In this episode, psychotherapist and parenting coach Todd Sarner shares powerful insights into defiance, attachment, and the instincts driving our children's behavior.

We explore why kids resist, what's really behind "challenging" behavior, and how understanding their emotional needs can transform how we respond. Todd brings clarity and compassion to the parenting journey, helping us move from reactivity to connection—with tools rooted in attachment theory and neuroscience.

Perfect for any parent wanting to go deeper than discipline and discover the why behind their child's behavior.

When we understand the why, everything begins to change.

Who is Todd?

Todd Sarner, MFT, is a psychotherapist, parenting coach, and founder of Transformative Parenting, where he helps high-achieving parents move beyond daily power struggles and emotional overwhelm into deeper connection, lasting peace, and real cooperation at home. A former Faculty Member of the Neufeld Institute and longtime student of developmental attachment theory, Todd blends cutting-edge neuroscience with practical, compassionate strategies that work in the real world. His signature Transformative Parenting Process guides parents to become the calm, confident leaders their children need—without punishment, yelling, or losing themselves in the process.

Connect with Todd: www.transformativeparenting.com www.facebook.com/tparenting

Interested in his upcoming book launch? Todd is launching his new book "The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI" on November 18th, 2025

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🎉 Season 7 Launch! 🎉 We're kicking off a brand new season of the Families Matter Most podcast—and Jenn is diving straight into a big one: Anxiety in our kids.

From toddlers to teens, anxiety shows up differently in every personality and age. In today's episode, Jenn breaks it down: 💭 What anxiety might really look like (hint: it's not always obvious) 🤝 How you can support your child with confidence and compassion 🚩 When it's time to seek extra help—and how to do it

Whether you're seeing signs of anxiety in your child or just want to be prepared, this episode has something for every parent. You're not alone—and you can help your child feel safe, seen, and supported.

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⚠️ Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of death, domestic violence, substance use, and strong language related to grief. Please listen with care.

In this powerful and deeply vulnerable season closer, we welcome a guest whose story holds the weight of every parent's worst fear. One year ago, Tammy received a call that shattered her world—her daughter had been stabbed to death. What followed was a journey through grief no parent imagines walking.

Tammy joins us to share the unfiltered truth of what it's like to survive the unimaginable. With raw honesty and unshakable courage, she opens up about the moment that changed everything, the dark valleys she's walked through since, and the lifelines that have helped her keep going. From the anger and numbness to the small flickers of healing, Tammy brings us inside her experience—offering hard-earned wisdom, fierce love, and a message every parent needs to hear.

Together, we explore:

• The brutal reality of "that call" and the shock that follows

• What helped Tammy hold on when everything fell apart

• The role of community in grief—how to build one that truly holds you

• How to be a safe place for your kids

• The deep strength of a mother's love, even in unspeakable loss

This episode is tender, gritty, and real. It's a reminder that while we cannot always protect our children from this world, we can be their anchor in it—and find our own healing in the process.

To every parent who has ever feared "the call"—this episode is for you. To those who are living it—you are not alone.

Resources Mentioned in today's episode:

Clare's Law

211- text, call, or use the website in Saskatchewan.

Thank you to Tammy, Linda, and Regina Police Services

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This Mother's Day, we're celebrating YOU—the heart of your home—with something special. In this episode of Families Matter Most, we're gifting you a behind-the-scenes look at one of our favorite sessions from the No More Yelling course. It's a powerful, grace-filled sneak peek that offers real tools to help you respond—not react—when parenting gets hard. If you've ever wished for more patience, more calm, or just a moment to breathe, this one's for you. And as our gift to you this Mother's Day, the full No More Yelling course is 50% off until midnight on Mother's Day.

Let's be honest—anger can feel like the "bad emotion" no one wants to admit they have, especially as a parent. But the truth is, anger is human. It's often a sign that something needs attention: our boundaries, our needs, or even our exhaustion. In this episode, Jenn opens up about her own journey with anger and offers four practical, grace-filled strategies to help you handle those fiery moments with intention instead of shame. You'll learn how to pause before reacting, name what you're feeling, create a physical release, and return with repair—a roadmap that helps you stay grounded and connected, even in the storm. This isn't about being a "perfect" parent. It's about showing up with courage, curiosity, and compassion—for your child, and for yourself.

