Everyday Legends

The realm of personal development has a few different worlds in it. One of those is the idea of just being better ' #liveyourbestlife - which tends to focus on just following your dreams and passions and being positive all the time.

Unfortunately, for many of us, this sets unrealistically high expectations and ultimately encourages by-passing of shit we actually need to learn, sit in, process, and move through. As a result, we often spin in feeling like a failure, beating ourselves up and trying hard to be overly positive despite shit potentially going as well as am arm being chopped off.

Closely related to this world is the idea - heavily favoured by men - of simply focusing on the strategy to move past what is frustrating us, the strategy to create new results and outcomes.

The challenge and weakness with this are immense but often subtle; if we only focus on moving forward without understanding and being able to overcome what led to us being in the place we want to move beyond, we will tend to have short bursts of success until the underlying issues inevitably resurface.

Enter - YOUR SHIT. This is what is happening in both of these situations; we're trying to ignore and avoid our shit.

Doing that only emboldens in to have a more insidious and frustrating hold over our lives.

Shit unaddressed and unmanaged will pull the strings.

That is primarily a lot of my work with me; making sense of their shit, changing the relationship to it, owning it, moving past it, and overcoming it so that we get out from under its thumb and replace our thumb on its head.

That's what this episode is about - why you struggle to get your shit together even though you really want to.

In this episode, we explore some of the reasons why we - especially as men - struggle to get out shit together even though we know how it's playing out, we know what we want and what we need to do.

We'll explore some of the ideas that see us stubbornly stick our head in the sand with our shit, hoping it will just magically disappear and life can be grand.

We also explore some key foundations for how you can actually and finally get your shit together.

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In this episode, I venture into and explore something very close to my heart - and head and balls - and that is INTEGRITY.

It is my highest value, because, for me, everything else is determined by this. If I don't have that, then all my other values don't really get a chance.

Join me as I share some personal stories - including the first one in which as a younger man I fell into a common trap; lying to someone I liked and pulling myself right out of integrity in doing so.

I take you through what integrity actually is, how to assess it, and how to understand it on a deeper level so that if we fall out of it we can navigate our way back in.

I visit a story about a time my now father-in-law hit me with a daunting question in front of his (Nardia's) family, well before I was even close to being a permanent fixture; "What are your intentions with our Nardia?"

* GULP*

Tune in to see how I handled this. Quite fucking excellently, I might add.

I call on this story often in teaching about integrity because regardless of the answer I shared, what the key point sticks to is - can I be honest here regardless of what that honesty entails?

I venture into some of the nature of men and the masculine in how we have this need to test each other, and essentially what we're doing is testing the strength, the dependability of those men we go into battle (hunt) with.

If you're a man struggling to understand yourself, wanting to work out what that niggling little feeling inside of you is, or simply wanting to access what's possible for you, it starts and stops with INTEGRITY - this episode is for you.

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Other content mentioned:

• Integrity Check-In questions:
  • 1. What was the promise or commitment you made to yourself?
    2. What did you choose to do? (Have you been choosing/did you choose to do instead?)
    3. What are the consequences?
    4. What's the driver?
    5. Is this a pattern?
    6. What do you need to do to return to/remain in integrity?

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Enter Matt Brown (and his wife Sarah) - founders of She is not your rehab - a powerful organisation and movement working to change ideas of masculinity through supporting, educating and empowering men to transform the pain of their past instead of transmitting it onto others.

They have made some huge waves globally, even getting The Rock himself into a campaign of theirs.

Beyond that, they have done remarkable work both in places like New Zealand's high-security prisons, throughout the community, and in Matt's barbershops My Father's Barber.

Matt and I discuss his own story from a "volatile childhood" of abuse and violence to healing his own pain to starting to cut hair in order to connect with men, and then the forming of She is Not Your Rehab and the wonderful work they are doing.

I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. I had a great chat with Matt and am a HUGE supporter of their work. You can find out more about him, the work they're doing, and how to access the book below.

As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook.

• She Is Not Your Rehab
• Get the Book here
• Matt on IG
• SINYR on IG
• Video campaign that got The Rock involved

Welcome to the Everyday Legends podcast, your go-to destination for men seeking to build legendary integrity and kick-ass relationships. I'm Mike Campbell, your host, and on this show, we're all about supporting you in getting more out of life, love, and the everyday grind.

