Every Day, Getting Better

Travis Shumake is the first openly gay driver in the NHRA Camping World Drag Racing Series.  Travis joins us to talk about his pivot from fundraiser to funny car driver.  We talk about resilience, legacy and building a team.

Najwa Zebian joins us to talk about her new book Welcome Home.  This episode focuses on the need for ”self care” and about finding ”value” in ourselves and others.

Poppy is a proven entrepreneur, author and a rising star in the mental health and mindfulness space.  Today, Poppy joins me to explore the pages of her book, ”Happy, Not Perfect” as we discuss her history with anxiety, her love of research and her method, known as The Flex for achieving a more balanced approach to your mental wellbeing.

Gratitude with Gina Hamadey - Gina is the author of the book, ”I want to thank you”.  Gina and Ryan talk about the book and explore ways that we all can show more gratitude in our daily lives.

Rob Papandrea joins the show to talk with Ryan about Crisis Leadership.

Every Day, Getting Better Podcast - The Builders Project

 

Every Day, Getting Better, Episode 5, The Builders Project continues and today Ryan sits down with Rusty Hagenbuch.  

 

Rusty was named in Episode 3 as the Builder of Jesse Trout.  Today, we explore why Jesse chose Rusty.  We also get to learn about Rusty as a coach, parent, and boss.  Finally, at the end, we get to find out who built Rusty.

Topics:  

The Hagenbuch family name (it really is bad ass)

Rusty’s reaction to being named as Jesse Trout’s builder

Tough love

Making the choice to give up on someone

Coaching youth sports

Potential, failure, and perfection

Riding home with an athlete as a parent

Making mistakes and athletics

24-hour rule

Corporate Culture at Charger IT

Coaching approach at work

The Charger IT brand

Denver Broncos (Rusty’s team!)

Who built Rusty?

Early success in life 

Will Brown

Learn more about Rusty and his brand at https://www.chargerit.com/ and https://www.chargeraccess.com/

Host: Ryan Wakefield

Guest: Rusty Hagenbuch

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Every Day, Getting Better, Episode 4, Ryan sits down with Coach Andy Towers from the Premier Lacrosse League and Head Coach of the Chaos Lacrosse Club

 

Coach Towers shares his lockerroom philosophy and his transition from coaching collegiate lacrosse to professional lacrosse. 

This conversation visits a few different topics, starting with the early success of the Premier Lacrosse League,  finding happiness in your profession, transitioning to professional athletics, leadership, and mentorship, and finally, who helped to build Coach Towers.

Today's topic discussed with Andy Towers:

 

Early days of Premier Lacrosse League

What was it like to be asked to be a professional coach?

What were you doing the day before you became a professional coach?

Did you get to choose which of the new clubs you got to coach?

Format of the Premier Lacrosse League vs traditional professional sports

Professional athletes and coaching doing youth clinics during the season

Need and Responsibility

PLL All-Star Game coaching opportunity, bittersweet vs embrace the opportunity

PLL all-star game vs traditional all-star games

Happiness in the workplace and the transition from collegiate athletics to professional athletics

Selection of assistant coaches for Chaos Lacrosse club and core values of the coaching staff

Important that when coaching professionals, having professionals on his staff that have walked in the footsteps of current players

Does the Chaos Lacrosse club have core values as a team?

Being genuine in handling interactions

Having a shared vision

Honesty, work ethic, mental toughness, team-first attitude

Decision focused and effort related

Leaders in the lockerroom of the Chaos Lacrosse Club

Characteristics of different types of leaders

Followership

Players and Leadership Characteristics

Brodie Merrill

Connor Fields

Miles Jones

Blaze Riorden

Mark Glicini

And others

Humility vs ego

Success, failure and mental toughness

Non-negotiables for entering into a mentor / mentee relationship

Parenting

Heart and soul vs talent

Controlling effort, focus, toughness, decision related

Excuses and lack of mental toughness limiting success

Physical limitations

Defining success by desired results

Reaching potential as a measure of success

Making them better as a group, then they are as a group of individuals

Being the best version of ourselves - who mentored Coach Towers

High School lax coach, Coach Howard Benedict

Never allowing anyone to feel like they were successful without reaching their potential

Everyone was treated differently

High School basketball coach, Don Usher

As a group helped us exceed expectations

Not letting others, dictate to you what you can be

College Coach and Chrome Lacrosse Club Coach, Dom Starsia

Challenge my competitive spirit and commitment to the program

Less scheme based and more intangible based

Former Yale Lacrosse Coach, Mike Waldvogel

Make you verbally defend everything that came out of your mouth

Making me think about what I was saying to the players on the field

Bates Lacrosse Coach, Pete Lasagna

Allowed you to get creative

Connections with your player's fuels trust, and trust fuels sacrifice

Growing up in a competitive environment

We all build each other up and help each other

Editors note:  In the closing, I clearly wish the wrong team “best of luck” and Coach Towers calls me on it.  We have a fun laughing exchange, and my initial thought is that I am going to cut that segment out of the pod.  Instead, in the spirit of openly making mistakes and failing - I chose to leave it in. I hope you enjoy the laugh as much as we did.

