Failing Motherhood

We all dread it - the inevitable meltdown of EPIC proportions. It’s survival mode, and no one is immune.

In this episode, I share why I disagree with typical advice (and even Dr. Becky) on how to manage these meltdowns/outbursts, why it’s OK to walk away, and what to do when you can’t.
 

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• An analogy to help illustrate your responsibility
• Why staying WITH your child might actually backfire
• How to “leave” the room without physically leaving

DON'T MISS:

• Mantras to adopt that speak to your nervous system

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The holiday season is upon us filled with changes, anticipation, late nights, unfamiliar meals, sweets, high emotions, extra tasks and stress.

Your strong-willed child will understandably have an even harder time navigating all of this unpredictability, triggers, and lack of routine.

Tune in to hear my 7 steps to a more successful holiday season for the whole family!

 
IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• What to say NO to and why
• Critical mindset shifts that allow you to prevent rather than react
• How to manage the inevitable jealousy and lack of etiquette/appreciation

DON'T MISS:

• Why there’s no right answer on whether you stick to routine or not

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Managing Candy + Holiday Sweets with Nicole Cruz, RD

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… seems timely, right?

My guest today, Dr. Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D. is the author of Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty. In her role as a researcher and professor and in direct care with parents and children for over thirty years, Klein has helped to define what every child needs to thrive, regardless of their life situations.

In our episode today, Dr. Tovah breaks down the 5 critical pillars that are the roots of resilience our kids need to be okay when things are not okay. She shares strategic ways to change how we react to our kids’ negative emotions and how to feel much more equipped to know what to focus on.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

• What Resilience is NOT and how our good intentions backfire
• The 5 Critical “Roots of Resilience” we can instill
• The recipe for our kids to love themselves for who they are

DON'T MISS-

• A pep talk if your child is rigid and/or loses it when things don’t go their way and you fear they’re on track to be entitled, spoiled or selfish!

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Website: TovahKlein.com
USA Today Bestselling Book, RAISING RESILIENCE
Instagram- @tovahklein

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No couple goes into parenting as a perfectly united front. Every parent runs out of steam, hits a wall, and loses it from time to time. Good parents ask good questions like “How can I help my partner when things are going off the rails without stepping on their toes?”

Before you hop in the car and start parenting extra challenging behaviors in front of extended family this holiday season, have this important conversation with your partner to set you both up for much more success.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• The ONE question to ask your partner
• Why you’re actually not failing, and what failing really looks like
• Practical strategies to inspire you to put a new plan in place

DON'T MISS:

• A better story to tell yourself that gives you permission to tag in/out in the first place

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Other recommended Failing Motherhood episodes:

Ep. 53 from 11/23/21 - Parenting Around Family

Ep. 61 from 3/8/22 - How to Get on the Same Page

Ep. 123 from 9/26/23 - Good Cop/ Bad Cop: The Broken Record Relationship

Ep. 129 from 11/7/23 - Best BOOKS for Strong-Willed Kids

Ep. 131 from 11/21/23 - Best GIFTS for Strong-Willed Kids (unconventional, practical and long-lasting ideas that are still fun to open!)

Ep. 133 from 12/5/23 - Boundaries with Parents with Jamie Cooper

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There is something ALL parenting books are missing. You cannot fake it. There is no substitute. It is transformational.

…and it’s the critical antidote to guilt + shame.

If you’ve tried EVERYTHING under the sun- this might be the reason why you’ve stayed stuck. And it’s more needed than ever before.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• What my daughter’s violin teacher did that changed the game for me as a parent
• The real reason why my coaching wasn’t helping families
• Why a healthy sense of skepticism is warranted

DON'T MISS:

• What my clients appreciate most

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The Suzuki Method

Al-Anon Family Groups

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One of my kids just received a diagnosis. It was 10 years in the making because school was not seeing any of the symptoms we saw at home until now.

In light of this milestone for our family, I’m sharing a personal reflection of my own parenting. As parenting is often filled with confusion, overwhelm, guilt and regret… here are things I do NOT regret.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• A vulnerable audit of my own parenting
• What to do if your child is too young to be diagnosed with ADHD but you think they have it
• Your path to better days with or without a diagnosis

DON'T MISS:

• How to download a PDF guide helping you parent on the same page

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What’s wrong with sharing pictures on Facebook so grandparents can see the kids?

As parents in 2024, we’re in uncharted waters trying to navigate our own internet use, let alone our kids’.

My guest today, Sarah Adams, is an online safety advocate and expert, exploring the state of parental public oversharing, child exploitation and minor security on social media.

While diving into the harsh realities of the Internet in 2024, she defines some key terms we should know, the impact of the pandemic, and whether private accounts are really private.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

• Beyond the digital footprint - 5 risks to consider when sharing online
• Content she considers to be exploitative and what to do about it
• Alternatives ways to stay in touch
• How to talk to your kids about YouTube channels you can’t support

DON'T MISS-

• Questions to ask yourself before hitting POST

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Website: www.kidsarenotcontent.com
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T minus 2 days until a candy avalanche is at our doorsteps!

Thankfully, my guest today, Nicole Cruz, RD is here to take some weight off our shoulders.

Nicole is the founder of Nourish Together, a shame-free approach to family nutrition. As a Registered Dietitian and mom of three, Nicole supports parents in raising confident eaters who can eat a variety, listen to their body cues, and not obsess over sweets or other ‘treats’.

We start off our conversation naming many of the understandable fears around sugar, and how sometimes our fears end up exacerbating the fascination! Nicole shares two really important factors that help take sugar off it’s pedestal and teach an intuitive eating approach. She then gave a lot of practical advice for managing all the holiday sweets to come, Halloween and beyond.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

• What to do if your child is OBSESSED with sweets
• The enemies of intuitive eating - scarcity and restriction
• What one word matters most in our language around food

DON'T MISS-

• Whether or not she recommends using the “Switch Witch” or other trades for Halloween candy

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Are you in the midst of the chaotic beautiful hard journey that is raising a gifted child at your house?  Can you know "for sure" if your child is gifted?

My guest today, Erin Vanek has spent well over a decade supporting gifted students with a Master's in Education and an endorsement in gifted education. She's also the founder of The Gifted Perspective, offering workshops, printable resources, and activities, and fostering a strong social media community. At home, she navigates the challenge of raising two twice-exceptional (2e) learners of her own.

In today’s episode, Erin shared how she beat herself up for struggling to support her oldest in ways she could with her students, and sharing what led to answers that allowed him to thrive, setting off a cascade of realizations within her family.

She defined twice-exceptional kids and giftedness as a whole, including the common traits, complexities, assets, and struggles as well as the most fascinating concept- asynchronous development - insight sure to set off lightbulbs and peace of mind in many listening parents.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

• Why gifted kids make seemingly simple + “careless” mistakes
• The "waiting for the other shoe to drop”  feeling parents like Erin so commonly feel when getting updates from school staff knowing there are behaviors to discuss
• A key life skill to model with your gifted child while they’re still young

DON'T MISS-

• The parenting changes you can make now to prevent your child from burning out down the road

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Election day in the US is in 21 days (Tuesday, November 5th).  Early voting has already began!

As parents, our kids are counting on us. Every vote counts, especially in the smallest races and ballot initiatives, shaping the world our kids grow up in.

I do not expect you to agree with everything (or anything) I share here today and that's okay.  I just want you to vote!

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

• Things you can't know about your family's future
• A memory I'm afraid to admit
• Concepts that are allowed to co-exist

DON'T MISS:

• Final reminders before you go do your part

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Vote.org  to find registration, early voting and day of info for your state

2024 Nebraska Voter Guide

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