Famous at Home

Whether it comes to parenting style, money, sex, or even how we spend the holidays as a family, it’s not uncommon to hold a different point of view than our spouse. But what happens if we sense our spouse go to the opposite extreme on an issue? Is too lenient with the kid’s discipline. Spends more money than we feel comfortable. Desires sex more than we have the energy for. So often, their lop-sided approach (in our mind anyway) creates a reaction in us to go to the opposite extreme on those issues in order to create balance. But when we do, it creates more tension and often a impasse on the issue.



In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about ways to find common ground on these sometimes tense issues in marriage, and use teeter totters as an analogy to describe what happens when we go to the opposite extreme of our spouse.



Here are some highlights:



* When we fail to name our teeter totter (the issue at hand), we end up making our spouse out to be our opponent. * Inching closer to your spouse can be difficult, but it’s when you feel the see-saw begin to shift toward balance again. * Finding a common ground begins by not inferring or judging your spouse's behavior, recognizing you own underlying fears, and initiating a conversation.



Show Notes:



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Google recently found, in a major study of its hiring process, that its top employees possess empathy, emotional intelligence, and emotional safety (at the top of the list). These “soft skills” have now become the basis for what companies desire most in their leaders.



That’s why the environment of emotional safety and the principles of emotional intelligence are the foundation of who we are and what we do with at Famous at Home. In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about why emotional intelligence matters from a young age and how to build emotional intelligence in your kids.



Josh and Christi talk about:



* Why it's important to "dose" your kids instead of "doucing" them when you feel them becoming emotionally distant.* How to begin using emotional vocabulary in your home and why it's important.* How to create an emotional growth environment for your kids.



Show Notes:



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LEARN MORE ABOUT MY KID'S EQ! On-demand courses to help your child manage big feelings in a little body. Each course in KidsEQAcademyTM teaches your kids the life skills they need to develop emotional intelligence.



SIGN UP FOR MARRIAGE AND FAMILY COACHING! We offer a transformative coaching journey to help your family build a rock solid marriage, create healthy rhythms between work and home, and set values that drive how you make decisions.

If we want to be famous at home, we have to take care of ourselves. In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about emotional and spiritual ways to take care of yourself right now, especially in the midst of the fear and overwhelm in this cultural moment.



Josh and Christi talk about:



* Practical ways they have intentionally taken care of themselves the last couple of weeks.* Ways to limit screens or other open doors to fear.* How to recognize the one self-care practice you need right now for your soul.



Show Notes:



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2 TIMOTHY 1:7: For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.



ACTS CHAPTER 4: All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of their possessions was their own.

Life has a way of throwing us curveballs, interruptions in our health, job, or circumstances that force us to slow down or alter our lifestyle. While setbacks aren't that enjoyable at first, they have a way of being perspective-shifting moments that reshape how we live our lives.



Last week we touched on things that wake us up. This week, Bill and Laurie Lokey are back to talk with Josh and Christi about how to get through the things that slow us down.



The Straub's and Lokey's talk about:



* How slowing down forces you to identify areas of your life you took for granted. * What we rob ourselves of when we press the "easy" button. * The power of saying yes to adventure in the midst of being slowed down.



Show Notes:



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LEARN MORE ABOUT BILL AND LAURIE LOKEY! Bill and Laurie share their own stories in vulnerable and relational ways to help others know that being perfect is not what helps. The two of them work together offering encouragement and support through intensives, workshops, trainings, and speaking engagements.

Each of us have experienced a wake up call in some way or another. This could be related to a car accident, a bad health report, losing a loved one, or walking through a divorce. No matter the situation, there is an "in-between" time of living in the unknown.



In this episode, Josh and Christi sit down with their dear friends, Bill and Laurie Lokey to discuss how we can live our life to the fullest even in the middle of the unknown. Coaches for the Leader's Heart Cohort, therapists, speakers, and teachers of faith. Bill and Laurie open up about Bill's current journey with cancer, and the lessons they're learning in the unknown.



Here are some highlights:



* To move forward in our difficulties, we have to stop carrying the keys to doors we no longer live in.* What it looks like to journey with the people in our life in active "withness."* What it looks like to actually trust Jesus in the day-to-day unknowns of our hardship.



