Adults need to be mindful of the environment, values, and skills imparted to children and youths. 
Resilience often comes from a combination of factors and need to be provided and taught.
Children and youths need supportive resources and environments to build resilience. 

There are three pairs of powerful words that can lead to building resilience:
I have. I am. I can.
Fostering resilience in children and youths begin with the focused intention of informed adults. 

It is normal to expect that learning something can be tough. 
It is also normal to expect that anything worth doing requires effort. 
Thus, success is often found when we persevere. 
Youths need to learn that success is often found "around the bend." It's there waiting for us only if we search for it. 

There are three secrets to success:
1. Find the right way
2. Put in the effort
3. Persevere and don't give up
Adults should encourage youths to persevere in their effort to discover the right ways to doing things. 

Youths have to move away from fixed mindsets. 
Adults have to encourage youths that their capacity to learn should not be finite.
Don't praise kids they are smart - neither tell them they are dumb.  
Adults should encourage youths to steer from fixed mindsets. 

Youths need to be challenged so that they can experience growth and development. 
Allow for appropriate and increasing amounts of independence, freedom, and opportunities for exploration.
Adults can help youths develop when they stretch them beyond their comfort zones. 

Rehearsing and practicing positive behaviour is a protective tool. 
Practice makes permanence as it helps wire positive brain pathways. 
It is preferred that mistakes be made earlier, during practice, rather than in real challenging situations.
Youths can be primed and prepared to practice positive behaviour before they are confronted with negative situations. 

Respect has to be earned and not automatically expected by adults of youths.
Treating youths with regard provides them a space to negotiate and learn how to discuss things important to them.
When adults treat youths with respect, it helps to send the message that they are trusted. 

We must apply active listening. 
Pay attention to not only what youths say but when they say it. 
Listen to their cues and inner pains, fears, and aspirations.
Adults have to listen in a way that helps youths talk. In that way, they feel safe and better supported. 

Contrary to some common beliefs, teenagers require and appreciate the help of trusted responsible adults.
Adults need to be there for youths to form a safe, dependable, anchoring presence in their lives.