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For just the third time in ESM history - it's an interview! It is my pleasure to have Jacob Hudgins on the program today to walk us through the House Rules that he has implemented in his home and has written about for the benefit of others.

This will be our fifth and final episode in the House Rules series. And I was thinking this week: who better two pull it all together and wrap it up than the author of the book! Jacob does so great here with key insights and some honest reflections on his own life and family. I hope you enjoy our hour together today.

If you'd like to order his book, it can be found here:  House Rules

For Reminder's Sake. Here are the 10 House Rules:
1) Home is a Safe Place
2) All People Deserve Respect
3) We Tell the Truth
4) We Speak with Love
5) No Gossip Allowed
6) We Take Responsibility
7) We Deal with our Problems
8) We Lead by Serving
9) We Control Ourselves
10) Angry Doesn't Equal Right


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The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.

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I have made 3 major financial decisions in my life that stand above the rest. One was awful. One was safe. And the last was exciting. To me, these represent the kind of choices that go far beyond portfolios, and certainly have more value than money.

Let me walk you through those choices, spanning 25 years of my life. Maybe they will help you with some financial decisions in the new year. I think that would be great. But it is not the purpose. Maybe it will look like a humble brag on my part and you won't like that. I can only state my intentions to help and hope for the best.

But most hopefully, I pray this illustration, along with a fresh peek into the Garden of Eden, and the choices there, will help you categorize that options in front of you today. There are so many things that can draw your attention: some you need to say NO to. Some you need to keep going and make automatic. But a few... oh these Apples are the best of all. These deserve you to go all in on them and give them ongoing attention. Let's identify those things and get very excited what is coming.


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Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial Group
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Website: www.tylercainatfairway.com    Phone:  813-380-8487

Sponsor Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.

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Today, launch day, is "the most depressing day of the year." That being the case, I feel like a wellness check is needed: so how are you doing? Are you weathering January okay? If you are, I want you to see how much you've overcome to feel that way! And if not, there are real reasons for that which affect a lot of people. You are not alone.

But we can make a plan, a great plan. We can do such a few specific things and create results this year that have alluded us in years past. Are you up for that? We first have to look at all of the junk that tries to make us blue. Then we can talk about how to use that, work through it, and find a different kind of blue:  calm and chill!

Here are the links to three past episodes noted in the episode:
Eat That Frog
Level 3 Gratitude
Building Your Ladders


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Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial Group
Website:  www.cunninghamfinancialgroup.com    Phone:  205-326-7364

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Website: www.tylercainatfairway.com    Phone:  813-380-8487

Sponsor Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.

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Our cover image today is a 10 year old boy deciding whether or not to make his bed. He clearly doesn't want to. And yet, it is his responsibility. What factor will be determine what he does next? Sometimes doing the right thing is hard. And when it comes down to just the action... we may not want to do it at all. But there are a couple of really important reasons he should make that bed. These are the same reasons we should do what is right when it is our responsibility to do so.

Continuing with that, sometimes we are responsible to fix problems with other people. Some of the same reasons for that apply whether it's an adversary or an unmade bed. I've really enjoyed the House Rules that the two this week really hit home. I hope you find the topics helpful.

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Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial Group
Website:  www.cunninghamfinancialgroup.com    Phone:  205-326-7364

Tyler Cain, Senior Loan Officer, Fairway Independent Mortgage
Website: www.tylercainatfairway.com    Phone:  813-380-8487

Sponsor Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.

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Say it with me: Anterior Mid-Cingulate Cortex! Or aMCC for short. Today we take a little look into the brain, to find a very special part that controls the willpower of the rest. If we can learn how it works, and how to make it stronger, well, there isn't any part of your growth in life that won't be affected and helped!

But we have to build on the WHY of personal discipline we started with last week. God expects us to take inventory and responsibility for, every part of the life He has given each of us: body, mind, heart and soul. I am motivated to be a Four Square Christian!

But HOW do we do it? For me, it's more than just a list of what will help. We can easily make those lists. I want to know HOW I actually fight through the desire to quit. Where does endurance come from and how to I build it? That is what today's content is about.

Here is a much deeper podcast and YouTube on the subject today:  Huberman Lab

Sponsors: 
Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial Group
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Website: www.tylercainatfairway.com    Phone:  813-380-8487

Sponsor Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR! I pray 2024 is a wonderful adventure in growth and change and increased faith and joy in Christ!

Welcome to season 6 of the ESM podcast. It's been an amazing journey thus far and I am looking forward to this season. Today's content - the challenge to balance out four elements of your life: Physical, Mental, Social, Religious - is key to unlocking a better you and a better year. A better you, because this requires discipline from the inside out, not just in one category at a time. And a better year, because with higher energy, creativity, personality and spirituality... the sky is the limit on what God can do!

Here is a link to the wonderful book featured in today's episode. I think you'll really enjoy. Get ready for a challenge. Not just the content, but he dares you to read it through the first time in one sitting!  I Dare You
Really cool hardback copy! I Dare You

Side Note: It's the New Year. If you'd like to start with more reading, study and prayer, try out our Excel Still More 3 Month Journal. Available at our Podcast Website.

May God bless you. And please reach out any time if I can be of any help to you:  [email protected].

Sponsors: 
Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial Group
Website:  www.cunninghamfinancialgroup.com    Phone:  205-326-7364

Tyler Cain, Senior Loan Officer, Fairway Independent Mortgage
Website: www.tylercainatfairway.com    Phone:  813-380-8487

Sponsor Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR! I pray 2024 is a wonderful adventure in growth and change and increased faith and joy in Christ!