Today, we're delving into the crucial topic of setting boundaries and reclaiming self-respect. Get ready for insights, stories, and actionable advice to help you thrive as the best version of yourself. Let's jump right in!

As usual, I trust you'll get something from this episode. If you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook.

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I've been very fortunate to be her friend for some time. And that has been both in just two humans connecting on a level that we get each other, but also because of, you know, where we're at and the work that we do. And that's one of the major reasons I wanted to bring Amber onto the show.

Because of the insight, the skills, the expertise she has in helping people get the shit together.

I wanted to bring her on because, as a woman, I believe she has a beautiful and unique perspective for men, as women, of course, do. I will talk to many more women on the show. I wanted to speak to Amber to get a bit of a woman's perspective for men, but more specifically, and as you hear in this podcast, I wanted to speak to the idea of the conversation of safety.

I've done plenty of posts about this in the past that speak somewhere along the lines of: "Men, she needs to feel safe with you."

They usually get a monumental response from women and from guys sometimes "Yes, and okay, please tell me more or make sense of this." And also "It should go both ways."

And so, in this episode with Amber, we'll explore the idea of safety. What that is to women, to the feminine and in with it, we go into looking at the masculine and feminine; those modes. In us, as individuals, and how that plays out in our relationships, how do we understand these aspects, modes, and energies?

Amber's got some beautiful, uh, personal stories that she shares in amongst this.

For guys, you might want to pass on some of this stuff to some of your female partners. Also, to any of my gay audience, there's a lot here speaking to the feminine in anyone. So it doesn't really matter who you are. I think you can get a lot from this and from Amber, including any female listeners, for sure.

See below for some tools from Amber and how to access more from her.

Mike's main lessons/takeaways:

This can be a HUGE topic to start exploring for men if you haven't explored safety and the masculine/feminine. This is a nice starting point, and the perspective of women is easily the most powerful way to learn this. Tune in to the examples she gives, and if you have questions out of it - ask me: Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook

Where to find Amber

• Website: http://www.amberhawken.com/
• Instagram: @amber_hawken
• Facebook: FB.com/hawkenamber
• Amber Hawken Podcast

Resources mentioned:

• Coherent breathing - this link
• Feel Free in 15 Minutes here

For today's episode, I'm thrilled to be joined by the incredible Alex Cattoni. Alex is a leading digital marketer, copywriter and founder of CopyPosse. She's on a mission to "De-Douchify the internet" and build an empathy empire.

I've had the pleasure of getting to know Alex over the past year, from meeting in New York to sharing meals and engaging in random conversations. Alex has such a vibrant and joyful personality that really comes through, no matter the medium. She's also incredibly successful in her field, having been named the #1 most popular copywriter of 2023 and Digital Marketer of the Year in 2022.

While we discuss Alex's career and skills, our conversation really dives into finding your authentic voice and bringing it to the world.Alex is a master at this and has so much wisdom to share. We cover a variety of fun and random topics along the way, as is our style. I know you'll find value in Alex's message of empowering others to step boldly into who they are.

Connect with Alex here;

• CopyPosse Website
• CopyPosse Instagram

As usual, I trust you'll get something from this episode. If you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook.

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Mark Groves, Mr @createthelove.

I was thrilled to have Mark on the show to bring the piece that first connected us to this very topic of the Everyday Legend - a piece he wrote about the 'Evolved Man', challenging women who say they want this man if they're ready for him.

In the show, we explore Mark's story and what he does. We then start talking about relationship dynamics, how our wounding - our shit - plays out, and with that, we explore codependency.

Mark has a great depth of knowledge in this topic, as well as some practical personal experience (me, too).

Mark is someone whose content and wisdom I trust wholeheartedly.

As a human connection specialist and a great human being, Mark brings some brilliant insight and always delivers light and engaging content.

Mike's main lessons/takeaways:

Mark always has so much insight into relationships, and what I really liked about this conversation was where he dives into how our wounding - the shit we went through that created most of our beliefs about ourselves and our behaviours in relationships - ends up becoming an intense driver for sexual attraction often getting us deep into a place we don't want to be in.