Show Notes:



APPLY NOW FOR THE LEADER'S HEART COHORT! Join our year long cohort to connect with like-minded leaders, build healthy work-family rhythms, and lead from a whole heart.



LEARN MORE ABOUT BILL AND LAURIE LOKEY! Bill and Laurie share their own stories in vulnerable and relational ways to help others know that being perfect is not what helps. The two of them work together offering encouragement and support through intensives, workshops, trainings, and speaking engagements.

How can we share the truth of God's Word to our kids in their early years in a way that's enjoyable for them and doesn't cause us to turn gray so soon? This is a question we ask ourselves often and try to navigate in our own home. Why? Because it's inevitable that your kids will get bored when you try to read the Bible to them or want to talk about something else when you want to pray. Welcome to family discipleship :)



In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about the ways they're cultivating a spiritual growth environment for their kids and the lessons they're learning about family discipleship. Here are some highlights:



* The meaning of family discipleship and why we need to prioritize it* How to get creative when your kids feel bored* Why and how our own relationship with God overflows to our kids* The power of inviting your kids into your own spiritual disciplines



Show Notes:



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You make a lot of small decisions throughout the day that dictate the way you lead your family. But what about the big decisions that come along and have the power to alter the entire direction in which your family is going? This could be related to job opportunities, new living situations, or school choice. In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to spiritually lead your family through big decisions, as well as share about a recent experience in doing so.



Josh and Christi discuss:



* How to be emotionally, relationally, and spiritually in tune with your spouse when making big decisions.* How to invite a circle of trusted advisors into your decision process to gain wisdom and accountability.* The power of shifting how you view your decision away from the lens of the here-and-now, and through the lens of eternity.* How family values can help you be more clear and resolute in your decisions.



Show Notes:



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So many families today don't have extended family nearby. How do we face the challenges that come with raising kids when we don't have that family support? On the flip side are the families who get to do life together with extended family in close proximity. But what happens when they get overbearing or it just feels like too much? How do we set boundaries in love? In this episode, to kick off a brand new family series, Josh and Christi discuss these questions and discuss their own journey on these topics.



They talk about:



* What it looks like to build a fence around your family and set family values* Why it's important to communicate your boundaries with your kids* Why seeking out "framily" is necessary when you don't have family support nearby* The power in holding grief and joy at the same time



Show Notes:



APPLY NOW TO THE LEADER'S HEART COHORT! Join our yearlong leadership cohort to connect with like-minded leaders, build healthy work-family rhythms, and lead from a whole heart.



ENROLL TODAY IN YOUR FAMILY PURPOSE! Your Family Purpose is an online family series step-by-step plan to help you create a family of connection, celebration, and purpose.

Working from rest and not for it requires boundaries and margin. When there is no margin, we live in a state of lack. In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to create margin and why it will allow us to live from a heart of abundance.



They talk about:



* The intentionality it requires to create margin* How setting clear boundaries can result in respect* The power of tending our heart before productivity and efficiency* How to get your life back by creating space for rest, quality time with your loved ones, and doing hobbies you love* Why the Leader’s Heart prioritizes margin and how it will give you the guidance you need in setting healthy rhythms 



Show Notes:



ENROLL NOW IN THE LEADER'S HEART COHORT! Join our yearlong leadership cohort to connect with like-minded leaders, build healthy work-family rhythms, and lead from a whole heart.

Being a leader can often feel lonely and exhausting. Rather than leading from a full heart, we lead from an empty one. In trying times, we even question if it's worth it. But listen, you don't have to resign to this journey. We lead others best when we lead from a heart of joy. And that's what this episode is all about--leading from a full heart.



In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about:



* What happens when we're willing to develop the courage of being open to our inner world* Why it's important to surround yourself with other wholehearted leaders* How to find and build trust with other to like-minded people* How to chase your God-given mission from a full heart without losing joy* Why the Leader's Heart is a safe place to develop the tools to become an emotionally healthy leader, focus on your soul, and build healthy relationships



Show Notes:



ENROLL NOW IN THE LEADER'S HEART COHORT! Join our yearlong leadership cohort to connect with like-minded leaders, build healthy work-family rhythms, and lead from a whole heart.



START THE YOUR FAMILY PURPOSE SERIES! Our online family series is a step-by-step plan to help you create a family of connection, celebration, and purpose.



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