Extraordinary Life Podcast

EPISODE 9

In this episode, we talk about communication styles, like TALKING, LISTENING and BODY LANGUAGE.

You start to notice how people perceive YOU.

Hear about the different ways we SHOW UP in conversations… in ways we’re not aware of, and ways we’re definitely aware of OTHER people doing.

You’ll hear an example of me being super SHY and being accused of being a snob : ( And you’ll see the difference of how we can misrepresent what we’re thinking versus what we’re presenting.

I share some tips on how to lead a conversation or be a great listener.

We debunk the different LABELS of Talkers and Listeners so we get clear on where we’re coming from.

You’re challenged to have fun with NOTICING yourself and others in certain situations, and to do something specific in the MIRROR!

I believe in you,

Website: JeniferMerifield.com | IG: @JeniferMerifield

EPISODE 8

In this episode, we talk about INDULGENCE… being close to the Holidays and all 😉

Don’t get me wrong… I’m not about to tell you to resist and hold back on everything, and I completely support ENJOYING the holiday pleasures.

HOWEVER, if you DO indulge but then some time afterward you find yourself feeling GUILT or some SHAME bubbles up for you … then listen for how to find your freedom by ACKNOWLEDGING what you were ACTUALLY seeking.

And by the way, this doesn’t ONLY apply to food, it applies to ANY kind of pleasure… I mean, the OBVIOUS ones are alcohol, caffeine, sugar, sex, shopping, drugs… but it ALSO applies to things like seeking external validation in certain ways.

Hear about the connection to INSTANT GRATIFICATION and why it’ll NEVER satisfy you.

I also share my over-indulging story.

See if you relate to how, in front of certain people we tend to behave in ways that NEVER feel good later, but we find ourself in a cycle of always doing it.

Great news! We don’t have to completely sacrifice pleasure in our lives, in fact, if we practice what I like to call CONSCIOUS INDULGENCE, then we can enjoy ALL the things without the guilt.

I describe it and give examples of how you can do this in YOUR life.

Personal Excellence Mastery is not about denying yourself pleasure, it’s about making the feel-good-now choices ALSO give you feel-good-later results.

You’ll hear how to self-soothe in a way that feels GOOD, feels ON PURPOSE, and serves you later – not just in the moment.

‘Tis the season for yummy things and people and purchases… Now go forth and CONSCIOUSLY INDULGE!

I believe in you,

Website: JeniferMerifield.com | IG: @JeniferMerifield

EPISODE 7

In this episode I share how a simple WORD SWAP can make a valuable difference in your life.

We go “back to the 70’s” for a plaid polyestered story that will have you both laughing and saying, “AW :(”

It’s all about how the word PROBLEM carries a charge that adds to the issues, but doesn’t have to when we SWAP it for another word.

Listen in and you’ll hear what it is!

I explain how as adults we throw around the word Problem fairly lightly and the impact is has on us personally, as well as with those we work with, manage, and lead. Not to mention the powerful benefits of it as PARENTS.

When you hear how easy and beneficial this word swap is, you’ll start to notice how much you currently use it in your life and you’ll start hearing it all over the place.

It’s the difference between stuck, harsh, and fault finding vs. solution focused and co-creation.

At the end of this podcast you will no longer have ANY PROBLEMS… you will now see them as, well, the secret word.

Listen in and let me know how it shows up for you!

I believe in you,

Website: JeniferMerifield.com | IG: @JeniferMerifield

EPISODE 5

In this episode I talk about how to NEVER have to argue again! (or at least be able to STOP them quickly when they start).

I explain the main difference between Arguing and Disagreeing, and what it is we add to arguing that’s NOT part of simple disagreements.

There are 3 categories of arguing I go over – not including abuse which we don’t get in to here… other than later on I ask you to agree we know when you or someone else needs to get help from a situation that’s become abusive.

After that, we discuss a few different Anger Personalities and how they express themselves in fights.

When it comes to YOU there are a couple of things to know ALL ABOUT YOU that will significantly help you get a clear picture of where you’re coming from.

Once you know what they are, you’ll be able to use the THREE valuable tools in any argument – or disagreement that’s becoming an argument – to get out of it right away.