This is your time to grow, heal, and lead with love—even when voices rise. You're not alone, and you don't have to figure it all out on your own. Let's do this, together.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to all you mama's out there!

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This week, we're honored to spotlight the launch of Shelter Movers Regina, led by the incredible Lisa Williams. As the 11th chapter of Shelter Movers in Canada, this life-saving service is opening a path to safety for women and children fleeing abuse—right here in our community.

Shelter Movers began in Toronto in 2016 with one father, Marc Hull-Jacquin, who was on parental leave when he realized the gap in support for survivors of domestic violence. Since then, it has grown into a national organization, offering free moving and storage so that women don't have to choose between staying in danger or fleeing with nothing.

For moms escaping violence, it's often not as simple as just leaving. Without this kind of help, many are forced to stay—or end up on the streets. Shelter Movers partners with local agencies to create a safe, coordinated exit, helping with logistics like moving dates, pet care, and essential resources.

What makes Shelter Movers different is their focus on dignity and autonomy. They offer secure storage so you can hold onto your children's favorite toys, your family photos, or furniture—your safe items. You might not have a place for them today, but when you're ready, they'll be there.

This episode is a tribute to the brave mothers, women, and families who make the hardest choice—and to the compassionate hands that help carry them forward.

Volunteer, Support or Connect with Shelter Movers: Click Here.

About Lisa Williams:

With her extensive experience in community outreach and deep commitment to supporting survivors of abuse, Lisa Williams is poised to lead the chapter in its mission to offer safe and dignified moving and storage to those in need. When asked about her new role in ensuring the successful launch of Shelter Movers services in Regina, Lisa says:

"Our community needs this service and the agencies that serve folks experiencing family violence are eager for a solution that will help save lives. Leaving a violent home is the worst day of their lives for women, their children and their pets. We support their brave choice to leave. Our unique organization will take care of their belongings and the move during an already stressful transition. I am honoured to bring this option to Regina this summer for families who need a safe moving option."

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"The age I get the MOST phone calls for is seven-year-olds—but do you know what age comes in second? Nine. That's right. Nine-year-olds are often underestimated and misunderstood, and today we're diving deep into why this age is such a turning point."

In this episode, I unpack the beautiful complexity of parenting nine-year-olds—a stage that often sneaks up on us with its big emotions, growing independence, and surprising maturity. At nine, our kids are no longer the little ones tagging behind their toddler siblings, but they're also not quite tweens.

We'll explore:

• Why nine-year-olds really need to feel seen and respected

• How to challenge them in ways that build confidence, not defiance

• What's happening developmentally at this age (spoiler: it's a lot!)

• Common parenting pitfalls—and how to shift our mindset

• Ways to strengthen your bond while still holding structure and boundaries

You'll walk away with practical tools, compassionate insight, and a reminder that this age can be one of the most rewarding stages—if we learn to meet them where they are.

If you've ever thought, "I don't know what happened to my sweet little kid!"—this one's for you.

✨ Let's make nine a year of growth, joy, and deeper connection. Press play.

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HELP! Why Has My Child Suddenly Changed?

Parenting isn't just about keeping up with schedules and snack times—it's about leading with confidence, making quick decisions under pressure, and managing the mental load of home, work, and social life. Sound familiar? These are the same skills top performers in the NFL, FBI, and Fortune 500 companies need to succeed!

In this episode, internationally recognized mental performance coach Gary Chupik shares his Whole Life Excellence philosophy, helping parents develop the mindset of elite athletes and business leaders. Learn how to remove hesitation, trust your gut without guilt, and make confident choices—even in the chaos of parenting.

Can we be humble, well-equipped, and confident enough to thrive under the high-pressure demands of parenting? Absolutely. Tune in and discover the tools to lead your family like a pro!

About Our Guest: Gary Chupik

Gary Chupik is internationally recognized as one of the top mental performance coaches in the world. Gary UNLOCKS performance in professional teams, athletes, business professionals, and those wanting to find their next level in performance. Gary's unique methods and process are unprecedented in the sports and business worlds and brings out the very best in each client.