Welcome to season 6 of the ESM podcast. It's been an amazing journey thus far and I am looking forward to this season. Today's content - the challenge to balance out four elements of your life: Physical, Mental, Social, Religious - is key to unlocking a better you and a better year. A better you, because this requires discipline from the inside out, not just in one category at a time. And a better year, because with higher energy, creativity, personality and spirituality... the sky is the limit on what God can do!

Here is a link to the wonderful book featured in today's episode. I think you'll really enjoy. Get ready for a challenge. Not just the content, but he dares you to read it through the first time in one sitting!  I Dare You
Really cool hardback copy! I Dare You

Side Note: It's the New Year. If you'd like to start with more reading, study and prayer, try out our Excel Still More 3 Month Journal. Available at our Podcast Website.

May God bless you. And please reach out any time if I can be of any help to you:  [email protected].

Sponsors: 
Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial Group
Website:  www.cunninghamfinancialgroup.com    Phone:  205-326-7364

Tyler Cain, Senior Loan Officer, Fairway Independent Mortgage
Website: www.tylercainatfairway.com    Phone:  813-380-8487

Sponsor Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.

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Merry Christmas! Launch day for this week's episode is December 25th. I pray safety and joy for you and your loved ones. May the Father, Son and Spirit be with you all.

About a month ago, Kenny Embry and I had a discussion about stress management. It became an hour long dive into our personal lives and things that have really made a big difference for us. As soon as we were done recording, I started looking for a place to launch this for you. It's certainly less polished and much more raw and personal that the usual weekly episode, but I hope you will approach it with love and patience.

Two words you will hear a lot in the first half that can make a massive difference: Sequencing and Spacing. Each day is a mini lifetime, where you have to make decisions on what matters most, what comes first, and what gets left off the to-do list. We talk a lot about how to do that in this episode. I hope you find it helpful.

Note: Season 6 starts next week! New Year's Day! I'm excited to share some things that will  set the stage for 2024. Here's a hint if you want to get ahead: Read Luke 2:52. Jesus became what God needed Him to be by developing in four areas, not just one.

Sponsors: 
Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial Group
Website:  www.cunninghamfinancialgroup.com    Phone:  205-326-7364

Tyler Cain, Senior Loan Officer, Fairway Independent Mortgage
Website: www.tylercainatfairway.com    Phone:  813-380-8487

Sponsor Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.

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What would you find if you used some personal time excavating the center of your heart, taking a fearless moral inventory, and finding out what drives all you do?

This week we look at the power of self-awareness. It is massively valuable. But to be honest, it is much deeper and more needful that I first thought. To me self-awareness was this sense of reading the room, knowing how others see you, and understanding the impact of your conduct. Those are things that grow out of it, but self-awareness is much, more more personal and deeply emotional.

The journey for me of learning about that led through Step 4 from the Alcoholic Anonymous program:  Fearless Moral Inventory. If that sounds scary, it's because, for many, it is the most scary step in the entire program. For you and me, as well as addicts, it becomes this bridge that connects faith to action. And I hope it carries you forward today. This may require weeks. It may demand a paper and pencil. It likely will lead to personal conversation and maybe some professional help. The journey is worth it. I hope you have the courage to take it. 

Sponsors: 
Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial Group
Website:  www.cunninghamfinancialgroup.com    Phone:  205-326-7364

Tyler Cain, Senior Loan Officer, Fairway Independent Mortgage
Website: www.tylercainatfairway.com    Phone:  813-380-8487

Sponsor Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.

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Sponsors: 
Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial Group
Website:  www.cunninghamfinancialgroup.com    Phone:  205-326-7364

Tyler Cain, Senior Loan Officer, Fairway Independent Mortgage
Website: www.tylercainatfairway.com    Phone:  813-380-8487

Welcome to PART 3 of 6 in our House Rules Series.
Here is a link to Jacob's Book, which I highly recommend you read.

This week we talk about two crucial rules for life and home:
Rule #4 - We Speak in Love
Rule #5 - No Gossip Allowed

This adds on to the three so far:
Rule #1 - Home is a Safe Place
Rule #2 - All People Deserve Respect
Rule #3 - We Tell the Truth

Love and Gossip have a shady connection. Some people love TO gossip. Some gossip from what they think is a place of love. But the truth is... when we love, gossip will cease. We need to create as big a gap between these two things as we possibly can.

It will start by speaking in love. But love is the more important word. Speech should not have to be filtered to only be loving. I should BE LOVE, at my core, and simply need to connect speech to my heart to say that which is good.

And this will do in gossip for good: if I am motivated from a place of love, restoration, hope and Christ. Gossip is a funny word. It's always something the other person is doing. But I think it hits closer to home for me than I like to admit. Let's put together a working definition and find out what happens to it when love is introduced. 

- Why is important to develop love before focusing on speech?

- What does it mean to say "God IS Love"?

- If I love someone, how will that affect what I say about them?

- What would happen to gossip if we genuinely cared about the person?

- What are some practical steps we can take to stop gossip in its tracks?



Sponsor Disclaimer:
The information in this podcast contains personal opinions and may not entirely represent those of Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS#2289. Fairway does not guarantee any services, information and/or advice provided by the individuals. This is not an offer to enter into an agreement. Not all customers will qualify. Information, rates and programs are subject to change without notice. All products are subject to credit and property approval. Other restrictions and limitations may apply. Equal Housing Opportunity. LO NMLS #118156.