Amy sits down today with Kirsten Beske. Kirsten does a deep pivot not matched by many of Amy’s previous guests. Follow how she builds a skill set that allows her to make a big career move that fulfills her and takes her in both new professional and life directions.
Kirsten was a government major at Harvard. She had a real desire to understand how cultures and societies have come to be and what makes them tick. She pursued this field until graduation when she thought about going to law school. Not yet fully committed, she decided to defer studies for a while to get some hands on experience. Fresh out of Harvard, she went to work as a paralegal for a small Boston law firm.
She immensely enjoyed the experience as it introduced her to litigation. Kirsten is a highly competitive individual. She played tennis at Harvard, and she had learned there how much she likes to win. Litigation seemed like a natural choice for her, and so she locked in her intention to go to law school.
Following her time as a paralegal, she took off with a friend for Jackson Hole, Wyoming, for a year. Besides skiing, she waitressed and found a love for nature and the mountains. She applied for law school following her Wyoming adventure and ended up somewhat regretfully heading back east and to city living at Boston University School of Law.
Law school was challenging for Kirsten. As a quick study, she found embracing critical thinking somewhat laborious, but it helped her further clarify her professional goals. She enjoyed the competition of moot court and that too confirmed her desire to be a “hands on” attorney. Eventually her law degree led her to her first position at the large Boston firm of Peabody and Arnold.
For 3 years she had a “dream job” at the elite law office. She had everything she had worked hard for, yet there seemed to be something more she was seeking. When her husband, a corporate attorney, wanted to follow a desirable opportunity in Vermont, Kirsten thought this might be fate moving her toward that something more that had so far eluded her.
Vermont and Massachusetts did not have bar reciprocity, so for their first year in Brattleboro, Vermont, Kirsten made a commute to Springfield, Massachusetts to practice there. Eventually, her husband’s Vermont firm needed a litigator, and Kirsten had gained the needed credentials by then to join him at his firm. Kirsten’s ability to learn quickly kept her in good stead, and she became a partner. Again, she had achieved what would seem to most to be an ideal career. But there was more in store.
This was the point in their lives when Kirsten and her husband decided to begin their family. With typical enthusiasm, Kirsten looked forward to taking on the additional new role, but she was not truly prepared for what was to come. First her daughter was born after a difficult pregnancy and was diagnosed with serious issues at just three weeks old. Caring for a sick infant was exhausting, especially with a work role that demanded so much focus. Kirsten was having trouble managing and was completely overwhelmed when she became pregnant with her son, who was born three months prematurely. He weighed a little over a pound and had complications. It was during the time period following 9/11/01 as well. Thoughts of protecting and nurturing her fragile children in the world after that event pushed her to reframe her thinking. With all she had been through, she had lost her enthusiasm for litigation. Her focus turned more to social justice issues more often at that point.
Her growing questions and concerns sent her in search of a life coach. It was then that she accepted she didn’t have to continue to be an attorney. She received “permission” to move in a different direction to find career fulfillment that was compatible with the attitudes and beliefs she had finally let come to the surface. She formed a plan. It was one that would send her back to school yet another time.
With thoughts of being a psychotherapist, she began a master’s degree program in psychology so she could work one on one with people. She was successful with this, and so she thought she wanted to help others who had faced the desire to make a big career pivot as she had. She began a coaching business while still seeing individual psychotherapy patients. She attained a certificate in positive psychology with its emphasis on helping healthier individuals learn to thrive and “uplevel”. By the time she received her coaching certificate, she had moved from her law career to her practice as a psychotherapist, and then on to mindset coaching. Her business today has two arms: one in which she works with individuals, and the other where she helps businesses create positive work environments. She’s planning to open a third concentration later this year focusing on groups.
Topics in this episode:
- Recognize that discomfort is the first stage of change
- How to decide if making a pivot is feasible
- How to choose and enhance self-discovery
- The need for value clarification and how to go about it
Links:
www.apropositive.com;
https://ww.facebook.com/groups/youbecomingboundless
Kirsten Beske | LinkedIn