I share some others great tips on how to use your language and communication clearly and succinctly to be heard and to hear the other person. Loving yourself and holding a space of genuine listening for the other person is a great start.

Pretty soon, arguments can be a thing of the past in your life!

I believe in you,

Website: JeniferMerifield.com | INSTAGRAM @JeniferMerifield

EPISODE 4

Use these two words every day and watch your life change for the better in every way! In this episode you’ll learn the 2 very special words that are all of 5 letters in total that will shake up your mindset and drastically change your perspective of the world in an EXTRAORDINARY way… not in months or years, but in like, moments.

I ask you some key questions to set up the description so you feel how it shows up in YOUR life.

I share about the “charge” that words carry, how the actual word can stay the same, yet the meaning becomes completely different depending on how it’s delivered or received.

I share a funny little airplane story where the flight attendant likes the guy in front of me more than me.

I also share a very inspiring story about a remarkable woman I met who experienced deep contrast of having and not having in life.

Then I help you see how these 2 Magic Words can be used to really change your life and your focus.

I don’t want to give away what the 2 words are, but when you listen you learn how they can empower SO MUCH in your life and get you out of obligation, duty, requirement, pain, suffering, expectation, and the discomforts of life and take you into MASSIVE appreciation, flow, joy and ease.

With examples, stories and tools you can use immediately, you’ll know how to SEE and EXPERIENCE the world in a new, beneficial-to-you way!

I believe in you,

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EPISODE 1

If I asked you the question: What do you want? But really, what do you want? Don’t analyze it or let doubts creep in to limit you, what would that be?

We do have doubts though, don’t we? And our Doubts and Limits get in the way and HOLD US BACK.

Where do these doubts and limits come from, anyway? They come from our past programming and conditioning which comes from OTHER PEOPLE’s limiting views of the world. Now, we do get some good Beliefs from others, but we also get ones that DON’T serve us… and then we make them OUR OWN TRUTHS.

Where do they even get their programming and beliefs from? OTHER PEOPLE as well!

So then, what is truth anyway? Who’s truth is the real truth?

Truth is simply what anyone chooses to focus on and allow to guide their actions and choices in life.

There is no ONE truth. There are as many truths as there are people’s perspectives of any one thing.

When we have Limiting Beliefs that we buy into, it keeps us in our comfort zones. That’s the place we know what to expect. Things we want, dream of, and desire, we convince ourselves we can’t have them because we’re afraid of the unknown parts OUTSIDE of our comfort zones of how to get them. Especially if we tried and it didn’t happen before because of our own beliefs or something someone else said, we find it safer and more comfortable in our comfort zone.

Comfort zones are the place of REGRET. Don’t let that happen.

To get out starts with awareness: we need to see and acknowledge our OWN beliefs and limiting views. It’s easier to se other people’s limits and flaws by looking in from the outside without living their experiences. That’s why it’s harder to see our OWN so-called “flaws”. When we recognize the things that are holding us back that is because of ourselves, it STINGS. But, that string is important!

Limiting Beliefs and Shoulds keep us STUCK… we can’t move forward. There are some good Beliefs and Shoulds, and sooooo many UNsupportive ones that we obliviously drag around and buy into our whole lives.

The acronym for Beliefs and Shoulds is “BS”, kind of perfect right? Because UNSUPPORTIVE and LIMITING Beliefs and Shoulds are exactly that: Bullsh**

We need to call BS on everything to see what’s serving us and what’s not.

What I believe that truly serves me and I love to share is that: there is no ONE truth, no impossible, and no bad people – just ones who sometimes make NOT good choices and negative judgements (and that’s all of us at some time or another).

The best part is, we get to change our minds any time! We need only come from a new perspective. What about YOUR right-now perspective… what is it? How is it currently holding you back? You can find those truth and beliefs wherever you find yourself judging, complaining, criticizing other people or yourself. Wherever you deflect your own pain externally onto someone or something else, or where you harshly do the same behaviours internally about yourself.

