Failing Motherhood

There is something ALL parenting books are missing. You cannot fake it. There is no substitute. It is transformational.

…and it’s the critical antidote to guilt + shame.

If you’ve tried EVERYTHING under the sun- this might be the reason why you’ve stayed stuck. And it’s more needed than ever before.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• What my daughter’s violin teacher did that changed the game for me as a parent
• The real reason why my coaching wasn’t helping families
• Why a healthy sense of skepticism is warranted

DON'T MISS:

• What my clients appreciate most

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The Suzuki Method

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One of my kids just received a diagnosis. It was 10 years in the making because school was not seeing any of the symptoms we saw at home until now.

In light of this milestone for our family, I’m sharing a personal reflection of my own parenting. As parenting is often filled with confusion, overwhelm, guilt and regret… here are things I do NOT regret.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• A vulnerable audit of my own parenting
• What to do if your child is too young to be diagnosed with ADHD but you think they have it
• Your path to better days with or without a diagnosis

DON'T MISS:

• How to download a PDF guide helping you parent on the same page

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What’s wrong with sharing pictures on Facebook so grandparents can see the kids?

As parents in 2024, we’re in uncharted waters trying to navigate our own internet use, let alone our kids’.

My guest today, Sarah Adams, is an online safety advocate and expert, exploring the state of parental public oversharing, child exploitation and minor security on social media.

While diving into the harsh realities of the Internet in 2024, she defines some key terms we should know, the impact of the pandemic, and whether private accounts are really private.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

• Beyond the digital footprint - 5 risks to consider when sharing online
• Content she considers to be exploitative and what to do about it
• Alternatives ways to stay in touch
• How to talk to your kids about YouTube channels you can’t support

DON'T MISS-

• Questions to ask yourself before hitting POST

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T minus 2 days until a candy avalanche is at our doorsteps!

Thankfully, my guest today, Nicole Cruz, RD is here to take some weight off our shoulders.

Nicole is the founder of Nourish Together, a shame-free approach to family nutrition. As a Registered Dietitian and mom of three, Nicole supports parents in raising confident eaters who can eat a variety, listen to their body cues, and not obsess over sweets or other ‘treats’.

We start off our conversation naming many of the understandable fears around sugar, and how sometimes our fears end up exacerbating the fascination! Nicole shares two really important factors that help take sugar off it’s pedestal and teach an intuitive eating approach. She then gave a lot of practical advice for managing all the holiday sweets to come, Halloween and beyond.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

• What to do if your child is OBSESSED with sweets
• The enemies of intuitive eating - scarcity and restriction
• What one word matters most in our language around food

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• Whether or not she recommends using the “Switch Witch” or other trades for Halloween candy

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Are you in the midst of the chaotic beautiful hard journey that is raising a gifted child at your house?  Can you know "for sure" if your child is gifted?

My guest today, Erin Vanek has spent well over a decade supporting gifted students with a Master's in Education and an endorsement in gifted education. She's also the founder of The Gifted Perspective, offering workshops, printable resources, and activities, and fostering a strong social media community. At home, she navigates the challenge of raising two twice-exceptional (2e) learners of her own.

In today’s episode, Erin shared how she beat herself up for struggling to support her oldest in ways she could with her students, and sharing what led to answers that allowed him to thrive, setting off a cascade of realizations within her family.

She defined twice-exceptional kids and giftedness as a whole, including the common traits, complexities, assets, and struggles as well as the most fascinating concept- asynchronous development - insight sure to set off lightbulbs and peace of mind in many listening parents.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

• Why gifted kids make seemingly simple + “careless” mistakes
• The "waiting for the other shoe to drop”  feeling parents like Erin so commonly feel when getting updates from school staff knowing there are behaviors to discuss
• A key life skill to model with your gifted child while they’re still young

DON'T MISS-

• The parenting changes you can make now to prevent your child from burning out down the road

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Election day in the US is in 21 days (Tuesday, November 5th).  Early voting has already began!

As parents, our kids are counting on us. Every vote counts, especially in the smallest races and ballot initiatives, shaping the world our kids grow up in.

I do not expect you to agree with everything (or anything) I share here today and that's okay.  I just want you to vote!

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• Things you can't know about your family's future
• A memory I'm afraid to admit
• Concepts that are allowed to co-exist

DON'T MISS:

• Final reminders before you go do your part

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Vote.org  to find registration, early voting and day of info for your state

2024 Nebraska Voter Guide

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One could say with motherhood, you know what you’re signing up for - but you certainly have no idea how it will feel. 

As a Child of Divorce and Child Protection Worker with a background in Psychology and Social Service Work, Jamie Scrimgeour thought she knew what she was signing up for as a childless bachelorette when she decided to marry a man with three kids and an ex.

But as I am sure you can guess, she felt like she had no freaking idea, and quickly found herself  in-over-her head. Finding a lack of resources for step moms, she created her own and now supports thousands of step moms in doing the work to show up as their best selves.

In this episode, we spoke to assumptions her clients make of her and each other and unique challenges stepmoms face.  She spoke to the guilt stepmoms feel in typical motherhood spaces - the things they would be shamed to say and the cycle they get into trying to prove themselves.  She also shared advice for ex's and offered grace for dads.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

• The dichotomy of "loving like they're your own" yet needing to "know your place"
• Things stepmoms are ashamed to say
• Why learning how to disengage without disconnecting is a critical, relationship-saving skill

DON'T MISS-

• Questions every parent can ask themselves to gain clarity + intentionality moving forward as a family

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Book: The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love by Vienna Pharaon

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When other kids at the park instantly listen to their parents, it can make even the most well-intentioned parent feel self-conscious (and a little jealous).

Isn’t that the goal? A child who listens without hesitation?

Let’s talk about it.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• The longterm ramifications of putting obedience on a pedestal
• What to focus on and aim for instead
• A question to ask yourself to reflect on your approach

DON'T MISS:

• The limiting factor that makes all of this extra challenging with strong-willed kids!

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"You can't have ADHD! You have a master's degree!"

... and other misconceptions about ADHD.  Whether you've been diagnosed, related to the memes, or have a child that's been diagnosed... this episode is for you!

Patricia Sung, Adult ADHD coach and host of Motherhood in ADHD, is here to share her journey into diagnosis, understanding her unique brain, and empowering other moms to do the same.

We normalize the struggle, share new insights, and reflect on the powerful act of breaking cycles.


IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

• Common traits and misconceptions of ADHD beyond being forgetful 
• Her go-to tools for managing anger while parenting
• Ways to work WITH your ADHD to boost your self-compassion as a parent

DON'T MISS-

• The double-edged sword that is having family with ADHD

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Website: www.motherhoodinadhd.com
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In today's quick episode, I break down a key facet to behavior modification I've been supporting a lot of clients with lately! 

It’s not a surefire guarantee toward cupcakes, rainbows and butterflies - but it is necessary shift in your communication that doesn’t contribute to a crash and burn affect.


IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• 2 Examples of effective behavior modification outside of parenting
• What the "Hold the Football" Tool is and why it's critical
• How to apply this tool when a sibling is being pestered in the car

DON'T MISS:

• A challenge for you as you parent this week!

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Netflix Series- America's Sweethearts: The Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders


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