Eros & Earth with Megan Lambert

What was becoming a mother like for our mothers? For our grandmothers? 

How can the wisdom from women who have come before guide us newer mamas in this journey? What can we learn from our mothers, grandmothers, wise women?

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with my own mom to unravel and discover my female lineage, learning about my mama's motherhood journey as well as my grandmother's. 

My mother — a mama to 3 children — shares her experience of becoming a mama in her 20s, divorcing in her 30s, and then becoming a mama again in her 40s. She reflects on the delicate balance of maintaining a separate sense of self, of womanhood, while being a devoted mother. 

We also explored what "feminine power" means in the context of motherhood, and women's unique ability to subtly influence family dynamics - without losing ourselves in the process. 

I left this chat feeling more connected to my mom and to the long line of mothers before us, as well as inspired by the foundational wisdom from generations before me. If you've ever wondered how to keep your own dreams alive and your partnership strong while raising little ones, this conversation is for you.

In this captivating, intimate episode of the Eros Mama podcast, I welcome Alexandra Roxo, best-selling author of "Fuck Like a Goddess" and mother to a 10-month-old girl. 

Alexandra shares her transformative journey to motherhood, discussing the challenges of finding the right partner and balancing her career with her desire for a child.

Alexandra opens up about her transition from a successful career in film and TV to a spiritual and healing path, and how this shift ultimately led her to motherhood. She candidly discusses the societal pressures she faced, her experiences with miscarriage, and the deep personal work she and her partner undertook to create a strong foundation for their family.

She challenges cultural narratives about motherhood and encourages women to embrace their erotic selves while navigating the demands of parenting.

This episode offers valuable insights for anyone interested in conscious conception, maintaining sensuality during pregnancy and postpartum, and creating a thriving partnership while raising a family. Alexandra's story is a testament to the power of trust, embodiment, and staying connected to one's desires throughout the journey of motherhood.

Join Megan and Alexandra for this empowering conversation that redefines what it means to be a sensual, vibrant mother in today's world.

Have you ever trusted your intuition, even amidst the noise of other people's opinions? Such a powerful and needed skill of a mama. 

In this episode, I share about taking my daughter out of school after noticing her upset when being dropped off. I talk about navigating conflicting voices in my head - am I coddling her? Aren't I supposed to "send my kids to school" - vs. ultimately trusting the quiet whispers of my body telling me this wasn't right. 

I've also been exploring the concept of "unschooling" which focuses on child-led learning without an adult-imposed curriculum. This concept resonates deeply with me and I share my favorite resources on it below. 

Ultimately this episode is about trusting our intuition as mother's even when it goes against societal norms or advice from others. I invite you to deeply listen to yourself as you make choices about your children. 

A great listen for any mama considering pre-school, homeschool, or unschooling her children. 

• 00:03 - Intro about exploring the concept of unschooling - child-led learning without adult-imposed curriculum
• 03:28 - Enrolled Lila in an alternative preschool in Bali 
• 05:17 - After a few days, Lila was holding back tears when being dropped off, which didn't feel right
• 06:43 - Saw another child cry hysterically for 45 mins after being dropped off, solidifying her decision
• 08:08 - Decided to take Lila out of preschool and trust her intuition, even if it disrupted norms
• 08:38 - Highlights the importance of tuning into maternal intuition over conventional wisdom when it doesn't resonate
• 10:12 -  Provides another example of listening to instincts by not doing cry-it-out sleep training

Unschooling resources:

• Natural Learning podcast 
• Free to Learn book 
• Raising Free People book 
• Schooling the World documentary

In this episode, my husband James and I share our intimate, powerful home birth story of our second baby, Latham. It was such a wild and empowering journey! Here I weave the tale of each step of the journey, plus what we did to prepare for the birth. 

I am so passionate about rewriting the narrative around birth. I believe birth can be the portal to a woman's deepest feminine power, a blueprint that lasts her whole life (and the baby's!). 

This is a great listen for anyone who is pregnant or considering a home birth. 

• 0:00 - Who we are and why we chose a home birth 
• 4:00 - The juicy way my labor started (literally!)
• 10:00 - The power of primal sounds in labor 
• 15:00 - When it got challenging through transition 
• 18:12 - Realizing "F*** good girl, that part will not get you through this birth"
• 25:35 - The baby is born! One big contraction 
• 27:10 - Brief scare when baby didn't breathe right away
• 30:00 - Birthing the placenta, skin-to-skin after birth
• 34:04 - The two most helpful things I did to prepare for birth 
• 39:14 - How partners can cultivate trust in birth
• 41:00 - Final reflections

Have you ever finally gotten the baby or kids to sleep, crashed into bed… and then your partner wants to make love? Maybe you also wanted to connect intimately, but you felt overwhelmed, overtouched, tapped out. What do you do? 

That is a very real challenge many mamas face (myself included!). In this episode I share with you exactly what I did the other night to deliberately transition from "mom mode" to "lover mode" in just a few minutes - and the beautiful intimacy that was created with my partner as a result. 

Rekindling your erotic spark - even admist the chaos and intensity of motherhood - is 100% possible for you too. This episode walks you through 5 key practices to get there. 