How to contact Coach Towers

Website

Twitter

 

Host: Ryan Wakefield

Guests: Andy Towers

 

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The Builders Project, Episode 3, Ryan sits down with Jesse Trout from Mindful Life Coaching.  

Jesse is the first branch of The Builders Project and we hope to explore his tree in future episodes.

This conversation visits a few different topics, starting with accountability, transitioning to life coaching, Authentic Masculinity, and finally, who helped to build Jesse.

Today's topic discussed with Jesse Trout:

Goals and transparency

Authenticity

Accountability and daily routines

Meditation - App suggestion The Insight Timer

Perfection

Life Coaching overview

Curiosity

Who is life coaching for?

Coaching philosophy of holding people to be “Naturally creative, resourceful and whole”

Inward vs outward perspectives

Creativity

Social influencers and the root of The Builders Project

Inadequacies

Jesse’s transition into coaching (challenges and rewards)

The four-year process of becoming a life coach

Being the expert is limiting

Setting aside the ego

The ratio of listening vs direct input

Self-control

Authentic Masculinity

Traits to develop in young children (boys)

Cultivate and grow curiosity, wonder, and appreciation

Feelings

How to experience feelings

How to verbalize feelings

Counteract default anger

Parental influences and emotions

Adults learning Authentic Masculinity

Toxic Masculinity

Be awesome and love each other - borrowed from http://jimbot.blog/

Introducing the concept of Authentic Masculinity to high school boys

Creating an atmosphere of belonging and vulnerability

Frustration with failure and feelings

Not getting stuck

Who Built Jesse Trout

“A man fell down seven times, but he got up eight” vs “Who picked you up when you fell”

Failure

Our next builder - Rusty Hagenbuck

Tough love

Escaping accountability and self-pity

Timely mentors

Gratitude

How to contact Jesse Trout and Mindful Life Coaching

Website

Instagram

Twitter

Facebook

Host: Ryan Wakefield

Guests: Jesse Trout

Learn more about Jesse and Mindful Life Coaching:

Website

Instagram

Twitter

Facebook

 

Download or subscribe to this show at https://pod.everydaygettingbetter.com

Want to get better?  Visit us at https://everydaygettingbetter.com

We were built.  

None of us have done it alone.  No matter how fortunate or tragic your upbringing was, somewhere, someone along your path helped you.  

We are not self-made people, I believe that is a fictionalized concept that doesn’t really exist.  Sure, some of us displayed more grit than others, but at some point, someone was there to make us better, to help build us.  

Welcome to Every Day, Getting Better, and Builders Project, a podcast journey where I explore the builders from everyday walks of life who coached us, taught us, guided us, mentored us...those who built us.  

I am your host, Ryan Wakefield and I want to tell the builders stories of the teachers in small-town Montana, the coaches in Tennessee, the salesmen in Oregon, the real influencers in our lives who saw us as the best versions of ourselves, perhaps that version that we could not yet see...and then, helped us to see that same version.  

This podcast will be an adventure, starting with one guest, digging in and breaking down what made them a real influencer.  But more importantly, finding out how they have invested their time and talents to help others achieve their potential.

Every episode will be connected as at the end of each I will ask our guests the same question, “Who built you?”

Because have you ever stopped, even just for a few minutes to think about how your builder was connected to their builder, and so on?  Someone had to build them too.

Their answer, whoever it is, will then be the next guest on our show.  Or at least I hope they will be. I cannot predict the desire of the next builder in the tree, but I sure am going to try to continue the chain of builders as far as it will take me.

When the trail runs dry, a guest does not desire to be recorded or maybe has had their time on Earth expired - well then, I start again.

This time with another builder, with another tree - and the chase to discover the common links between our builders will continue.  

It is my hope that you will join me, and follow the journey.  Even better, I ask that you participate. Share with me the story of someone who built you, and just maybe, we’ll explore your story and the builders project will become about you and your tree of builders.

Ryan sits down with Jocko Willink and Leif Babin to discuss best selling book The Dichotomy of Leadership, Extreme Ownership, and various other topics.