It's a counter-intuitive piece that Mark brings so much sense to.

This often is the base for codependency, which Mark breaks down nicely in this episode.

"Say, for example, you're with someone that is hot and cold. The person hits you up at 1 am - a good sign you're a booty call. You hook up, and the arousal and sexual connection treat the pain of the abandonment and ejection. So we end up in these cycles, and of course, that's the best sex, right? Of course you do, you have a couple of wounds banging up against each other."

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Other Resources Mentioned

Why you might not be ready for the evolved man you say you want

In this episode, we'll uncover the truth about being a "nice guy" and explore covert contracts.

I explore three common ways that nice guys secretly place conditions on their kindness through "covert contracts." Drawing on my experience coaching over 1,000 men, I identify how nice guys often expect unspoken reciprocation for favors or help without communicating their expectations.

I urge listeners to reflect on whether they engage in this secret nice guy behavior and how to move past it to build genuine, fulfilling relationships.

As usual, I trust you'll get something from this episode. If you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook.

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On this episode of the Everyday Legends podcast, I share my personal journey of redefining what it means to be a man. Growing up, I followed many of the traditional ideas of masculinity like being tough, not showing emotion, and seeking validation through achievements and women. However, over time I realized this wasn't truly serving me. I felt lost without a strong sense of my own identity.

I pulled on threads of self-awareness and individuality, which led me down a path of confronting fears, embracing discomfort, and finding security in my own skin rather than living for others' approval. Now, through my coaching and mentoring work, I support other men in building self-worth and breaking free from limiting beliefs. On this podcast, I hope to encourage listeners to define masculinity on their own terms and step into the courage and self-trust needed to live authentically. My goal is to champion everyday men as we support each other in personal growth and becoming our best selves.

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Here's a common desire in so many men - "I want to be more confident" which, if not obvious, follows the proclamation "I'm just not confident enough" - or words very close to that effect.

They're the words of men focused on a story they have around confidence - that they don't have it and they need to find it. But it goes beyond that, it extends into this idea I have that some people have it, they're doing things I'm not, and because they have it and I don't, there must be something wrong with me.

And that story - or line of internal narrative - is what not only perpetuates the belief that we don't have confidence, therefore, don't feel it, but it is the creation of not feeling confident in its entirety.

Confidence is a subject we have butchered for so long, like many others in the realm of personal development such as motivation, will power or discipline. What it requires is a deeper assessment, some curiosity to see what is really playing out here.

If I want to feel confident in something yet my fear around the lack of confidence - in reality, my insecurity about not looking competent - is stopping me from doing the thing to gain the confidence I get from doing it, I am creating and perpetuating my own misery cycle.

This is so common it hurts. And so, that's what I wanted to cover in this episode of the podcast.

A while ago I did a short video on my social media channels exploring this idea that most men have confidence all wrong. In this episode, I wanted to take that video and expand upon it. So you'll hear the introduction for the podcast and me introducing the topic, then you'll hear the audio from the original video backed up by an expansion on this idea.

From here I'll take you into not only why and how we have confidence wrong, but how to actually gain real, legit, lasting grounded confidence.

It's not some magical thing, there is no confidence fairy that will sprinkle you with confidence dust on you one night - it comes down to the stories you tell yourself, caching the BS ones mentioned above, and then in the actions we take.

A hint to what is covered - get used to the idea of sucking and becoming more competent. If you can consistently apply yourself to the simple act of improving your competence in what you wish to be confident in, you will become that. Not the other way around.

This might be a knock to your balls as I shatter a long term belief about confidence and the fruitless actions of countless men trying to build their confidence. If that's the case - good, I hope it works and that you can receive it with the respect for you that it is intended.

This really is just the beginning of this conversation, as it can and does need to go even deeper. Exploring and really uncovering your confidence story, both what and how it is anchored in your psyche and, therefore, how we get out of it.

This is central to the first and third pillars of the work in my major coaching program the EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY. If you want to find out more about that and when the February 2021 intake - find out more here or email me today [email protected]

I have spots filling fast and fact-finding calls with me filling even faster.

As always, if this lands, please share this episode with a man you know could benefit from it.

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