Evolutionary Men

If you only had about 2 hours a week to spend on your relationship, how could you use that time most wisely?

The truth is relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially in today’s fast-paced world where it can be hard to prioritize the relationship. Even when partners deeply love each other, they may face difficulties in maintaining passion, resolving conflicts, and growing together over the long term. Many couples are stuck in unfulfilling patterns, feeling more like roommates than lovers, or constantly bickering over small issues. Without the right tools and support, it’s easy for relationships to stagnate or deteriorate over time.

My wife Violet and I created the Evolutionary Couples program as a structured experience to help couples revitalize their relationships and foster deeper connection. Through 12 carefully designed “epic dates,” couples are guided to explore key areas like communication, intimacy, finances, and shared purpose. The journey provides a mix of themed dates addressing practical issues and polarity dates to reignite passion and play. With options for self-paced learning or a more immersive experience with coaching and community support, couples can choose the level of engagement that works for them. By dedicating just two hours a week to intentional relationship building, partners can develop new skills, heal old wounds, and cultivate a thriving, passionate partnership that just keeps improving over time!

Learn more and sign up at evolutionarycouples.us

In this episode, I challenge the negative perception of "nice guys" in the men's work world. The truth is, being a nice guy is an evolutionary leap in masculinity as it brings online kindness and sensitivity in men. It's not about killing or getting rid of our nice guy, but instead is all about integrating him along with our power.

In this episode I explore reveals three game-changing types of fluidity - nervous system, emotional, and polarity - that can skyrocket your personal growth and relationships. Learn how mastering these skills can help you effortlessly navigate stress, emotions, and social dynamics.

Join the Heart of Shadow Men's Group & Retreat at heartofshadow.com

Join Dr. Luke Adler and me in this powerful episode in the Heart of Shadow podcast series as we sit down with three courageous men—Michael, Sean, and Shawn who have undergone the transformative Heart of Shadow program. They open up about their journeys - sharing how the program helped them confront and heal deep-seated anger, fear, and past traumas.

The discussion delves into the unique and powerful process of shadow work, highlighting the profound impact it has had on their relationships, businesses, and personal lives. With candid reflections and inspiring insights, this episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about the life-changing potential of facing one's inner shadows.

Register for the The Heart of Shadow men's group and retreat at heartofshadow.com

In this episode, I'm again joined by my co-facilitator Dr. Luke Adler, a Chinese medicine doctor who's led over 50,000 healing sessions. We discuss the intersection of Chinese medicine and shadow work and delve into the holistic approach of Chinese medicine and its connection to mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. We highlight how physiology and visceral sensations play a vital role in understanding vitality, and how shadow work in essence is how we digest our lives.

Join our next cohort of the Heart of Shadow men's group at heartofshadow.com

In this episode, I explore the difference between temporary state experiences and permanent stage transformations, emphasizing that while retreats, workshops, and spiritual practices can provide powerful glimpses into new ways of being, the real work lies in integrating these experiences into daily life through consistent effort, community support, and structural changes that facilitate lasting growth.

That said, join me for a live event at my Labor Day Men's Retreat or in the Heart of Shadow program.

In this episode, I delve into the unique pain of debt - be it financial, health, or emotional. I share my personal experiences with credit card debt, weight loss struggles, and tackling years of accumulated clutter to highlight a common thread: the pain and paralysis of facing overwhelming debts in various aspects of life.

I explore the challenging journey of paying off these "debts," highlighting the tension between instant awareness and the time required for real change. Drawing on insights from Ken Wilber, I discuss the difference between "waking up" (instant awareness) and "growing up" (gradual change over time).

The episode touches on:

1. The allure of quick fixes and why they often fail
2. The paradox of change happening only in the moment, yet requiring consistent effort over time
3. The importance of community support in overcoming debt and achieving lasting transformation

I conclude by emphasizing the need for sustained awareness, consistent action, and the value of supportive accountability in navigating the pain of debt and achieving meaningful life changes.

In this episode, I am joined by Luke Adler as we discuss the raw, unfiltered reality of personal growth and shadow work. We pull back the curtain on our own ongoing struggles with maintaining sexual vitality, showing up for our families, and confronting shame in long-term relationships. We explore how neglecting our core energies can lead to disconnection and unfulfilling patterns. We also dive into the transformative power of leaning into difficult conversations and prioritizing aliveness in our partnerships and parenting.

Join our next cohort of The Heart of Shadow at www.heartofshadow.com

In this episode, I tackle a critical mistake in personal development: setting ambitious goals without addressing our nervous system's state. I challenge the "mind over matter" approach, introducing the counterintuitive concept of regulate first and action will follow. By prioritizing nervous system regulation and fostering genuine connection, we create a foundation of safety that enables meaningful risk-taking and sustained growth.

Almost every man I work with struggles with either mental or emotional rumination throughout their life. In this episode, I explore 3 strategies to help you stop ruminating as a man.

Get support in person at the Evolutionary Men Labor Day Retreat.

Get support virtually in a Breakthrough Coaching Group.