Key points: 

• 00:03 This episode is inspired by my experience last night! 
• 03:05 Taking a solo moment to transition from "mom mode" to "lover mode"  
• 05:12 Setting a time container and letting go of the goal 
• 09:46 Focusing on relaxation and deep breathing
• 11:23 Tuning into your body's yes/no signals through sounds and body language
• 06:28 Exploring common pitfalls like faking enjoyment or obligatory acts  
• 07:15 Encouraging honest communication and shared pleasure
• 17:05 Benefits of prioritizing intimacy for reducing conflict and parenting teamwork
• 08:32 Building body trust by trusting your "no"
• 18:41 Accessing pleasure from an exhausted state  
• 19:45 Balancing roles as mother, partner, and sensual being

Welcome back to the podcast! We're back with a fresh name, new look, and whole new vibe. 

This podcast was formerly "Touchy Topics with Megan Lambert", but as I've changed dramatically since becoming a mother, so too have my teachings. So here we are, Eros Mama. 

In Season 3 of the podcast, we're going deep into the heart of motherhood, exploring how we can maintain connection to our passion and sensuality, while nurturing our growing families. No easy feat! 

This episode shares my life updates (hello, new baby!) and major themes for this season of the podcast. 

Key Points:
[1:06] What has changed for me since baby #2 arrived? (Hint: a lot!) 

[2:35] How can we make space for all parts of us as mothers, embracing both the high highs and the low lows? 

[7:47] Noticing how the culture devalues motherhood and our life-giving work… and what we can do about it in our own homes 

[12:50] Big news about our family! A big change is brewing… 

[17:30] What does it take to leave a beautiful eco-legacy for our children? 

[22:51] The themes we will explore for the rest of this podcast

How do you know when a decision is right for you? What does that vague restless feeling tell you about your current life path? 

This mini episode is about a key concept I learned from my Orgasmic Meditation training - being on vs. off the spot - and how that concept has influenced the way I look at subtle energetics of life choices. It's been one of the most life-changing concepts I've found. Hope you enjoy it!

Key Topics:

• Having an "off the spot" moment misaligned with a desire [1:05]
• What is "on the spot" and "off the spot"? [2:24]
• As in orgasmic meditation, as in life — listening to subtle signs within yourself [4:43]
• Trusting your instincts to bring you back on the spot [7:00]
• The difficult emotions that are sometimes coupled with being on the spot [8:10]

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How do you work with masculine and feminine energy when it comes to bringing dreams to life? What gifts do our inner masculine and feminine bring around dreams? How do you dream together as a couple, in a polarized and sexy way?

As we start 2024, may this mini-episode inspire you to bring your biggest and boldest dreams to life, either individually or as a couple. 

Key Topics:

• Feminine is the vision, masculine is the execution [1:33]
• We all have masculine and feminine energies within us [4:20]
• Sometimes masculine practicality can squash feminine desire [5:13]
• Bringing forth feminine dreams and desires to a masculine partner [8:07]
• Trusting your partner to embody their chosen role for a particular dream [10:39]

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If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

How do you prepare for birth with the full reverence and devotion it deserves? 

Birth is one of the biggest initiations of a woman's life. It touches every aspect of who she is emotionally, physically, spiritually, socially…. As well as ripples out to her partner, family, friends, and community. 

So - what can you do to prepare for an amazing birth? Here I share a few of my favorite resources and things that have helped me prepare for birth. 

For my full pregnancy resource guide, check out - www.megandlambert.com/pregnancy 

Key Topics:

• Birth is the biggest initiation of a woman's life [1:09]
• Stripping away the layers of your being [2:51]
• Birth is also a rebirth for the mother [3:55]
• Preparing for the descent, death, and re-emergence as a new woman [4:19]
• Preparing your mind for birth and expelling fears from the experience [6:25]
• Getting creative in birth prep [8:05]
• Reaching out to loved ones for support [8:37]
• Preparing your relationship for new dynamics [9:37]
• Reconnecting with your higher power prior to birth [10:44]

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One of the least talked about — but most important — aspects of a relationship is how you structure your daily lives together. What are the rhythms and rituals you live by? What is the flow of your days? 

Often couples fall into unconscious patterns, without having a clear conversation on the rhythms they want to create together. Nor do they talk about their implicit expectations and baseline standards - which can breed resentment and hurt feelings.  

By having an open and honest conversation about these areas, you two can consciously design a more beautiful and fulfilling life together. 

In this episode, I share with you two powerful sets of questions to talk about with your partner to help you set your baseline standards and design your daily rhythms. This is potent work! May it create more flow and harmony in your relationship. 

Key Topics:

• What are rhythms and rituals in partnership? [1:06]
  • Why are they important? 
• Rhythms and rituals questions [2:50]
  • What do you do in the morning and before going to bed together?
  • How often and when do you make love?
  • How often do you have date nights?
  • Traveling and taking trips together or separately
  • Relationship check-ins
  • How do you play and have fun together?
  • How do you receive relationship support?
• Baseline standards questions [8:29]
  • What behaviors are not acceptable in fights?
  • What will you do when a standard is broken?
  • What is the standard of loyalty and honesty?
  • How long do you go without having sex?
  • How long do you harbor resentments?
  • How do you deal with substances, addictions, and/or vices?

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If you're curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. 

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!