Just a few years back, I remember being so frustrated
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I was broke, tired, depressed, lonely, and the list goes on and on
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If you feel any of those right now (or ever have) then this is for you
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I wanted so badly to “make it” – to have enough money not to worry, to feel like my life had a purpose, to find that person to spend my life with
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At the same time, I felt that I wasn’t worthy somehow, that other people had some secret that I didn’t know about, that there was something wrong with me
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I was working a decent job, spent time on hobbies I enjoyed, had some really good friends, but I just felt like I was empty
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I felt like I was running on a treadmill – going through the motions of life but never really accomplishing anything
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I knew I had to change something, but I didn’t know what
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I had tried starting who knows how many businesses, I was divorced (if that tells you anything about my interpersonal skills), and it seemed like my life was totally pointless
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And I wish I could tell you how I came across this book, but I don’t remember haha
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But in it, I read about this idea of taking responsibility
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This idea that most of your life is actually up to you
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That if you want things to change, YOU have to be the one to take action
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But I didn’t get it – I felt like I had already been trying to make things better
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But the idea of taking responsibility had another angle to it
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It was about focusing on what you CAN control
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And I realized that I was focused so externally (and quite honestly always blaming something external) that I never gave myself the power to change anything
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It’s like driving a car
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Imagine the driver is going the wrong way down a one-way street
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And he says something like, “Man, I’m going the wrong way! I hate this car!”
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LOL
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It sounds ridiculous because it is
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To say something like that is to ignore the fact that HE’S THE ONE DRIVING THE CAR
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How much he likes or dislikes the car depends on what he uses it for, how well he takes care of it, where he uses it to take him
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And it’s the same thing with life
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If you’re not happy with where your life is at or the direction your life is going, remember:
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You’re the one behind the wheel!
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That’s what it means to take responsibility
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To look at any given situation and ask yourself, “How can I take responsibility?”
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Now, that doesn’t mean my life was perfect after learning this
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It took a lot of “retraining” when it came to my thought process to reframe it this way consistently
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And even when I did start taking more responsibility for my life and making changes, I received a ton of kickback from friends and family
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People don’t like change, people want things to stay the same
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But I pushed through it and now I’m out on the other side
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Yes, I have a business that pays the bills
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Yes, I have an amazing wife who I intend to spend the rest of my life with
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Yes, I wake up in the morning knowing that my life has purpose!
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But the real change was the internal one
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Shifting my mind to see that my life was my responsibility
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Realizing that it’s within my power to change my life
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And seeing that I’m the one behind the wheel
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Leave me a comment below if this story resonates with you, and if you want to hear more about how this idea of taking responsibility can be applied