big truths [3:17]
• Increasing attraction and sensuality in partnership [7:06]
• How to create polarity on demand [9:21]
• Busting the myth of low libido [11:29]
• Having grace for our humanity [12:27]
• What James & I learn by teaching together [16:43]

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If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

We're backkk! The first episode with Londin Angel Winters was so powerful (listen to it here), that we immediately recorded a follow-up episode - this time centered on motherhood. 

If you don't yet know Londin, she is an expert on the path of sacred devotional intimacy, having taught about sexuality, masculine / feminine dynamics, and the art of surrender for over 12 years. She is a true role model in this field and my former relationship mentor. 

In this episode, she shares about the pain of multiple miscarriages and how she (unexpectedly!) conceived at 47 years old, and had a successful home birth at 48 years old. 

We explore the profoundly spiritual aspects of giving birth, and what pregnancy and birth taught us about surrender, the power of the female body, and trusting the divine. We explore the intricate connections between birth, death, and sexuality. 

She shares about breaking the chains of old ways of parenting, and letting your child be your greatest spiritual teacher. 

We dive into intimacy and sex after baby - why so many moms lose interest in sex - and how postpartum actually represents a profound initiation into sacred sexuality and intimate depth, if both people are willing to uplevel together. 

Lastly, we end by talking about the purpose of motherhood - to give love in a way you never received - and how anchoring into that purpose can provide meaning, even in challenging motherhood moments. 

Key Topics:

• Finding acceptance through the pain of multiple miscarriages [01:33]
• Becoming pregnant with a miracle baby at 47 years old [3:41]
• Surrendering to the uncertainty of past pregnancies and [7:38]
• Going to the gates of life and death to receive her daughter [14:53]
• The annihilation of self and total surrender [16:55] 
• Positive discipline as a blueprint for your child to discover themselves [24:21]
• Making room for the messiest parts of ourselves when we're feeling fragmented[32:05]
• Breaking the chains of the old ways of parenting [38:45]
• Parenthood can be the initiation for deeper intimacy if you make space for it [47:20]
• What kind of love would you love your child to experience that you never received? [1:04:55]

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Live Online Group Calls: 

https://www.patreon.com/c/yogaofintimacy

Websites:

Yoga of Intimacy: https://yogaofintimacy.co/

Londin Angel Winters: https://londinangelwinters.com/

Books:

Playing With Fire: The Spiritual Path of Intimate Relationship: https://a.co/d/0g8ovHdB

The Awakened Woman’s Guide to Everlasting Love: https://a.co/d/0fGmJZAA

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/londinawinters/

Meet Michelle Etchison - queen of naughty content, self-expression guide, breathwork facilitator and overall badass entrepreneur. She became a friend of mine through a mastermind, where I learned about her journey of healing her autoimmune disease through pleasure and self-expression.

At only 23 years old, she found herself struggling with an autoimmune disease that left her frail and weak. Through reconnecting with her inner voice, expressing herself boldly, and exploring her pleasure, she has completely healed. These days, you'll find her doing sensual dance, EFT, or breathwork, posting about her happy hoe life on Instagram, and being vibrantly, radiantly healthy. 

In this episode, we explore the wisdom of our bodies - how autoimmune disease is a wake-up call for parts of our souls to come alive. We look at pleasure, and the ways pleasure helps our body become a safe place to be. Lastly, we explore Michelle's roots as a child of immigrants, and how her cultural heritage informs her work today. 

I hope you enjoy this episode! 

Key Topics:

• Michelle's origin story of healing autoimmune disease through pleasure and self-expression [01:58]
• The spark of realization that ignited her voice [5:30]
• The deep inner wisdom that stems from illness [9:45]
• Finally feeling safe to surrender [13:00]
• The profoundness of pleasure [14:30] 
• Feeling into the nourishment of breathwork and self-pleasure [20:14]
• Gifting yourself pockets of pleasure and play throughout the day [26:21]
• Michelle's upbringing as the child of immigrants & breaking traditions [28:23]
• Knocking on the doors of your heart and soul - awakening new parts of you [34:51]

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Connect with Michelle Etchison: 

On Instagram: @michelle.etchison
https://michelleetchison.com/

If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Ever wonder if there is a more empowering and holistic way to view health challenges? Ever feel like modern medicine is missing a big piece of the puzzle, especially for women?  

In this episode with integrative health practitioner, Bindi Stables, we look at the root cause of chronic illness, disease, and body dysfunction, particularly when it comes to women's bodies. 

Bindi shares her inspiring story of healing from daily seizures to thriving health, and how she found medical answers in unexpected places (ex: emotions, intuition, and ayuveda). 

We look at the most common health problem she helps women with - their menstrual cycles - and how this seemingly simple aspect of being a woman reveals much deeper patterns in our lives, as well as an invitation to an entirely new way of living. 

We also look at how our relationship to our menstrual cycle reflects our relationship to the feminine, and nature as a whole. Powerful stuff! I got chills many times during this episode because I believe this is such an important conversation. I hope you enjoy it! 

Key Topics:

• Bindi's year-long struggle with daily seizures and finding no answers [01:00]
• Tapping into intuition to find a new path to healing [6:25]
• The manifestation of stagnation through building identity prisons [8:30]
• Stagnation is the birth of challenges conflicts [11:06]
• The two sides of examining health issues [13:05] 
• The long-term impacts of hormonal birth control on women [19:17]
• Finding healthier alternatives [28:00]
• Harnessing the gifts of our cycles [34:10]
• Honoring the wisdom of nature through herbalism [46:26]

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If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Connect with Bindi: 

On Instagram: @bindistables
https://www.bindistables.com/

Do you struggle to receive? Do you wish your partner did more thoughtful things for you?

In this joint episode with my husband, James Mattingley, I share about the biggest gift I've ever received - and what it's taught me about the art of giving & receiving in romantic relationships. 

James recently spent several months renovating my office! And in that process, I learned so much about the voices in my head that block my receiving  ("Do I deserve this? I don't need anything so beautiful…"), as well as the magic I saw in my relationship when I opened to receive this gift graciously. 

By sharing this story of learning to receive more fully, I hope you get a golden nugget for yourself around what it means to receive, what stands in the way, and how to open more fully to the love that is, always, all around. 

Key Topics:

• The biggest gift I've ever received [00:36]
• Desiring the space to share my gifts with the world [2:20]
• Pouring attention into your partner's desires [3:38]
• The best questions to ask your partner around gift-giving [5:52]
• Receiving graciously and letting go of the outcome [6:44] 
• How gifting reinforces your love bubble [10:50]
• The juicy ideas that can bubble up while journaling around gift-giving [12:55]

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If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!