Gary is an international speaker, writer, Professional Member of the Association of Applied Sport Psychology, Certified Professional Leadership Coach through the ICF (International Coaching Federation), ordained minister of 27 years, and Chaplain of the Seattle Thunderbirds for 7 years. Gary's client list includes players, coaches, and executives from the Houston Texans, Washington Huskies, Idaho Vandals, Stanford University, USA Figure Skating, Seattle Mariners, Limitless Minds (Russell Wilson's company), Houston Texans, National Motocross Association, Crossfit Olympics, and more. He's worked with high-performers in business from Microsoft, the FBI, Amazon, Nick Marietta Real Estate, Thrivent Financial, Boeing, NTT Global, and many more. Gary is a sought after speaker, coach, and consultant.

Contact Gary: www.EliteMindsetNation.com

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Ever feel like you and your partner are playing for different teams when it comes to parenting? Maybe one of you is the Rock—firm, structured, and all about discipline—while the other is the Marshmallow, always giving in to avoid conflict. Or perhaps you're the Tennis Ball- flexible and somewhere in the middle.

In this episode, we're breaking down these three parenting styles and how they shape your family dynamic. When parents approach discipline and expectations differently, it can lead to conflict, confusion, and inconsistent messages for our kids. We'll discuss:

✅ The strengths and challenges of each style. ✅ How to recognize when your parenting differences are causing tension at home. ✅ Why consistency matters? ✅ How to parent as a team—building a strong, lasting relationship while creating clear family expectations.

If you and your spouse have ever felt out of sync in your parenting approach, this episode is for you! Join us as we dive into practical ways to bridge the gap, find balance, and create a home where both structure and connection thrive.

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Parenting in 1985 looked nothing like it does today. We might have even said it was on the verge of neglect- kick the kids outside and don't come back until I say you can. Fast forward to now – we're working longer hours, juggling endless homework, shuttling kids to extracurriculars, and feeling the pressure to be constantly available for our children. The expectations on parents have skyrocketed, but at what cost? Have we swung so far the opposite direction that parent health and neglect are the new issue?

In this week's episode, we explore whether modern parenting is taking a toll on our health. Join us as we uncover how to find the right balance, so parenting doesn't come at the expense of your well-being.

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More Momma Guilt

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Exhaustion, Overwhelm, and Burnout

Welcome back to the Families Matter Most podcast! This week, I have a special guest, Dr. Node, joining me to unpack a topic every mom can relate to—mom guilt. You know that feeling—the stress builds, the pressure mounts, and before we know it, we explode. Then comes the regret, the guilt over everything we just unleashed on our family.

But what if we could catch it before it gets to that point? Dr. Node brings a naturopathic perspective on stress, how our mental messages and physical health play a role, and practical ways to manage it all. Dr. Node shares the triggers to watch for, those 'light bulb' moments that signal we need a reset, and tools to help us navigate stress more effectively.

About Dr. Node:

Node Smith, ND is a board certified naturopathic doctor licensed in both the USA and Canada. He is an expert in stress, anxiety, and finding the underlying causes of disease in a person's life.

Everyone was created for a purpose. Node's purpose is to work with people. Dr. Node has an infectious way about him that inspires people and helps make the types of changes necessary for lasting health somehow easier. He is also a master at helping others overcome obstacles, or turn obstacles into opportunities. He believes in humanity, he believes in health, and he believes in those he works with. He is more than a doctor, he is a counselor and a guide.

Node Smith, ND is a board certified naturopathic physician and director of TEAL Holistic, a health consulting and wellness services firm that serves an international community. He is an expert in behavioral change and is an adept counselor and life coach. He specializes in finding the underlying causes of disease in a person's life, and helping them grow and heal in these areas. Some specific conditions Node has experience in include gastrointestinal complaints, pain disorders, chronic metabolic and endocrine disorders as well as mental illness and addiction and of course, weight loss. Dr. Node has also recently published his newest book, "The Witness and the Four Behaviors: A Kind and Honest Guide to the Art of Self-Healing," which offers a DIY approach to using introspection, and body awareness to heal from physical symptoms as well as stress, trauma and burnout. He does see patients virtually, and can be connected with through the TEAL Holistic Website - www.tealholistic.com.

The Witness & the Four Behaviours book by Dr. Node.

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