In order to be free, we can no longer blame externally; we need take ownership of the fact that WE created ALL of our life’s results. No excuses! Imagine someone with 6-pack abs. They don’t make excuses when discomfort shows up, they go to the gym NO MATTER WHAT. It depends what we put importance on and that changes whether we’re in our comfort zones or pushing the edge.

When we care more about what others think, we start to not know any more what we actually think.

We’ve got to face our discomforts to not stay stuck in our comfort zones. When we feel mediocre in life we get may get a surge of energy to make things different. Sometimes we even do it, we get motivated, but then there’s always a point where it becomes difficult and discomfort show up that are new.

The tendency is to go back to the  comfort zone and give up. That Pull is VERY strong, especially when we’re tired, anxious, angry, frustrated, overwhelmed, or when the unknown is scary… we think: maybe I’m not worthy, able, etc. This is the STING.

The key is to STAY in the sting for while. The longer we shine light of awareness on it, we start to see it for what it really is and it starts to SHRINK. It’s the coolest thing because now a new surge of energy to go forward emerges and we soon CREATE a new normal and new habits. YOUR COMFORT ZONE EXPANDS!!

When we find ourselves teetering on the edge of our comfort zone’s perimeter, it’s when we want whats out there – the good stuff we desire – but we feel drawn back to the comfy “known”. When the STING comes up we may feel guilt, shame, embarrassment, and so on.

When this happens, CANCEL trying to feel bad about yourself and instead see the sting as Self Clarity. Do you feel embarrassed? Notice it. Okay, that feels bad but soon dissolves. Next? Shame. Okay, so seeeee it. Feeeel it. Then LET IT GO. Next?

Now you’ve take LEAP off edge of your comfort zone. You now have a New Normal and your old discomforts are not uncomfortable any more. FREEDOM.

You’ve done this before. You can do it again. What did you get past or afraid in past?

This is where the momentum of extraordinary begins.

The dictionary definition of ORDINARY = “common, standard, not interesting” – well that’s no fun, not joyous, nor is it exciting. Sounds more like settling, comfort zone, and discomfort to me.

The dictionary definition of EXTRAORDINARY = “beyond usual, regular, or customary” this is soooo good because it doesn’t say HOW much beyond those things. So therefor ANY amount even A BIT better is EXTRA Ordinary.

Ask yourself with everything: what would make this better, happier, more joyous? You can take anything and make it extra-ordinary with very little effort. Pour your ordinary coffee in a GREAT CUP. Now its extraordinary!

Start searching for goodness, then you’ll fall out of focusing on and looking for problems and challenges. You’ll find more of the good stuff. You’ll soon start to expect and create a momentum of happiness and joy.

There are TWO THINGS that are kind of magic for creating Extraordinary with ease: Gratitude and Self Love.

GRATITUDE (you can swap this word for “appreciation” if you prefer): when you feel gratitude you CANNOT feel negative at the same time. This was a profound epiphany that changed my life. So much so that I tattooed a small heart in a visible place on my hand to remind me all day to come from a place of Gratitude.

When you remember it during unhappy / frustrating moments, your mind will search for reasons that diffuse the negative. It works great when driving! Throw humour into it if you have to… it’s about finding the beauty in any situation; looking for things to appreciate in the not-so-great situations of life. It will start the momentum-building of gratitude that then contributes to the creation of Self Love.

SELF LOVE rubs off from gratitude in how we feel about ourselves. When we’re positive and happy, self love makes Limiting Beliefs and Shoulds start to disappear. Put it into practice everyday… before you open your eyes in the morning tell yourself what you’re grateful for and what you LOVE about yourself. It’s SUCH an uplifting way to start your day vs. thinking about all the things you need/should/have-to do to appease other people.

This is what builds the momentum of EXTRAORDINARY.

Listen to the podcast for my little story about how my Grandmother taught me about how to SEE from your heart, not your eyes when life brings challenges and we struggle to see the good. We can ALWAYS find something good, something beautiful, a gift in any situation.

So what do you want? What do you REALLY want?

What are your desires when you’re stuck in your comfort zone and what do you now WANT to do and GET to do, to OBLITERATE you limiting BELIEFS and “SHOULDS” so you can have more EXTRAORDINARY in your life?

I believe in you,

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