EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids

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Dr. Tay and Katherine L'Etang of @theneurodiversitymom discuss:

1. The journey of self-realization as an autistic woman and navigating life with autistic children.
2. Learning about neurodiversity and how to become an advocate.
3. Insights into PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), a profile of autism, and adopting a neuroaffirming low demand lifestyle.

RESOURCES

⚡️⚡️ connect with Katherine L'Etang

Instagram + TikTok @theneurodiversitymom

https://www.theneurodiversitymom.net/

⚡️ also discussed in this episode was Erin of @spinsandstomps roadmap (PS she was on the pod too - episode 68). download it here 👇🏼

https://www.spinsandstomps.com/resources

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and Dr. Arielle Rubin, a board-certified child and adolescent psychiatrist, discuss:

1. the field of psychiatry and its role in diagnosing autism and co-occurring conditions
2. treating anxiety, depression, and ADHD in the context of autism
3. different options and considerations when it comes to medication

RESOURCES

⚡️⚡️Connect with Dr. Arielle Rubin >>

Instagram @ariellerubinmd

http://www.ariellerubinmd.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

93 | navigating your relationship: parenting and neurodivergence with Pasha Marlowe, MFT

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Dr. Tay and Pasha Marlowe, marriage and family therapist / neurodiversity coach, discuss:

1. challenges in family relationships when children or partners are neurodivergent
2. the role of communication and balancing individual needs in neurodivergent families
3. insights on redefining perceptions and thriving in neurodiversity

RESOURCES

⚡️Connect with Pasha Marlowe >>

on LinkedIn, Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook

https://pashamarlowe.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay discusses:

1. the concept of getting “delulu” in the context of autism parenting
2. believing in your autistic child's communication and developmental potential through various methods
3. the transformative effect of applying 'getting delulu' to personal growth and aspirations

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay and anti-hustle coach + autism parent Marisa Hohaia discuss:

1. her family's autism journey, the impact of her son's diagnosis on her work, and her philosophy of living that helps them navigate through their life
2. the importance of enjoying the present moment and letting go of expectations in the autism journey, emphasizing how not getting caught up in a rigid vision for the future can open up more room for joy and progress in the present.
3. manifestation in the context of autism parenting, suggesting that while parents can't directly shape or control their child's journey, they can manifest and attract necessary support, resources, and growth experiences.

RESOURCES

⚡️continue to learn from Marisa >>

follow on Instagram

check out resources on her website breakupwithbusy.com

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

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in this episode, Dr. Tay discusses reflecting on 2023 and prepping for 2024. she emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, setting realistic and progressive goals, and taking inventory of strengths and support needs for oneself and your autistic child. she talks about her own personal journey, shares the most popular episodes of her podcast for the past year, and her ongoing learning from professionals and Autistic voices alike. the discussion also delves into challenges faced in the previous year and how they shape resilience. Dr. Tay concludes by highlighting the need to be more intentional, to live in alignment with one's values, and to focus on internal measurements of success. she also shares some sneak peeks of what is to come in 2024 for her practice.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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in a candid, impromptu episode of her podcast, I address a social media video that portrays being a sibling of a neurodivergent child as unfair. while I acknowledge the challenges of parenting autistic children, I offer a different perspective based on my personal experience as a sibling and my professional insight. I discuss the importance of seeing the beauty in diversity, focusing on quality over quantity of time, and fostering empathy, resilience and advocacy skills among all children. I encourages parents to start dialogues about neurodiversity within their homes and emphasize that the goal should not be about achieving fairness but about being mindful and present for each child’s unique needs.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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Dr. Tay hosts an in-depth discussion with Kelli Fetter, an occupational therapist and certified handwriting specialist. they explore the common challenges autistic children encounter with handwriting, relating to fine motor difficulties and learning disabilities. Kelli provides valuable insights on the integral connection between handwriting and overall literacy. Dr. Tay and Kelli discuss signs that additional support outside of school might be necessary, and they shed light on the benefits of utilizing a strengths-based approach for building handwriting skills. Kelli stresses the importance of explicit instruction in handwriting as well as maintaining foundational motor skills through physical play to facilitate better handwriting.

CHAPTERS

02:21 Kelli's background and the importance of handwriting

07:27 when to start monitoring for handwriting difficulties

13:26 red flags for handwriting difficulties

21:16 the neurological aspects of learning disabilities

24:08 the impact of learning disabilities

28:11 the role of motor skills in writing

32:48 supporting families through Handwriting Solutions

RESOURCES

⚡️ Connect with Kelli Fetter >>

Subscribe to Kelli's Handwriting Solutions blog

Handwriting Solutions website

Book a free consult call with Kelli Fetter

Other social media: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

in this mini episode, I discuss my journey of unexpectedly navigating my dog Charlotte's cancer diagnosis, paralleling it with lessons for an autism parenting journey. I discuss the importance of 'living in the present moment' by constantly grounding oneself in available data and of accepting and acknowledging emotions instead of suppressing them. I share my personal experience dealing with anticipatory anxiety and how I have been countering it with grounding practices. I remind you to trust the process, enjoy life's moments despite challenges, and to remember that it's okay not to have everything together all the time and how that doesn't make anyone less of a person or parent.

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Dr. Tay hosts Dr. Phil Boucher, a pediatrician working within the direct primary care model. they discuss autism, including advocating for your child and support needs like sleep and additional testing. Dr. Boucher explains the challenges of traditional healthcare and his transition to the direct primary care model, allowing him more time to deliver quality healthcare to patients. he offers advice to parents on how to approach discussions about autism with their child's pediatrician. the episode concludes with a look at the future of this healthcare model, and how it allows for a more personalized and efficient approach to healthcare.

RESOURCES

⚡️ follow Dr. Phil Boucher on Instagram to keep learning from him

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: in this episode, both identity-first (autistic child) and person-first language (child with autism / ASD) are used. we have a conversation in the episode about language and why both are being used!